desperate for no.3 ...........

[CarlyP]

I cannot stop thinknig about it. have 2 ds aged 11mth and 22mth. horrendous pregs with both of them and for some reason i want another one so badly.

h not so convinced.

anyone felt the same? what did u do? does no.3 have a HUGE impact?

Cx

Am pregnant w/no. 2 and if DH weren't getting the snip, I'd ask to be sterilised asap. I LOATHE being pregnant.

Good luck to you!

we have def agreed that dh will get the snip. day after no.3 is born (if we ever get that far!)

cx

CarlyP. Am with you. Am currently pregnant with (fingers crossed and loads of sticky dust please cos only 11 + 3) number 3. DH and I went through a lot to get here as he adamently didn't want another. Eventually I asked him to go to relate (we didn't). I explained that whilst having another might put too much strain on our marriage, not having another would DEFINITELY put too much strain on our marriage as I would never be able to forgive him. We talked loads and loads and loads and despite practically coming out of the labour ward stating that I wanted another dd2 is now 2yrs 2 months and its taken me this long to persaude him. I'm glad I've chosen to persaude him rather than do a sneaky as I feel better about myself. At one point he threatened to have the snip and not tell me at which point I told him not to bother coming home from the operation as he would no longer have a wife! On the upside he spent all of dd2's pregnancy resenting the fact that we were going from 1 child to two. I say upside cos he now absolutely adores her but is of course starting the resentment comments about the little one inside so I now respond by saying "you felt the same about dd2 but you wouldn't be without her now".

Stick with it Carlyp, it was bloody hard work but I'm glad I persuaded him rather than do a sneaky. I want us to raise our children together i.e. accept joint responsibility etc.

Originally though I'd wanted 4. After 2 miscarriages and the fight I've had to go through with dh for number 3 and we're not there yet! and the emotional turmoil of hoping this one is ok I'm not sure where I'd fine the character strength to go for number 4. But who knows - as i said I've yet to get to 3.

my god, u could be us!!!!

dh felt the smae with ds2. he adores him now of course and i know he would be the same with 3.

fingers crossed for you, im sure your little beanie is growing nicely.

thanks so much for your support.

cx