Obsessed by miscarriage

[Folicacid]

Please please will one you you slap me and talk some sense into me.

I've been googling for well over an hour all about miscarriage, why oh why am I doing this? We saw a heartbeat on scan at 6 weeks, and got such reassurance from that but I keep finding posts on various forums from women who saw a heartbeat then went back for scan weeks later and fetus had died.

WHY AM I DOING THIS? Now I'm sick to stomach. I've been feeling better in the past week- symptoms have lessened- not having to go to sleep at 9pm etc. Still queasy though. And now I'm freaking out that lessening of symptoms means miscarriage as yet again I can find lots of posts online from women where symptoms dropped off and then miscarriage.

Anyone else gripped by this madness? I do not know why I am doing this.

9+2 today.

Hey all,

Well it's great news- scan this morning and all is well. We are so relieved.

I found myself this afternoon starting to worry again though, but a voice in head say STOP, JUST ENJOY IT. So, I'm really going to get a grip.

Really to all of you who have replied to me, thank you so much, it is great to know I am not the only one in the grip of madness at times.

That's brilliant news Folic!

Yay so happy for you!

ah big hugs hun - I was just like that and still am when I think about trying for #2. Its so much worry isn't it? I found it helped to take a little break from the internet (forums included) for a few weeks before my 20 week scan. It can feel like MC and Stillbirths are a regular everyday occurance, but I tried to keep in mind that thousands of people are on such sites and those who have had a loss are drawn to the support - so it may seem more prolific than it is. I wont tell you to stop worrying because that is impossilbe, just try to keep it in check.

Best of luck to you and your little one.

Yay for Folic! So pleased for you pet.
Don't worry about the crazy thing. You've got another 30 wks of crazy to do yet...

Folic I am 23 weeks tomorrow and still entirely without a grip. I can feel the baby moving right now and I am still bricking it that something is going to go wrong. You are not alone.

molly i think you are right, a break away from forums and internet perhaps needed at this point. I'm back to worrying again. ARGH.

Honestly folic you just need to step away from the computer - well, except Mumsnet :) - just don't read the mc forums. I found the first 12 weeks to be like 12 months. It does, I promise, get easier. But it is only natural to fret, just don't let it take over your life.
Just post on here with whatever you're worrying about, we'll keep you right x

Hi Folic, I could have written your post, in my last pg (after a previous MC at 6 weeks) I literally phoned the local EPU once a week asking if I could come in for a scan till at eight weeks they told me to stop it and that was the last time they would scan me! This is how mental I was - I then found another hospital on the other side of town and phoned them asking them to scan me! Ended up having to wait all day in their A & E for a scan that you could hardly see so it wasn't worth it.

All was fine in the end and DD was born well and healthy, but I have to say that all that scanning and worry did my emotional health no good. This time I am 6 + 2 and determined to stay calm and rational and stay away from google (though I did a quick search the other day, I couldn't resist). I tell myself that a healthy baby is the norm, not a miscarriage. But it is hard to stay calm sometimes.