Should I have a gender scan?

[bishboschone]

I really wanted to know what my baby was at 20 week scan but they couldn't get it in the right place. I am debating a gender scan but husband not keen . Any opinions ?

As someone who really doesn't like not knowing what she's having for Christmas, even when that's just a few days away, I'd have to say yes. I couldn't bear not knowing - the excitement would just be too much! Why's your partner not keen?

He thinks the extra scanning is unnecessary .. And he thinks it's a gIrl as the sOnographer erred on the side of girl but I dOnt want to start getting used to the idea if it's a boy .. My family keep calling my bump he and it's confusing me .

Depends - why do you want one? You likely know they are not guaranteed - no returns if it's wrong

I would have happily bought a pg test that said "pg-buy" or "pg-girl" because I wanted as much info as possible as early as possible, to make it more real I suppose. Same with the anomaly scan, I wanted lots of info about no of arms / legs / kidneys etc. Since then I've calmed down and am not concerned about gender in fact prefer not to know. But I don't want to do the gender-training thing anyway, my partner and I prefer neutral colours and the longer the pg goes, the more anti-everything-must-be-pink/blue I feel. Partly because I don't like people making statements about what "the boy" or "the girl" will be like or will do etc, (there's already been some from PIL who "know" the gender). The kid will be an individual and will have life choices not limited by what's between their legs if it's up to me.

Of course it's unnecessary :) Admit that to him, too, but if he hasn't got any proper objections then I think you should push for it - maybe just tell him you're booking an appointment because it matters to you. I'll be doing it if I end up in the same position as you.

Oh I agree with all that and my dd loves all things mechanical as I hav brought her up to play with anything boy or girl related . Honestly I am bit worried that all bits are in the right place . I jut want to know for sure ( the clinic say 99% accurate which is good enough for me.

Yeah he said have one if I want it but he didn't want to come ,he was happy with a bit of a surprise :( he is a brilliant husband so don't want to put him down just others opinions are good

I hate surprises!!

Oops I got on a rant there.... I meant to say, I know someone who had a scan and then regretted it, they felt they lost something rather than gained something by finding out if that makes sense. Also my partner didn't want to know so that's why I didn't find out (and now I like that I didn't find out which I didn't expect.)

Obviously, each to their own. Did you find out first time around?

Yes but monographer said she was only 80% sure with dd .. This time she said she just wasn't sure .

You still sound unsure. I sense you'd really like to do this with your partner, and possibly not at all otherwise. If I'm right, then maybe the two of you can agree to flip a coin or something to decide who 'wins'?

sonographer...!!
Ginger..thats amazing you have read that exactly right !!