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lost my mojo :(

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jillamona · 09/03/2011 23:58

i know there's worse things that can happen but i'm 26 weeks and have lost all interest in sex, which is really not like me Grin sorry if tmi! its not that i'm too uncomfortable or anything, just simply don't feel like it. i know some of it has to do with being tired, but then even when we do have sex its just not the same for me. i know its not a big deal, dp seems fine, i suppose i'm just worried about losing this part of our relationship and i hope it comes back and we don;t drift into some kind of sexless life together! its my first pregnancy so its all new to me. how about other more experienced mums? did you get your mojo back after pregnancy and birth? any advice appreciated Wink

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Heroine · 10/03/2011 00:05

oh it will come back - you have been/are in a stressful tiring and mentally self-adjusting period and need care warmth and love much more than getting off - adn your mind too is supposed to be a bit 'elsewhere' just now and sex needs you to be quite focussed and in tune with yourself. Don't forget that men too lose interest in the way you describe when work is tough or when some mid-life realisations kick in and then get it back massively, as I suspect will you. If your sex was quite physical before, as mine was, that type relies on really strong drives that are separate from emotion a bit - my sex life changed towards more emotionally involved sex turning me on more than crazy adrenaline rude stuff sex, whereas before PG it was definitely the opposite.

If you are in an off period, try it anyway occasionally - but don't push it too much and enjoy the welcome break from desparately needing it to choosing a bit more..

ecuse · 10/03/2011 10:22

Me too, I went off it completely about 20 weeks. My brain is still interested, but my body seems to have ceased to respond. What used to feel nice just feels a bit ... irritating now. Since I was always the sex pest in our relationship I think my DP is enjoying the respite!

LittleMilla · 10/03/2011 10:32

Me too! 33 weeks now and in the last few weeks or so I have felt far more up for it, but it feels wierd. Especially as I spend most of my day feeling baby rooting around in my tummy.

Sounds cliched, but the best thing to do is talk to your DP. I struggled without the physical intimacy, so just made sure that I gave DH a 'helping hand' throughout the dark days! Still feel close and that they're not being too deprived, but you get to cuddle etc afterwards still. Just without the "ow sore" of actual sex. I've had SPD too which really hasn't helped.

Try and keep in mind how good sex is for you in pregnancy (and esp as you beginning approaching due date). The endorphins and oxytocin are crucial...so (dare I say it Blush), it might also be worth having some 'you time' Wink if you know what I mean. I found that also helped me remind myself what it's all meant to be like! But I know we're not all the same...so whatever helps you.

Good luck and don't stress it. Perfectly normal from what I've seen. Some lucky buggers (well their DPs!!) go the other way. My DH has jokingly said he was secretly hoping for that in me...but alas, no. He got the opposite for a while! ha

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