When will/did you tell people?

[TeacupTempest]

I know the general rule is 12 weeks but do people stick to that? Tell family a bit earlier?

I told a couple of close friends earlier, as I knew that I would also be confiding in them / looking for their support if anything went wrong in the first 12 weeks. We usually tell family at around 8weeks, but this time we waited til scan was done. I still have uni / school / many other friends to tell (had dating scan over a week ago now) but, because its my 3rd, I kind of feel really nervous this time about telling people. No idea why....I have had 2 previous very quick conceptions & easy pregnancies with no complications at all, & I just can't believe that 3rd time round will be plain sailing again...bit sad of me really. But just tell people when you're ready...and congrats too!

Told family a bit earlier because we don't see them often and wanted to tell them in person- actually it was much earlier as my cycle had been really weird, so we actually told at 5 and 8 weeks instead of the 8 and 11 weeks we thought!

But then didn't tell most 'acquaintances', neighbours, work, etc until 5.5 months when we told our DD (we thought any earlier would be too long for her!)

told parents and in laws at 8 weeks, then told brother in law and family at 12 weeks and left families to tell everyone else.

I am thinking I might tell my mum at 9 weeks as its her birthday.

I told my mum and dad pretty much as soon as I knew - but I'm really close with them and to me it was no different than sharing the news with my DH. Told DH's family at 8 weeks along with a few close friends and everyone else at 12. A couple of friends guessed anyway as I'm normally really social and due to sickness I avoided people!

It's a really individual / personal choice - some people prefer to wait until the scan, I personally felt I wanted support if something went wrong and was also too excited to keep my mouth shut!

We've not told anyone yet and I'm 6+3 - think we'll wait till the first scan

We told both lots of parents at 7 weeks (it was mothers day, and I don't think we'd have been able to keep it to ourselves seeing any of them in person).

Have told one colleague at work - mainly because I was bursting to tell somebody and partly just to have the comfort of somebody at work knowing should something go wrong.

Am telling my brother tomorrow - because I'll see him in person and don't get the chance very often. He's desperate to be an uncle and has always told me he'd kill me if I waited until 12 weeks. But then he'd be the most supportive guy in the world if something went wrong.

After that we're waiting a couple more weeks.