Need hand-holding til Thurs...

[iWILLdothis]

I'm 7+6wks pg and had a scan at 6wks due to previous ectopic. It confirmed that pg was not ectopic (phew!) but all that was seen was a yolk sac, no heartbeat. So I've an appointment on Thursday to check for heartbeat. Last week I was calm enough about it because I had terrible MS, vomiting about twice a day. And my SPD had started up already, so bad I ordered an expensive maternity belt for it. But now I'm so so so so so scared because my sickness has gone, also the SPD pain. No bleeding, so I'm worried about MMC. I know there are regular threads on here similar to this, and you're maybe thinking not again, not another one of these.... DH says everything is going to be ok, but nobody knows that yet. I know all that anyone can tell me is try not to worry etc etc and that only the scan can give me an answer. So I don't really know what I expect to gain from starting this thread, just someone to hold my hand til I find out? Pretty please.....this is pathetic, and I know it....

I know it's so worrying but the odds are on your side. 1 in 4 pregnancies ends in miscarriage in the first 12 weeks but that means 3 in 4 don't. Also, for all there are lots of boards about mmc that's just because you've got a lot of people in one place with similar experiences, mmc actualy only happens in around 2-3% of all miscarriages and the vast majority will have some sign such as cramping or bleeding. Awful as it sounds too but if the worst has happened then it's not because of anything you did or didn't do, right now the whole thing is out of your hands and it's all to do with how the baby develops.

It's normal for symptoms to come and go at 6 weeks and even now at almost 14 weeks I get days where I have no symptoms and panic but they come back after a day or two.

Stay strong, everything could be fine still.

It is horribly worrying and the fact that we know so much so early nowadays doesn't help IMO.

I've had 5 pgs. One I lost at 8wks. I also have 3 healthy dcs and am 19+4 with dc4. The symptoms have been wildly different with each so please don't stress about vanishing symptoms. It might mean something or it might not.

Either way, you have my hand to hold til whenever. And a few virtual to steady the nerves...

I completely know how you feel - it's the waiting and not knowing that's hard. I had an early scan due to bleeding, and everything looked fine and healthy and normal...so was soooo happy, until the bleeding and cramps have been getting worse. But there seems to be so many people that have these symptoms and go on to have successful pregnancies. I'm just trying not to force my emotions in a different direction - getting a bit sick of people saying "everything happens for a reason". I think if I want to feel a bit sad I can, and then it seems to pass and then I start to feel more optimistic. You're not alone and it's natural to be worried, but hopefully your worries are unfounded and I've got everything crossed for you hoping all will be absolutely fine!

Sorry to hear you have a difficult wait. Is there anything you can do to distract yourself - get some friends round, catch up on DVD watching, go for some nice walks (if your SPD has eased)? Try not to Google! I have a relaxation tape that I listen to when I'm stressed, it really helps me to wind down and rest even if my mind is racing. Take care of yourself and good luck.

I'm here holding your hand, rubbing your back and offering lots of and cake. I also needed an early scan and doc wouldn't let me have it until I was over 7 weeks because she thought they wouldn't be able to see anything. Waiting was agonising so I can empathise. Hopefully when you go back on Thurs you'll see the heartbeat and get the reassurance you need xxx

I'll hold your hand iWILLdothis. It must be awful waiting and wondering. FX you on Thursday, I hope it all works out for you xx

(apologies if I'm squeezing them too tight)
Thank you so much for all your lovely replies. I'm still hanging in here....trying to keep myself occupied and busy to keep my mind off it. Plan to have a nice long relaxing bath tonight. Fortunately appointment is early in the morning so I can get it over with. I'll let you know what happens....

I'll be thinking of you tomorrow, really hope you get the news you want xx

Good luck! Not too much longer! xxx

Best of luck for tomorrow! Let us know how it goes!

Woohoo! All is well!
Heartbeat seen, measuring 8 wks. Phew! Such a relief. So hoping now the sickness & SPD stay away! Thank you all so much for your support.

That's excellent news! I was dreading my first scan after a mmc last year so I know what a relief it is to see a healthy looking scan. So please for you :)

congratulations iwdt :)

Congratulations

Congratulations and fingers crossed that the sickness and SPD stay away.

Enjoy your pregnancy!!!

Kerri xxx

Congratulations!

Hopefully the rest will be worry free. Ha ha! As if you won't worry!

Thank you, everyone...I'm still walking on air :)

Brilliant. Just brilliant. I do hope you're celebrating.