Not dealing with weight gain very well ... anyone else feeling the same?

[Newmummytobe79]

I?ve always watched my weight and maintained a very slim figure. I decided that my dieting was going to be no good for baby so upped my calories and I?m making sure I have a balanced diet as well as a few cheeky biscuits that I would have usually avoided!

I?ve been fine with my body and even enjoyed having something to put in a bra ? until this weekend. I?ll be 22.5 when I go on holiday and thought I?d be able to fit in most of my summer dresses ? I can fit in one (currently 17.5) and I don?t think that?ll be for much longer!

My bikinis were all quite baggy in the bust area and now I can?t even squeeze in them! Shorts I used to be able to pull on without undoing the button and zip I can no longer fasten or fit my bum in to ? therefore I sat on the floor and cried! Husband can?t understand why I got so upset as in his eyes I?m carrying our baby but I just can?t help feeling so rubbish.

I?m trying to save all my spare money as I?ll just get SMP and really can?t afford to buy a new wardrobe full of clothes. I know I?m in denial and I was stupid to think I?d be able to wear tiny clothes for my entire pregnancy ? but it?s really got to me. I?m not stupid and I know all that matters is my baby?s health ? but I?m so used to seeing a body that looks ok in clothes whereas all I see now is a big face, boobs, belly and bum ? and I know I?m due to get A LOT bigger!

How has everyone else coped with the weight gain and will a day maternity shopping make me feel better? My Mum, bless her, wants to take me shopping to treat me to a few items of clothing and after refusing for so long ? I think I?ll take her up on it.

I know I?m being a selfish c*w ? and if it bothers me that much why am I eating biscuits ? but I just find it hard bulking out so quickly!

x

Oh yes. and I'm still early days with mine (14 weeks). I put on a few pounds before pregnancy and I'd just got to the stage where I was ready to take them off again when I got pregnant. And then everything changed, of course! I'm just keeping myself fit and feeling good about myself that way, but if I could be a stone lighter I would jump at the chance.

I'd say, take your mum up on her offer and go shopping. I found it such a relief to wear maternity clothes because they are so comfy, whereas your normal clothes will constantly remind you that you're expanding.

I was in maternity trousers by 12 weeks - like you, I struggled to accept that I'm no longer in control of my body weight! I think it gets easier (at least it did for me), once you've got a 'proper' bump, which reminds you that there is a very good reason for putting on weight, and when people start complimenting you on your pregnancy.

I know it's easier said than done - try not to worry too much about this, and try to enjoy this special time - for once no worries about calorie counting. Could you talk about this with your OH? It helped me a lot to get loads of reassurance from my DH, and he's promised me he'll do everything possible to help me get back into shape when the baby is born.

I'm with you on this NewMummy. I've spent years of my life trying to keep fit/slim and my stomach has always been one of my 'hated' areas. Now that I'm getting a bump I'm really aware of it - and doesn't help when everyone speaks to it and not me! Don't get me wrong, I don't want to sound like a moany, ungrateful c*w either, because I am very happy to be pregnant and can't wait to be a mum, but the weight gain around my middle (and I know it's all baby) just gets me a bit down.
I swapped all my winter clothes for my spring/summer stuff on the weekend and I thought lots of my dresses and vests would do me, but because my bust has got bigger, they're all so tight, even at 16 weeks. Definitely won't be fitting over the summer months! My DH keeps reassuring me that I'm pregnant, not fat. Bless him!
Sorry, I didn't really add anything there, just that it's nice I'm not the only one who feels like this! Definitely take your mum up on her kind offer though.
I'm sure we'll all spring back to shape once our bundles of joy arrive!

Newmummy I have had similar angst throughout my pg (I am now 36 weeks). I had been prepared for the inevitable tummy growth, but less so the thighs/backside/hips/cellulite. EVERYTHING has got massive and everytime that I haven't fitted in to something it's sent me in to another spin...

I'm just about OK now, but still get very anxious about post-birth. Which is flipping rediculous and selfish given the wonderful gift I have coming. But it's made me realise that I'm perhaps more vain have ishoos than I thought.

Buy maternity clothes, seriously. And then try not to get depressed when even they get tight .

If it helps, I have put on just over two stone and hoping that baby doesn't have any more growth spurts because I really am about to pop now! Oh, and it does get so much easier once your bump becomes prominant. Take every compliment graciously and try and take the "oh my god you're huge" comments in your stride too.

I actually had a lovely comment on Friday night. Was out for dinner with a friend and as we left restaurant she bumped in to someone that I didn't know. She said that her and her DH had just been saying to one another how great I looked. Really did MAKE my weekend. Can't say I skipped out of the restaurant, but waddled walked a bit taller!

Listen to your DH too.

I am on my 3rd pregnancy in 3 years, and still find it difficult to get my head around the weight issue!!
I didnt put much on with 1st - all bump.
But ate shit loads after birth, thinking I could get away with it - wrong!!

I never lost the weight when I got pregnant again. I tried to eat healthy, but did put on weight. I started to slowly exercise again after my second, but accidently got pregnant 8 months after having her.

I am now only 17 weeks, and massive already!! tried on some maternity clothes today, and didnt buy a thing cause I just looked like a blob!

I too feel selfish, and know its just down to the way my body is adapting.
I should be gratefull I am pregnant, as lots of people struggle.

But my vain side wants to cling on to my slim figure!!

I am dreading the hard work it will be loosing the weight, as I already had about 1 1/2 stone excess from the last one!! Thats two dress sizes I had gained.
I dont mind so much when the bump looks pregnant. But feel really insecure when I just look like ive eatren loads of pies ( which I probably have )

I do sympathise newmummy (in fact was thinking of posting myself as this issue has been weighing on my mind after i burst a button on one of my few remaining pairs of trousers ). I become huge with every pregnancy (curently pg with number 3) and from very early on. It means I get almost eight months of people saying "aren't you big, you look ready to pop, you sure it's not twins etc..."

I've always been envious of those who get a nice neat bump and don't seem to gain anywhere else - I get big all over (my boobs are just awesome!) and as I'm naturally a slim size 8-10 it is very noticeable. I'm not aware of over-eating (although I crave lots of cheese during the first trimester) and stay fairly active - no choice with a 4 yr old and 2 yr old! My body just seems to hold onto fat at this time - and I also hold onto it while breastfeeding.

It is difficult to deal with these sudden changes in your body but, newmummy, please don't get too upset. Your body knows what it is doing, namely providing a healthy safe haven for your growing baby. I birthed two lovely healthy 9 lb babies and each time just over a year after giving birth was back to being slim and fit - and I didn't diet, my body just seemed to settle down again after all the hormonal ups and downs of pregnancy and breastfeeding.

I am 24 weeks pg now, but definitely didn't like the 14-20 week bit - I just felt podgy and fat! Now I have a definite bump and I like my shape a lot more. So hopefully by the time your holiday arrives you'll be feeling better too :)

Definitely buy some good maternity clothes that flatter (although take a look online as there's often not much choice in the shops). If you're trying to save money, eBay is great for second hand. Maternity clothes are stretchy in the right places, so much more flattering too.