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Overdue now and fed up with "any movement yet" phonecalls, emails, Facebook questions!

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Pootletrinket · 13/04/2011 15:14

I may be being unreasonable, and have been told by one friend to cut others' some slack but am only one day overdue now, have already had phone calls, emails saying the same for over a week and it's now getting on my nerves. And, honestly, how many people will really announce via Facebook that they're going into labour?!!!

But am beginning to tap my toes with impatience now!

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OmicronPersei8 · 13/04/2011 15:23

I'd highly recommend having a facebook status along the lines of 'no baby yet, thank you for giving me space/leaving me alone while I wait out this bit. I'll let you know when the baby's here!' or something to that effect. Feel free to be much more rude to the point, too.

Basically, just tell people to leave you alone. My dad rang 5 times a day until I had DD - and I went 5 days over. DS was two weeks overdue, I think I have blanked the memories of those two weeks out entirely.

SerenaJoy · 13/04/2011 15:25

You're only 1 day overdue! Surely they should be cutting you some slack?! Can you switch your mobile off and hide for a while? I realise that might send everyone into a frenzy of 'is she/isn't she?' but at least you'd have peace for a while.

I'm dreading this - I really don't think I'll cope very well with it. I wish I'd done a Posh and not told anyone my due date but it's too late now.

Hope you've not got too long to wait!

SerenaJoy · 13/04/2011 15:29

Sorry, just realised my first sentence sounded bad - I'm sure one day feels like a lifetime when you're waiting for baby to arrive!

I think you'd be perfectly reasonable to do as Omicron suggests and post something on Facebook to fend people off.

StickThemWithThePointyEnd · 13/04/2011 16:07

I'm 38+6 and have been getting these messages for the last few days.. I stopped replying to them yesterday because I had enough, but they don't seem to be getting the message.
So I posted this on facebook:

" haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com This. But thanks for asking." I've also stopped checking my phone, if someone needs something urgently they are going to call my landline or leave me a message....

UrsulaBuffay · 13/04/2011 16:10

Lol @ Ivy, that site is great. I went to 40+12 so you might have to ride it out and/or tell em to stfu!

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Pootletrinket · 13/04/2011 16:22

Problem is, they're all calling landline, not mobile. Have ignored several calls from MIL today (I'm sure I must be being bitchy, but her son and I have been together for 15 years, the only time she's EVER phoned to talk to me is when I've been pregnant!) but I LOVE that site.

Can ignore facebook, but might resort to that kind of post if I need to!!

Thanks - I hope it's not that long to wait, too, not least because I'm ready for this baby to come out now (and stop growing, although my appetite has shown no signs of reducing!)

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trixie123 · 13/04/2011 16:23

i agree, do status update on Fb and ignore all other enquiries.....

KatieWatie · 13/04/2011 17:29

I'll learn lessons from your experience (and others who've said similar things). I've done my 'announcement' and now I'm mentioning NOTHING else baby-related on Facebook until well after it is born, by which time they'll have all forgotten I was even having one (hopefully!)

I'll store Ivy's site in my favourites folder just in case though!

MmeSurvivedLent · 13/04/2011 17:32

I learned my lesson and when second child was due, I told everyone I was due a week later than my actual due date.

Agree, post a message on FB. And if MIL annoys you too much, turn on answering machine and screen your calls.

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Pootletrinket · 13/04/2011 17:40

LOL, definitely screening calls (will mean I get "mum tried to ring you today" from DH, but as he avoids them as much, we'll cope!)

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EauRouge · 13/04/2011 17:55

Yes, either put a status update on FB or send a private message to your nosiest correspondences telling them that you had the baby a week ago and hadn't you mentioned it, then suspend your account until after the baby arrives- it drives them nuts

Change your voicemail message to 'either I haven't had the baby yet or I have and you are quite far down on our list of people to tell- you decide!'

Make your DH screen calls and give him a list of people you will speak to. Everyone else is told you are in the bath or asleep.

One of my friends suggested sending a fake link to all your friends called something like www.pootletrinketscervixcam.com and tell them that since they are so interested you've installed a webcam so they can watch as you dilate. You won't hear from them for a while.

If there is a second time, lie through your teeth about your due date! I forgot to do this

Good luck, hope things get moving for you soon.

mpops · 13/04/2011 18:02

Aww, I feel bad now because when my friend was overdue a few weeks back I texted her a couple of times within the space of a week to see how she was doing. I must have been really annoying! But I was only doing it to see how she was getting on because I was thinking of her. Gah. Anyway, she seems to be speaking to me so not all is lost.

Hope your baby arrives soon!

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Pootletrinket · 13/04/2011 18:44

Thanks both!

Eau had a good laugh at some of your suggestions!

mpopsI don't mind "how are you feeling" type enquiries, its the "any movement/news/feelings yet" ones! And once baby is here, I won't care anymore.

The problem is, have only told a select few the date, but as one of them is dropping everything to come and look after DD and has rearranged her work, husband etc, feel I can't really complain about her putting "so excited...etc" and then other, mutual friends twigging, posting on my wall and there the avalanche continues!!!!

Hey ho, like the idea of suspending the account!!!

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StickThemWithThePointyEnd · 13/04/2011 19:10

mpops I have to second Pootle in saying that I don't mind the "how are you feeling" - it's the "are you still preggers" that gets on my nerves (not just because I HATE the word preggers..)

One of the shopowners in our village looked at me up and down yesterday and asked "so, have you had hat baby then?" yes, and these are all pies. cowbag.

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Pootletrinket · 13/04/2011 19:47

with DC1, I did rip off next door neighbour's head as I waddled back into the house, after being told had to be induced that evening (aspirations of home birth, water birth, everything gone) and he looked me up and down and said "haven't you had that baby yet?" - I growled back at him "does it look like I've had the baby?" - he whimpered, "I don't know, that's why I askd" - wouldn't mind but his daughter had recently had one, so he clearly knew the difference!

Anyhoo, left DH in my wake stuttering some kind of apology!!!!!

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harrygracejessica · 13/04/2011 21:03

I got my date at hospital today for my c-sec and everyone has asked mw when it is so I've posted by the 28 th April I will have my twins, this isn't the real date just incase something goes wrong and it changes - it would come forwards not back :)

Kerri1983 · 13/04/2011 21:30

UrsulaBuffay - Snap, I was 40+12 and I would be constantly getting messages all the time from my due date!!

I did get fed up of all the messages and phone calls and agreed with my OH that we would switch our phones off for a while, OMG that was wrong of us to do as mothers were ringing round the houses looking for us, lol!!!

It is really annoying and if I am in the same position this time round (fingers crossed I go before or just on my due date) I am going to tell parents I will tell them when anything happens and please don't ask!!! I will be putting a status on FB to the same effect!!!

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