Pregnant by accident, how to tell him?

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I found out last week that I am pg, am now 6 weeks. I don't live with the dad, we've only been seeing each other properly for 3 months (although we've been friends for 2 years). Apart from all the stuff about how will I manage etc since we don't live together, how the hell do I tell him? I'm really worried about it.......

Probably best to just do it - very openly and honestly. Was this an accident or something you knew could happen. I guess he will have questions.

Will be a real test to the relationship but if you want it to have a chance of surviving you need to be open, honest and communicative as soon as possible.

Good luck, don't worry!!

And congratulations!!

Definite accident! Hence why I haven't just blurted it out, needed a little time to think about it. Prior to this I was with someone for 10 years, doing exactly the same as with him and this never happened, never even had a scare before! He has a daughter from a previous relationship, but she's grown up now. This is so hard, I just don't know what to do for the best!

Oh, poor you, I really feel for you - telling the boyfriend of 6 months I was pregnant counts as one of the hardest things I have ever done. I took the test at 4am and told him when he woke up though (he happened to be staying that night, luckily), I couldn't keep it hidden and I think I would have gone crazy if I had had to wait.

Funnily enough he was just relieved I wasn't finishing with him, as he guessed it was something big, then rather chuffed at his fertility! I miscarried that pregnancy but he was so amazing about it all and we had some really good talks about our future, that we went straight from being in a relatively new relationship to me knowing for certain that he was 'the one' (although I think he was a bit behind me on that!). We were very lucky though that it came at the right time for both of us. He is now my DH.

If that pregnancy had gone ahead, I realise now (since we have had our DS, who was born 2 years to the day (and hour!) from that pregnancy test) that it would have been a massive test of our relationship and probably very hard. However although you have only been with your boyfriend for 3 months, you do have the benefit of having been friends for 2 years. No matter how your relationship develops, hopefully that friendship will help you get through whatever you need to get through.

Good luck!!!!!

I literally just blurted it out to my OH, we were in the car just leaving my mums where I had ran upstairs and done the test!! We were in a very very new relationship and discussed all the options but for us we decided to keep spud and are still together 5 years later (with more kids now!) def makes or breaks but be open and honest about what you want, what if you split upetc etc

Have you told him yet? X