5 weeks & bleeding, what do i do??

[Vix1980]

Sorry if this is natural i just really dont know wha to do, about as much as the first sign you get when your periof is due, i know it can happen but what do you do when it does, do i just ignore it as 1 of those things that can happen or what, starting to panic!! x

Laura - Im really sorry and totally feel for you, i know what its like, when is your scan booked in for, was it thursday? I hope your taking care of yourself, having a drink sounds fine, have 1 for me too, i'll probably be joining you later on anyway! Is there anyway you could just go out for the day with your partner to take your mind of things, i was planning on moping around all day saturday just gone but he made me go out in the sunshine and it really did ease things for me and get me some clarity on everything, even just a long walk somewhere put things in perspective, otherwise id of been sat on the couch crying with nothing else to think about.

I started bleeding on thursday only really light and it has continued that way since,nothing heavy, literally only enough for pantyliners, it stopped around sunday, but then so did all my symptoms too, although everyone has tried to tell me it will be ok, it will but not the way they hope and im accepting it more and more each day, today will just be a formality for me. still cant wait for it to be over though so i know for sure xx
p.s. thankyou for all your messages of support, they really mean a lot xx

Good luck Vix, hope it goes well for you today.
I am so sorry to hear that Laura. I am sending lots of hugs and nice thoughts your wayx

Sorry to hear your sad new Laura

But to the others, Laura is right, there are plenty of stories on here of people who have beautiful children after bleeding, so stay positive! FX for you with scans xx

As i suspected the scan revealed today there is no baby, i knew anyway but having the confirmation still hurts, id bought baby clothes already and feel absolutely stupid returning them less than a week later.

they took blood and i have to return on friday to have more taken as they think it may have grown outside of the womb, surely id be in pain if this had happened, as it is i dont feel absolutely anything at all, just really numb which i guess is normal. I feel pathetic, i cant even cry i literally have no tears left, Having the total week from hell! xxx

Oh Vix, I've been following your thread and wanted to let you know that I am so sorry for the news you got today. I wanted to let you know that even though we don't know each other that I am thinking about you tonight. I know that nothing I can say will take the hurt you are feeling away, but i wanted to send you a big hug instead.

Really really sorry to hear that Vix. I know I can't say anything that will help, but I hope that you are ok and I am sending a big virtual hug your way

Vix I'm so sorry to hear that. Look after yourself and take it really easy and ring the hospital if you have any questions or are concerned about the bleeding etc.

I promise you it does get better. The same thing happened to me at 10 weeks last year, and I found the MC boards on mumsnet were really supportive. IT's normal to feel numb, it's all part of the grieving process, but gradually it kind of becomes part of your history and isn't so painful.

Forget about returning the clothes, that will be a really difficult thing to do. There is no reason you won't get your baby at some point in the future.

Am36butfeel66 , Pink 13, cattleprod -Thankyou for all your messages, thats really sweet of you and i do appreciate it, i know in time ill be ok, i honestly thought id got my head around it and today would be closure but instead i just feel so empty like its all over now, so what do i do now, i just had a plan to get today out of the way and didnt really think about what next if that makes sense!
to make matters worse on the way home from hospital i managed to leave my handbag with a stupid metal lock on the front, rested on the dashboard passengers side, after going over a pot hole its put a huge crack in the corner on the windscreen! as if things couldnt get any worse! xx thanks again for being there and listening to xx

I am so sorry Vix!
Be kind to yourself and take some time out. I hope you feel better soon and that next time your bean sticks.

Re the windscreen, are you comp insured? If so you can get it fixed for "free"
xx

Ah Vix, sorry to hear that, even if you had guessed it yourself it's still a bit of a blow. Hope has a habit of lurking around even when you're pretty sure it's hopeless and having that last little bit dashed can be really painful. :(
Bugger re the windscreen as well. Sod's law in action there.

I wouldn't rush around returning clothes at this stage either - give yourself some time to get over this disappointment and as Cattleprod says, you might need them again soon enough.

Be kind to yourself, get some time on your own when you can really let your emotions go and take it easy.

Hello Vix,

I am so sorry as I really was hoping that you would have had some good news. I spent a large amount of yesterday in tears on my own which really helped - I had cried before but I had been really trying to hold it in for other people. The release really helped me.

I wouldn't worry about returning the clothes now as that could be incredibly upsetting. I didn't buy any clothes but lots of books etc. What I am planning to do (when i get some motivation) is to put it all in a box and hide it at the back of the cupboard till I need it again.

Sending you lots of hugs. x x

I'm so sorry to hear your news Vix and Laura. I hope everything works out for you next time.

Hellooo!

