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Nearly 40 weeks and just want to cry

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Cyclebump · 02/04/2011 09:06

Am 39+5 today with DC1.

Flat is a huge mess (building work that has run over), I have no oven, the baby's room has the fridge in it and the changing table is covered in tools. Am exhausted from BHs keeping me up for the past four nights and my SZpD has suddenly gone bad again.

Just want to curl up on the sofa and cry all day.

Don't want DP to realise how upset I am as he's doing his best to get the flat done and he's worried enough about me as it is.

Is it normal to get a bit overwhelmed by it all at times?

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MillsAndDoom · 02/04/2011 09:08

Totally overwhelmed even without all the stress you are facing at home.

Don't worry about the baby's room - they'll probably be in with you for the first few weeks anyway.

Call in any favours taht you can to get people to help out tidy up to make you feel better - you must do no work just rest and take things easy

MillsAndDoom · 02/04/2011 09:09

Totally normal to feel overwhelmed - sorry

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Cyclebump · 02/04/2011 09:09

SPD I mean...

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Albrecht · 02/04/2011 09:11

yes definately normal ime.

I would say its time to call in any favours to get your place sorted as your baby could be here any minute. Go somewhere comfortable - family/ friends place and let them get on with it, while you try and relax.

Albrecht · 02/04/2011 09:13

x post!

Don't be shy get dp to call everyone.

jasmine51 · 02/04/2011 09:15

Absolutely cycle you have every right to feel totally overwhelmed and if you want a good cry then do it. I have builders here too and I have every sympathy with the mess and disruption - even just having them in the vicinity feels stressful...like they are invading my private space and routines. And being so close to D day I'm not surprised you are about to explode as that of course hold a huge amount of worry and stress.
Before you do explode, have a word with DH and explain that you need to have a blow up, that its not a personal thing and you know hes doing everything he can but you need to get it out of your system whether its rational or not - then go and cry as much as you want.
You have have every sympathy from me and to hold on to your sanity up to now makes you a hero in my eyes...now go and look after yourself xx

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Cyclebump · 02/04/2011 09:19

I already feel better! Have cancelled morning plans to go out and am curled up on sofa with the cat. Screw the washing up, my mum keeps offering to help and I see now I'm being silly not to take her up on it.

Thanks everyone, I'm known as the person who copes among family and friends, maybe I'm trying to do too much.

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MillsAndDoom · 02/04/2011 09:25

You must let your Mum help - as a mother of a DD - I would be distraught if my DD felt like this and kept declining my offers to help - let her come round with cake and helpers and get stuck in while you watch from the sofa.

Glad you're feeling a bit better

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Cyclebump · 02/04/2011 09:32

I've never had to ask for help before (normally I just live with the mess) but you're right, mum would be so upset if she knew how upset I was.

Partly I think I feel guilty for feeling so depressed, I've always wanted children and am so excited baby is nearly here but it's ruined by knowing the flat isn't ready for him. At least all his clothes and bedding are clean.

Anyhoo, no wallowing in despair. I think I'll have a bath and a cup of tea instead, crying always makes me dehydrated!

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JenAT · 02/04/2011 09:43

Cycle have a big hug from a fellow due date buddy and April antenatal thread poster.

Poor you. Not surprised you are feeling overwhelmed. Have a good old sob, it always makes me feel better. I think we have this instinctive want to have everything sorted before the baby arrives, and I totally understand how frustrating it is to feel like the house is a tip. I suggest you lounge on the sofa and have a hot cup of tea and let your Mum look after you today. All baby will need is you really over the first few weeks.

Everything seems so much more overwhelming when you are tired too. If its any consolation I am getting v little sleep too. I have to get up to wee every hour or less (I have absolutely no idea where all this wee is coming from as I'm not drinking loads of fluid), plus my strained ribs/side has flared up again, so ended up taking codeine at 4am. I feel lucky I'm not really getting painful Braxton Hicks (well not getting any really which is not a good sign from the point of view of this baby arriving in the next few days!)

Lets try and think of the finish line, and focus on the prize at the end (a squishy cuddly little baby).

SnapFrakkleAndPop · 02/04/2011 10:00

Big April hugs coming your way as well. I think it is normal to feel overwhelmed and you must accept help, although I totally understand that you don't want to because I don't either and even asking to borrow the neighbours Hoover because ours is up the spout was a mission!

But you are practically popping and have SPD and people are offering so take them up on it!

Joannezipan · 02/04/2011 10:22

Could you get your DP to organise a working party? Get all your best people over to finish off, clear up and clean ready for the baby. You can sit in the middle of all of it like a queen bee supervising the action. Your friends and family are probably dying to help you out and look after you a bit. I'm only 29 weeks and i'm not being shy about calling in the favours. It will go around and they will need me one day!

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Cyclebump · 02/04/2011 10:36

I think I'm so upset because yesterday I was out all day so that DP could bring in the boys and get a load of stuff finished.but he's taken over my dad's business and they're so busy he wasn't here to supervise and loads of stuff didn't get done. Plus I had BHs lad night that were so bad I thought baby was coming. All I could think was not yet!

I didn't want to post my distress on the April thread because I feel like I'm being a total wimp. Some of the ladies there have a lot more to deal with than me and with less help. Mum is at my grandparents' today but she has put her foot down and said when the time comes she will hijack my house key to ensure the house is immaculate for my return from hospital.

She's so amazing, and now I'm crying again. Eugh, babies are amazing but pregnancy sucks!

Thanks so much for the support, it really does help

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JenAT · 02/04/2011 11:18

But Cycle that's what the April thread is all about, chat, laughs but also a chance to off load and whinge/moan etc. I certainly don't think you are being a wimp
I agree with Joannezipan good idea.

SnapFrakkleAndPop · 02/04/2011 11:59

I agree with Jen. And uou have no kitchen which is pretty rubbish by anyone's standards anyway. It doesn't matter what everyone else seems to have to deal with - you're you and it's what's knocking you at the moment that matters so don't worry about seeming wimpish. Which you don't.

Pregnancy definitely sucks.

MillsAndDoom · 02/04/2011 12:15

Don't worry about feeling a bit tearful, end of pregnancy is tough and emotional and tiring

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Cyclebump · 02/04/2011 12:17

Have had a bath, spent 20 minutes trying to shave my legs (successfully) and that made me giggle so hard I felt better.

DP, sensing my distress, just rang to ask if I fancied a chocolate waffle as he's on his way home. Hurrah!

Now I feel dumb for weeping earlier, oh the joy of hormones. Thanks again team MN!

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BeetleBaby · 02/04/2011 13:28

cycle I had a pretty good moan on the April thread and I don't have a flat that's been turned upside down, I'm just grumpy! I think it's very normal to feel down around now, we're so close to the finish that it all gets a bit much. I had a proper meltdown the other night, sobbing in bed over nothing much, just needed to cry.

Don't feel dumb for having a bit of a weep, better out than in and all that (except for the chocolate waffle obviously!)

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