IVF/ PREGNANCY Help! I need advice ASAP

[pussycatmomma]

Hi, just in need of advice/answers. My sis is pregnant through ivf. Only about 5 weeks though, she was due to go for her first scan on tuesday (25th) But today she felt poorly, and spoke to drs who thought she was hyperstimulating. She now in hospital, they have done a scan but pregnancy not showing Mum spoke to a nurse on phone who said they didnt think she was hyperstimulating but that they had reassured my sister that the pregnancy would not show up at such an early stage. Are they being evasive? They said my sis was upset (obviously) but didnt want us to go and see her, im really really worried.....what would the signs be at this stage? when will they know if the pregnancy is "still there"? i feel so useless, my dh and i are also ttc at the moment, and when my sis finally got prgnt with her first attempt at ivf we were all over the moon. Just so scared for her.......any one out there?

Hi
dont know anything in relation to ivf ut it is true that nothing would show at 5wks..or at most they might be able to see a sac but no heartbeat etc..mostely have to be 6wks plus to see anything viable...sometimes taking up to 8wks.

Thanks Nemo, i think i probably knew that myself too, but im just so worried she may have miscarried? I feel so useless!! Im not really sure what the effects of ovarian hyperstimulation are if she is already pregnant, hosp just warned her about it when she was having her embryos put back - said she was high risk as she had produced over 20 eggs. But now hosp seems to think her pains and inability to wee were not due to this. Any ideas??

could be a water infection...i had them often when pg with ds..just managed to avoid them so far this time..lol

think the dr thought that to start with, but nurse said she didnt think any sign of infection but sis not been told that officially. mum just rung me, explained sis was so upset as no sign of pregnancy on scan. But she hasnt had any bleeding or anything like that, not even spotting. I s'pose im just being over cautious and over-worrying. Do you think its just a case of "time will tell" and "wait and see"??? almost feel like is happening to me, we v close u see. if u about to be a yummymummy too then you will understand

unfortunately ayt this stage it is a case of wait and see as there are no tell tale signs either way. I have had three mcs in the past 2 early ones and one missed mc not found until I was 15wks pg. They were all different from each other. Also had threatened mc with my 2 yr old lots of bleeding etc but turned out to just be 'one of those things'. It is very difficult to try and stay relaxed especially if your sister has had a hard time to get to this stage but the stress wont help at all. believe me I spent first 20wks of this pregnancy stressing and still do occasionally even at 32wks. Just be around for her and listen to her fears etc. Have they booked her in for a rescan?

well she originally had her scan booked with the clinic where she had undergone her ivf treatment, she spoke to them on sunday and they had booked it in for the 25th. So whether the hospital (nhs one she is in now, not the ivf clinic) will do another one before then i dont know. Her dh has gone to see her tonight so hopefully we will find out a bit more when he comes bck from his visit, what was said exactly etc. Thankyou so much for responding.......first time i had started a thread/asked a question. mn is totally fab when you need a bit of reassurance or just someone to talk things over with. You sound like you have been through the mill with your pregnancies too ((((hugs)))))) to you nemo, I wish you all the very best of luck and a great big sprinkling of baby dust on to your growing angel right now. I understand the need to stay posiitve and focused and just to be there for her no matter what, but is indeed hard not to worry obsessively x x

hope everything is ok for her, the rescan on 25th would probably be more productive as it gives nearly a week in between the two so they should be able to see some change.

If she were over stimulating, then the good news is that this often means that she is pg (rather than the opposite). Usually you don't scan post IVF until you're 6 weeks pg, but I would have thought that if the drs were worried they could have done a blood test to see whether her HCG levels were still rising. If she isn't bleeding then I wouldn't worry at this stage. She shuld be able to see a sac by 25th. Whilst I can fully understand her concern, unless she starts bleeding she shouldn't be concerned. But a first IVF pg especially leavs you worrying at alsmost every step of the way!

Thankyou ladyM...reassuring words, thankyou. Sis did have bloods done again on sunday (her initial bfp was taken on thursday last week)and she said her levels were more than doubling and clinic was v. pleased. Its the not knowing I think. You are right of course, first pregnancy anyway would be awe-inducing every step of way without added stress factor of ivf. Feel as if we shall all be living and breathing this pregnancy with her until the day bambino is born - and then the worry really starts im told! But the good thing is there has been no bleeding, which sounds as if a good sign. I dont really understand the whole hyperstimulation thing, not sure of how/why/what it results in if not controlled etc. But what you said about the levels rising was a good sign, that made me feel better. I feel as if i should be an expert and im not

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awww pruni, thankyou you are very informed bunny by the sounds of it. Sis has been drinking pints and pints of water, been doing every single thing by the book, organic milk the lot i thnk i just scared by the fact that she wont be pg anymore...thats bad of me isnt it? Of course i am worried about her health..that goes first, but the hopeful, bright new begining....a baby to be born, after so much trying, so much effort and heartache....I know there are many of us who feel this way, all us girlies on the ttc threads for a start! just want her to be ok, to still be pg and not to have the horrible "not knowing" feeling....im not patient at the best of times x

did you have double trouble with your ivf pruni? if so im ! thinking about it though, we have twins in family, they are gorgeous but v. hard work for their mum!!

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hey you never know ! our twins are on dh side, his sis had iui and produced our monsters, they 7 now. We are blessed indeed!Id be delighted with just the 1 at a time! Are you having another go with ivf?

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omg pruni - how on earth did you cope with seeing a negative b4 ur scan?????? talk about stressful! my dh maintains that when we get lucky, he'll age 50yrs overnight with all the worry they bring, i just keep telling him it will all be worth it. He just says lets get your sis sorted first!

Sorry to hear that pru...if you do decide for another go, best of luck in the world to you honey. I'll keep you posted about my sis on this thread, maybe chat to you again. Thanks to everyone for your replies, you've really got me through this evening xx

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Sad, sad news im afraid.... sis been in hospital overnight....just heard what has been happening. Apparently she had to have an emergency operation last night as she was bleeding internally and the foetus had ruptured? She was in danger, so had to have the operation and in doing so lost the pregnancy.....she doesnt want to see or talk to anyone, only her husband has seen her....I can not begin to imagine her desolation dont know what to do or say. Just want to take her pain away....how will she ever recover?? such a shock, much worse than the ivf not working at all, we were all so elated, now we are just devastated...i just want to help her but there is nothing on this earth i could do to ease this.....support needed please....