What should we do?

[BaadRobot]

I gave birth to my child when I was 21 and was a single mum from the start. Fast forward 12 years and I've been married for less than a year. My DH doesn't have any children of his own and I think I want to have one with him. I'm 90% sure

The thing is, the 3 of us live in such a tiny rented flat, we have no money spare and now really isn't the best time.
But someone mentioned the other day that I should "get a move on" at my age as I haven't got much time!

I've probably been a bit naive, I really didn't know much about birth / babies / pregnancy when I had my first and what little I did know, I've since forgotten. I didn't keep any baby stuff so we'd have to buy it all again. Had to have everything 2nd hand last time and would love to be able to have nice things second time around.

I thought we had all the time in the world, but apparently menopause is starting to set in earlier these days (so I've been told) and I've been on contraceptive jab for 2 years.
Not sure what I want your help with really...just not sure what to do and can't stop thinking about it

Only have a baby when you're 100% sure- I'm afraid 90% is enough.

The reason I said 90% is because my first birth was extremely difficult and my next willhave to be C-section and I'm petrified!

I was 18 when i had dc1 single for many years and then at 34 met a wonderful man and had dc2 at 36. We conceived 1st month & I had been on the contraceptive jab previously now pregnant with dc3 and I'm 39 From my calculation you are only 33. If you aren't ready yet there is no reason why you can't wait a few more years. If it's what you both ultimately want start working towards it now i.e moving to a bigger place.

don't forget every pregancy and birth is very different and things have changed in the last 12 years I understand your anxiety but don't let one bad experience put you off if it's what you want

bumble34 Thank you, you have really put my mind at rest. We're both healthy and so I suppose there's no reason to be so anxious about it. It was just the comment that I might be leaving it too late that really got me worried. Thank you

people are always quick to comment but you've got to do what's right for you when it's right time for you. I had many are you mad doing it again at your age comments whilst first time mums the same age were getting loads of congratulations from the same people!! I learnt to just ignore them best of luck