39 weeks pregnant and acquired a stalker-joy

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As the title says, I'm 39w+6 and am being harassed over a business matter, despite being on maternity leave. I'm in a bit of a kerfuffle and hoping there's other Mumsnetters who can offer some reasoned experience this evening. Posting on pregnancy in case the stress tips me into labour!

In brief, I've put my small property business in the hands of a very capable agent to take care of whilst I'm getting ready to meet the little one, due imminently. Everything is supposed to be dealt with by the agent but one oddjob who I've never even met before has an issue with one of my tenants and has bypassed the agent, got my personal mobile and just won't leave me alone, calling and texting, demanding I listen to his largely bizarre rants. I've calmly explained to oddjob that I'm on maternity leave and he needs to talk to my replacement but he refuses, citing my pregnancy as a "lifestyle choice of no consequence to him".

I've largely ignored him until this evening when he calmly texted me that he was coming to visit me at home to "make me address his issues". The address he believes I live at isn't actually mine but that of a relative who of course I've called and told them (in an embarrassed squeak) not to open the door tonight! I've also called the police who were super sympathetic and are coming over tomorrow morning.

So I'm a little panicked, I've done everything I can do to secure the house and calm myself down but this chap does seem quite a determined nut. Baby seems fine, moving around and having mild contractions but nothing adventurous.

Does anyone have experience of a stalker and can reassure me that it's largely hollow threats from a weedy little man?!

No experience,but bumping as it sounds pretty stressful.hope it all resolves soon.

No experience, but the partner of a police officer and this man is causing alarm and distress, so CAN be arrested for harrasment. Unfortunately, DP is dealing with all the rioters up London tonight so cant ask his prefessional opinion just now.

Just wanted to wish you luck and hope the officers assigned to you deal with him in the strictest manner. Could you possibly contact your phone provider and get his number barred from calling you? Or block unknown numbers. Last thing you need when at such an important part of your life!

Best of luck with the impending arrival xx

Change your number and pursue this with the police. Yes most likely it's hollow threats but you don't have to put up with that.

What an ass!

(sorry)

I know you should not be dealing with and likely won't be able to deal with this, but if you can ... maybe you should address it head on.

1. Is his issue with the tenant valid and to what extent are you responsbile/liable for addressing it?
2. Can your colleague deal with it and call him with the solution
3. What is your contract with this gentleman? Talk to your soliciter (are you a member of IOD or something similar who can give you free advice).
4. If you have to, cancel the contract
5. Take the action you are currently doing against the person involved.

As a small business owner, I fully understand the issue. How sad that he is ruining such an exciting time of your life!

You have done the right thing by contacting the police. Don't have any contact with him, and keep a record of his actions, keep all texts etc. Emphasise to police how stresssful it is for you.

sorry you are having to deal with this.

Yup, calling the police is the right thing. He is (technically) committing a common assault at the very least. I would also report the phone number as a malicious call to BT or whoever, and follow up the call barring.

Finers crossed a warning from the police is all that is needed. Could you also get your agent to call him and try and find out what the problem is and sort it - presumable that's what you're paying them for!

he wouldnt be arrested at the moment for harrasment.
You will have the option, that you can have him just warned by the police. They will pay him a visit, and explain to him that if he carries on this course of conduct it could lead to him getting a harrasment warning, and then the next step would be interviewed at a police station.

The matter he is concerend about is a civil issue and nothing to do with the police.
However, if he is causing you any harrasmet/alarm or distress, then it is a police issue.
The last thing you want in your late stage is to be making statements and have this worrying you.
So I would contact your network provider in the morning, and ask for the nuisance phone call department. ( most have them). Explain to them, and they are usually very good.
Also, like others have said, why cant your replacement make contact and deal with him.

Hope the police deal with him for you. Have you asked the agent to contact him?

Hope you've got a helpful solution - sounds very stressful and the last thing you need.

Thanks everyone for your support, it's very much appreciated just now.

A lovely policeman came to see me over the weekend and explained how they would support me. In short, oddjob seems to have left me alone but according to the person dealing with this on my behalf, has turned back to her this morning with a redoubled effort to make a nuisance of himself. I've asked her to ignore him.

Some people eh? What a nasty piece of work to knowingly cause distress and alarm to a lady in late pregnancy.