"Competitive tiredness": who else's OH's keep moaning about how tired THEY are?

[MrsBloomingTroll]

Seriously, if my DH tells me one more time how tired/exhausted he is, I will not be held responsible for my actions!

To give his side of the story, he does work very very long hours to support our family (I'm a SAHM following redundancy) and he's had virus after virus this winter.

But still.

I am 20 weeks pregnant (or thereabouts) with DC2. Still getting up at least once in the night, 6 nights out of 7, with DD1 who is a petulant potty-training 2 year-old with serious attitude (she told me today that she's in charge, as she ran about the house wearing a paper crown).

After getting up to see to her, I cannot get back to sleep for an hour or more due to fecking pregnancy insomnia. DH's snoring (due to latest illness) doesn't help with that. And since the morning sickness (worse than last pregnancy) wore off, I too have had numerous viruses.

At least DH can take something stronger than paracetemol when he's ill, and he gets to escape to a lovely child-free hotel on business trips one week in four! And he can drink loads to blot out the memories of the potty training accidents. And will he go to the GP to get antibiotics? No, he will not.

Who's with me on this? Competitive tiredness is normally a great sport, but competition should be suspended for the duration of pregnancy and early newborn weeks, right?

I'm with you!
Mine works away, so I'm alone with a toddler and pg. Yet he still complains of 'extreme tiredness' etc.
He has no idea!!

Wait untill this baby comes along and you are doing the night feeds, with only 3/4 hours sleep a night.
Then when they complain how tired they are - see how long it is before you strangle him !!
OOh, you've just reminded me how annoying it is!

I can accept that DH probably is tired as he does wake up when I do (which is a lot at the moment thanks to the middle of the night loo trips/SPD pain in the night).

However, he has just called (on his way home from the pub!) to complain that he keeps needing to pee... Suffice to say 39+ wks pregnant me did not have any sympathy!

I don't want to say I'm tired. I'm afraid that you'll throw something at me :o

I'll join you! I only stopped work 10 days ago (DH has only been working 4 months, before that was SAHD) and am 38weeks. Looking after our 4 year old, often up once a night with her; but still, manage to cook dinner every night and do a bit of housework every day rather than HIM who managed no housework, would ask "what shall we have for dinner" (he'd sometimes cook it but I'd always have to think of it) and who would 'tag' me to take care of DD the second I walked in from work- so, yes, the fact that I keep hearing about how tired he is does make me want to smother him (as he lays on the sofa snoring!).

Worst, he's looking forward to me having the baby so he can have a break from work......we'll see about that!

We've got CT (as I like to call it) to an Olympian standard in our house

Just realised this is in 'Pregnancy'

NOT pg but have 'sleep-reluctant' 7m old Ds...

Someone over on AIBU is offended by this article.

www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2011/mar/26/modern-mother-equality-illusion

Personally I think never has a truer thing been written.

There are parents, and there are MOTHERS. The latter does 9/10 of the work.

He said today that he was so tired he might not even go to Badminton this evening. I would love to write in 2ft high letters, along the living room wall: Earth to Spaceboy, I last engaged in a leisure activity in August 2010 when I was pregnant with the small pink one. The next small pink one is due to be 52 weeks younger, therefore I can confidently declare you have NFI what tired really means!

Hello TSC

DS currently having his 3rd bf since 7.30pm. There lies your answer

Really have no idea what is going to happen when I go back to work (shifts, inc nights)...

No change your end then? Have seen your thread re DD1. Bloody Hell, hats off to you

Do you know what, I don't actually mind dh saying he's tired. He is. He works long hours, has a long commute, always finds lots of time to play with dd, has always, always done his best to help at nights, even if bfing he'd bring tea/snacks, pass books, wind and settle dd, he cooks and cleans as much as he can.

You know what, we're allowed to say we're tired without other women saying 'well I've got triplets so I win' or 'I'm so tired my leg dropped clean off so button it' so why can't men be tired?

I find it very strange.

Unless they're saying you're not tired or somehow ridiculing your fatigue.

I am aware this is a lighthearted thread and I'm being a stroppy cow btw but I'm tired.

Sounds like you've got a good one there, Pseudocreme (good name BTW!).

In a few years, we'll look back at this and laugh. Hysterically. With our hands clamped round the neck of a gin bottle.

For now I'll have another caffeine-free . Already used up my pregnancy caffeine points for the day and it's only just 8am, but it hasn't even touched the sides!

Ah well, at least we'll all get lovely Mother's Day lie-ins, right?

pootletrincket
I think we're married to the same man!
I'm currently 11weeks preg still getting morning sickness getting up once a night with DS. I now have a cold on top, and was still working full time till last week when I went off sick!

DH's best line is " you've had a good sleep you shouldn't be tired" I want to strangle him!!!

Oh. mrsbloomingtroll just reminded me

Yesterday DH said to me to go online and pick a bouquet for his mum and one for myself for mothers day and he'll give me the money !!
I said thought doesn't count if I have to think myself!!!

Yep OH comes home with promises of cuddles and then falls asleep on the sofa claiming 'hes sooo tired' and doesnt come up to bed which means i am forever getting up to see where he is as i cant rest when he is not there last night it was 3.15am then he came up. Wish i could sleep when hes not in the bed but just not poss :(

I am 30 weeks preg and getting BH ALOT at night and STILL managing to cook him a full blown dinner when he gets home around 8. Plus looking after a 4yr old......
I mean if he is soooooo tired how come he manages to find the energy to go out every Friday night until stupid o'clock Saturday morning?? Hes out tonight.....another night alone.

:(
ooohhhh pregnancy moan sorry ladies its early and these choco shreddies are not doing the trick

Edward i would choose the BIGGEST most expensive bunch that will teach him

Lol worth a thought!

Edward, isn't it strange how all of a sudden you don't want a bouquet of flowers but you took his offer to mean 'buy yourself something nice darling' so you've booked a weekend away/new wardrobe/Daniel Craig on a Stick and billed him for it. Well, he did offer.

If dh told me I 'shouldn't' be tired, I'd be very cross. Because tired isn't a competition, it's a natural parenting state. We're all in it together. Except some of us are more in it than others apparently. You are married to some cheeky sods.

TSC

You win the CT-on-MN award this week I feel

Am grateful that I at least have 2 in full-time education who sleep through the night

And are still at ages where my word is law sort of