Hate pulling the pregnancy card, but seriously.....

[Binkybell]

I'm sure loads of you will think I'm being really unreasonable, but I just had to have a rant! One of my closest friends is getting married a 3.5 weeks after my due date, so if I'm overdue my baby might only be days old, obviously if I'm early, then all the better. But....I've just been talking to her and she asked if I'd do her hair and make-up and the bridesmaids. I tried to be really sensitive, but inside was seething, this is my first baby, so I have no idea how I'm going to be feeling, whether the feeding will be going well, how my baby's going to be, and somehow I'm being made to feeling guilty at explaining that I won't be able to do it.

Then after all of this, I get told her hen weekend is planned for either 3 weeks or 2 weeks before my due date, abroad.....again I couldn't believe that I actually had to explain that it was highly unlikely that I would be able to make it, given the proximity to my due date and with no idea how I'm going to be feeling etc, and plus with it being abroad as well.

I'm sure for many of you I sound really precious, but it's driving me crazy that I should even have to explain any of this, and to be made to feel that I'm somehow letting her down.

I appreciate that her wedding is all she's thinking about at the moment, and obviously she's never been pregnant, but I hate the way she's not showing any understanding to how I might be feeling.....
Okay rant over, am I being unreasonable, or am I right to feel the way I do?

Hi there,

Got a similar prob, am pregnant with my first and have been invited on a friend's hen weekend (with outdoor activities!) 8 weeks before due date. It is 3 hours drive away for me.
It is plausible? I have to say I am reluctant; firstly because I think the drive will tire me out, then I'll have to spend time watching others do activities, watch others drinking etc.
Then there's the cost.

What do you think? Am I just being a bit flaky?

I don't have anything new to add to what the others have said, I agree you aren't being unreasonable-you have no idea when and how your baby will arrive and so you can't commit to anything that close to your DD, especially something as important as hair and make-up - your friend will be screwed if you agree then circumstances mean you can't make it!!

excited I don't know how far in the future the hen is, but you dong know how you'll be feeling and like you say, it'll cost money for something you wont get much out of. Is she having any other hen events that you could go to instead? Or maybe the two of you could get together for a quiet lunch or dinner together instead of going to the hen?