Strangely enough the books id ordered came from amazon this morning, instead of being upset i find them really comforting to read, but once ive done with that they will be going away, after seeing the doctor too she has reassured me the important thing is that i can get pregnant, just need it to stick and shes given me tons of folic acid to start taking now, having a month off then getting back down to business! i really hope to be back on here again soon with different news! thanks for all the support, and laura, so sorry to think of you crying but it makes me feel heaps better, i hope things sort themselves out for you, I know you'll be fine in time, if you need to talk please just get in touch xxtake care x

Laura and Vix - if/ when you feel ready for it, drop by this thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1179747-Just-MC-and-ready-to-try-again-Pack-your-cake-wine-and-tightie-whities-and-join-us-for-more-ranting-weeping-and-most-of-all-laughing-All-welcome-Part-15 - lots of us on there in similar situation. Very supportive.

Well done vix, we'll look forward to hearing an announcement from you in a few months time! So sorry that you've been through this xxx

Hi ladies
Had scan today and it was bad news too. I lost the baby (and then had to spend the day being polite to my in laws, who didn't know about any of it). Feeling kind of relieved that at least I know now. Thanks for all the support on here, it has helped to know I wasn't the only person going through this x
same as you vix - a month off, and then back on the ttc bus. look after yourselves ladies

Awww pink, sorry to hear that and well done for managing to hold it together in front of the ILs.
My poor MIL finds out about mine the day they happen because, with the first one, DH had to leave me at the hospital to take DS home and I had a bit of a meltdown and called her (she was a nurse at work that day) and the second one she took me into the hospital and then took DS home for me and looked after him until I got back because DH had a business colleague who had made a 3h train trip that morning specifically to see him so couldn't really brush him off.

The hospital here gave me a "fact" sheet about bleeding in pg - I was quite that they had included this "fact" - if you start bleeding in pg, there is a 1 in 2 chance that you will lose the pg. Not an ideal fact to give someone who has just started bleeding, I wouldn't have thought (hence why I didn't mention it earlier) - I mean it might be true, who knows, but it's bloody insensitive! Brutal reality check. I have only put it here now because I think everyone has had their outcomes by now, haven't they? :(

I wasn't going to post my story on this thread until now because I didn't want to tempt fate (it's amazing how superstitious early preg after miscarriage makes you) but Vix when you posted this thread I was going through a very similar thing to you.

As I said on previous posts I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks towards the end of last year, and had to have an erpc operation as it didn't clear naturally. We started ttc in jan, but when I had some strange mid cycle bleeding I assumed it was another mc, went to the hospital for a scan where it turned out I was nearly 6 weeks preg. I have had four big bleeds - the first was exactly the same length and heaviness as a period (hence I didn't know I was preg), one 'gush' with clots that made me panic, and two smaller bleeds that only lasted a day. Plus continuous spotting in between. Of course you assume the worst so it has been a very stressful few weeks.

I had my 12 week scan yesterday and thankfully all looks ok, although I know I still have a long way to go. I hope you don't think I'm being insensitive or 'gloating' in light of the fact that sadly everyone seems to have had awful news . I wish it had been good news for you too. But I just wanted to make the point that even if you have had a miscarriage, or you do have bleeding in early pregnancy, it doesn't mean that things won't turn out ok. I hope that gives you hope for the future.

Hi, i dont think your gloating at all and im really pleased for you, obv a teeny bit jealous that your ahead of me! ha ha but no its lovely to hear stories that give a bit of hope, after something so bad when you probably didnt think you could get through it, but realy its made you a lot stronger and able to cope more today i couldnt be happier that youve finally got the outcome you wanted and deserve too!!
Pink- Im really realy sorry to hear your news, i really wanted 1 of us/either of us in fact to have a happy outcome, just put it down to bad luck, look after yourself and get ready to start again fresh and new and most importantly keep in touch and lets celebrate when we get our bfp's next time xxx

Hello, (Changed my name to LIG vas decided that it was easier when I did got through bad phases then anyone on mumsnet who knows me wouldn't see.)

Cattleprod - congratulations - it is good to hear that there is a chance when bleeding that it can be ok. I know that I wouldn't want anyone else to go through what I am going through and so it is good to get good news.

Pink, I am so sorry and hopefully we can support each other when we start TTC again.

In a way the bleeding helped me to prepare for the worst at the scan. I imagine it must be much worse to think everything is fine at a 12 week scan and then find out it isn't. I think the 1 in 2 statistic maybe helps people prepare for the worst and then some people are luckily to have good news!

Been chatting to people on a thread on miscarriage - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/1184740-How-are-you-feeling-after-MC. I guess not really talking too much but more listening but they are nuts and even had me snorting out loud on the train on the way home from meeting up with a friend. This may help whilst we wait to get on the thumbwitches TTC thread?

x x

Hi all,

I was wondering if anyone could help! I am 5 weeks pregnant and experienced some dark brown spotting when wiping. This then turned bright red on the same day again only when wiping (once) and went back to dark spotting. There has been no clots. This started on Tuesday and is very minimal now. I have called the hospital help line and that have said wait it out to see if it turns out to be a baby and or misscarriage. They said to do another pregnancy test 7 days after the bleeding has stopped. I mean it’s driving me mad! I have very little cramping. Has anyone else been through this?