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When to try again after miscarriage?

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Roxanne123 · 04/04/2011 12:15

Hi everyone.. i had a miscarriage about a week ago and would really like to try again straight away.. just wondering if anyone has done the same thing and how long it can take to get pregnant again? xx

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LadyGoneGaga · 04/04/2011 12:18

Sorry to hear about your miscarriage, Roxanne.

I was advised to wait until I had a period before trying again as makes dating easier. But I ignored them as have irregular periods anyway and was charting. But I didn't get pregnant that first cycle and it was a bit weird anyway (v short luteal phase). But I got pregnant the next cycle - the first "proper" one and am now 24 weeks. So it can happen quite quickly.

Good luck xx

thelizard · 04/04/2011 12:23

I have done this twice, first time we waited 3 months and conceived almost straightaway. Second time midwife suggested that if we felt ok, we could start trying straightaway, as supposedly you are more fertile the month after. We tried for a couple of months and were lucky to fall pregnant fairly soon again. They said to take prenatal vitamins straightaway and be very kind to yourself, lots of sleep etc and eat well etc.

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thelizard · 04/04/2011 12:24

We were told the wait till you have a period thing by docs, but midwives said to start straightaway as they can always tell from a scan anyway. Definitely can happen quickly. Best of luck!

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Roxanne123 · 04/04/2011 12:25

Thank you so much for your reply LadyGoneGaga its so lovely to hear a healthy pregnancy after m/c .. i feel if i wait and dwell on things it will bring me down which is the last thing i want to happen.

thank you xxx

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Roxanne123 · 04/04/2011 12:28

thelizard thanks for your comments.. it gives me great hope seeing replies like this.. i have carried on as normal taking prenatal vitamins and not drinking alcohol/caffine things like that ... really hoping its 3rd time lucky for me xx

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LadyGoneGaga · 04/04/2011 12:37

I think it feels better thinking you are "doing something" proactive rather than sitting around waiting and feeling sad. I took lots of supplements, went to see and acupuncturist and nutritionist, charted, used OPK's, avoided alcohol and caffeine. I also took low dose aspirin once I got pregnant. All this helped me feel like I was doing everything possible to succeed. Fingers crossed you are back here with a BFP and a sticky bean very soon x

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Roxanne123 · 04/04/2011 12:41

Its so great knowing someone knows exactlly how i feel!! i was worried incase i sounded really heartless but at the end of the day everything happens for a reason and what happened can not be helped or changed!
I am definatly going to start trying again straight away!!
Thanks so much xx

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going · 04/04/2011 12:42

I tried again straight away after my last mc. I was pregnant after one period as DP was away when I was fertile before my first period. The pregnany went well but it did seem very long as it was so soon after my mc.

bessie26 · 04/04/2011 12:46

After my first MC I was told to wait until I'd had a period for dating purposes (but ignored them coz i chart). After my second they said it didn't matter! I didn't ovulate on my first cycle, but got pg again on my third cycle & am now 38wks!

Good Luck!

starkadder · 04/04/2011 12:49

Hi there

My DS was conceived the cycle straight after a MC - I also had a very irregular cycle so was not really sold on the "it's easier to date it if you wait" thing.

Also, I've had 4 MCs (2 before DS and 2 since) and so I always think - perhaps the fact that I'd been pregnant, and taking loads of folic acid, vitamins, not drinking etc the weeks before with the MC helped the subsequent one work out. I don't know..that might be complete nonsense..but anyway, it did work and he is a smily little 3 yr old now :)

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Roxanne123 · 04/04/2011 12:56

Thank you so much for all the comments.. all giving me great hope that my next will be successful! going to carry on the healthy 'pregnancy' lifestyle as normal and hope for the best :) i only bled for 2 days when m/c which was a week today.. anyone have any idea when ovulation is after m/c? would it just be as normal? (around 14 days after) xx

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girlfromdownsouth · 04/04/2011 13:02

Roxanne the day after my m/c I couldn't wait for it all to be over, to be out of the hospital and to be trying again. I just wanted it all behind me and to be looking forward again. We started trying again immediately and I just carried on doing all the things I was before - vitamins, folic acid, no caffiene, no alcohol etc. etc. I had the m/c in Nov and was pregnant in March, so had 3 periods inbetween.

