pregnancy / husband

[hmmmum]

hello i'm in my third trimester and feeling exhausted and hormonal. It feels like my husband just gets to carry on as normal because he is obviously not going through what I'm going through, but I suppose I feel a bit resentful and fed up and also quite alone. It doesn't feel like our baby but like my baby. i'm the one who gets to feel crap and go home early whenever we go out, while he is all carefree and nothing has changed for him. were your husbands /partners supportive and involved when you were pregnant or does that kick in more when the baby is actually born? i guess i just don't feel that supported right now and i feel like a mess. (although my husband does love me, i should point out. He's probably just not thinking).

Am also in my third trimester and boy its been a rather tough one DD1 & DD" were a breeze compared to this. My DH has not and will not read any books on pregnancy! He is not interested, god knows I have tried. He hasnt been very supportive either and its just got worse since I came on maternity leave a month ago. He curiously has spd, sciatica and swollen ankles though usually at the same time I do and still expects me to run around after the DDs and him. There is no empathy there at all. I am actually worried about having him at the birth. He might drive me NUTS!

My DH is pretty much the same - and admits it. He describes it as being told he's going to get a swanky new car in 9 mo - it doesn't affect him till it's actually here. It does piss me off that he's not more interested in my pregnancy, and he can be unsympathetic in terms of aches and pains..but then again he's a very "just get on with it" person himself.

That said, he is a WONDERFUL, hands-on dad, and was absolutely fantastic from the moment labour started. He was pretty instinctive about it all really - I was actually quite taken aback...but delighted!