Physical reaction when I think about telling people

[KatieWatie]

I will be 12 weeks tomorrow and having my scan next Wednesday. I was going to wait til after the scan to tell family, boss etc., but for various reasons am going to have to tell my parents tomorrow.

Everytime I think about doing it my heart and my stomach physically lurch. It's like my heart is missing a beat. I know this sounds really dramatic! It should be such a nice thing to tell people and my parents will be over the moon I know it, but it's just such an "un-me" thing to do and be, and I hate the thought of fuss and hugs, and I'm just dreading it in many ways! My parents have a way of making me feel about 16 which is more my problem than theirs.

I'm a VERY anxious person anyway - I feel like I should be on Kalms for the duration of my pregnancy or something...

Anyone else get this or am I totally abnormal?

I thought it was only me! We are on the 2WW (35, ttc #1 16 months) married for 3 years and I am already worrying about how we'd say. I don't want to say "we're having a baby" because some brightspark (everyone we know has multiple kids) is bound to point out that its me who'll be having the baby.. i was just trying to avoid saying 'pregnant'.

I also feel v embarrassed to tell my step father, even though I know he'd love to be a grandad.

WaitieKatie I think your idea of the magazine is great - perhaps to drive the point home without words you could buy her some wool.

What I dread the most is everyone reliving their experiences and giving endless advice / freaking you out with horror stories. I am worried and scared enough without having to smile politely listening.

Thank you thank you for this thread

Oh, me too!
Mine is maybe even worst, as I don't even know how to tell my Mum. I am currently living in Asia and my Mum is in Europe, She doesn't travel, so won't be able to come and visit. As such, she has told me to basically not have a child whilst here and she keeps complaining that the child won't know its grandparents, etc.

I have told her a while back that I want a baby and that my DH and I would start trying, but we didn't speak about that again.

So, I am currently 5w 2d, but don't know how I will tell her.
We told MIL and she was very happy and is burtsing to tell people once the 12 week scan is out of the way.

poppysMom congratulations.

You could wait till Sunday 3rd (Mother Day in UK).
I am sure that she'll be thrilled despite the distance - and if anything could encite her to travel it's a grandchild.

i did just notice (or the pedants) that i put you're when I mean your.

i've never done that before....

laughing - while i've got my Pedant's hat on (which I should put away, because i clearly don't deserve it) in the UK, it's Mothering Sunday, not Mother's Day.

So many people saying exactly how I feel! Thanks guys

Poppysmom I live a 4 hour drive from my hometown now, which is nothing compared to your distance but to my family I might as well be on the Moon from the way they talk about it!

My mum complains that she'll never know her grandchildren, and yet has badgered me for years about when I will be having them! The inference seems to be that she thinks I should move back home once their grandchildren come along. I won't be doing as there's nothing for us up home, but I know this is an argument I'm going to have many times over the coming months/years. It will get even worse when we eventually move to France!

Sigh.