I was terrified and wouldn't really believe things would be ok till after the 20wk scan. Still I wouldn't buy anything for baby till I was 7.5mth pg. Those feelings are quite normal. Good Luck

Beesok · 04/04/2011 13:16

Roxanne sorry to hear that you are going through this and as others said above pls take care of yourself - plenty of rest etc.

I had the same in Nov and we were told to wait a cycle as per most people above and because we had planned a holiday and I wanted to just chill out a bit and enjoy it including coffees and eating sushi etc we waited a cycle and then got pregnant straight away, am now 11 weeks waiting anxiously for my 12wk scan but had an early one at 9 wks which showed that all is OK!

I think you should go with your instincts and do what is right for you both, if you feel like you want to try straight away then go for it! All the best :)

jasmine51 · 04/04/2011 13:43

Roxanne sorry to hear about your mc.
I had 4 mcs in fairly quick succession and was told to give myself a 'rest' for 6 months (I didnt feel I really needed a rest to be honest) I was 42 and as DH is rarely in this country our opportuntiies are very restricted so we didnt wait. Got pg again straight away and rather sheepishly told the consultant at the miscarriage clinic - he immediately sent me away to the pharmacy to get the drugs that could help my condition and I am now happily 30 wks - my bean is obviously determined to be 'the one'!

As everyone else has said, if you feel ready then go for it. Your cycle may or may not be a bit messed up (mine was and I had a prolonged bleed at 6 wks). Use the ovulation sticks to identify what might be a slightly early to late ovulation. Then you might have a bit more of an anxious time than most...but I say do it. All the best x

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Roxanne123 · 04/04/2011 13:56

Thank you so much for the support from you all!! This whole experience would have been so much harder without the support of people on this site.. who would have thought a website could make me feel so positive!!

xxx

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going · 04/04/2011 14:18

Roxanne123I was fertile 2 weeks after mc and had a period two weeks after that, my cycles went straight back to normal and that was after a md trimester mc.

Good luck!!!

mslucy · 04/04/2011 16:18

now 35 weeks with a baby conceived 2 weeks after m/c.
I lost one baby just before my 40th and conceived this one just after - prior to that it took me 2 years to conceive DS2.

I think it's fine to just get on with it, but don't get upset if it doesn't happen asap - the human body is a law unto itself and fertility in particular can be very random.

I m/c'd before DS1 and it took about 5 months before I was pg again - seemed like an eternity but in reality not very long at all.

Just have lots of sex, enjoy life and try not to fixate on becoming pg and it will happen before you know it.

KatieWatie · 04/04/2011 16:23

Hi Roxanne,
Sorry to hear your news. I had a MC beginning of Dec, was going to wait til my next period but hey it was Xmas.... Fell pregnant straightaway.

The only disadvantage (if you can call it one) is not knowing exact date of ovulation/conception i.e. whether it was late December or sometime in Jan, because my body was not back on track. Various people measured my baby at various lengths at the scan. But it's a small price to pay!

Good luck :)

nurse47 · 04/04/2011 20:23

Hi roxanne,
When I had my first MC I waited three cycles as I was told and gor pg straight away, I now have a very healthy 2 year-old, I MC again in nov waited one cycle and got pregnant in the january, I'm now 14 weeks and fingers crossed all seems well. You are not being heartless as there is no set time to try again I'd say only when you are emotionally ready. Both my MC ended in ERCP so I wanted to wait at least one cycle to allow my body to get back to normal.
Fingers crossed you will not be waiting long for your BFP! X

Beesok · 04/04/2011 21:02

Nurse47 how are you? So happy to hear of your news :)

Roxanne I found that the MC forum on Mumsnet really helped me in those first few weeks - honestly sometimes you need to vent and this is a great and supportive environment with people who have had similar experiences so can totally relate and are not judgemental at all!

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