Its early days for me yet (circa 10 weeks) but I am thinking of requesting an elective c-section. I am told that the obstetrician that I have been referred to may be receptive. I feel that it is the right decision for me but am not sure. What do you think?
My reasons are as follows:
*Had bad labour first time around. Anterior presentation (notoriously causes the most painful labours). Also very lengthy labour.
*Had to give birth in a theatre because they thought there was an evens chance they may need to proceed to emergency c/s. In the event I had ventouse, forceps and a whacking great episiotomy
*Episiotomy wound became a bit infected with a strep infection and I experienced soreness for months. The whole labour process gave me some psychological sexual dysfunction problems (i.e. I just didn't want to do it for months and months because I thought something might rupture!)
*My baby although full term was born with some breathing difficulties and spent a short spell in SCBU (I am sure related to foetal distress during the delivery)
- I don't like or trust midwifes and their dominant ideology of 'natural is best'. In fact I HATE them (sorry - few repressed feelings coming out here)...
*Lots of near misses have been reported in maternity units in the news recently due to understaffing in midwifery. At least with a planned c/section its medically led planned care
*at least 10% of women who give birth vaginally go on to experience either urinary or faecal incontinence...either straight away or in later life (and I know some of them!)
anyway the downsides which put me off are:
coping with a new baby and my (by then) 21 month old when I am not supposed to life
not driving for 6 weeks when I live in the countryside and am dependent upon my car.
Would value peoples advice and comments. Thanks