Help need some reassurance. 7 weeks after MMC

[Twinmummy79]

Ok so I am seven weeks pregnant after a MMC last year. The baby had died at 9 weeks and I found out at the 12 week scan. We have fertility issues so each (ivf) pregnancy is a huge ordeal to achieve both emotionally and financially.

I have twins from a previous ivf cycle who are my joy. They are everything to me and I know I should be greedy but I always wanted a huge family so having to deal with infertility has been heartbreaking.

Anyway I am totally freaking out, I can't relax all I can think is I will go for my 7 week scan on monday and be told bad news. Or worse be told good news and then have the bottom fall out of my world again at the 12 week scan.

I panicked all the way through my twin pregnancy and then relaxed loads with my second pregnancy only to find it was not meant to be. I had a very traumatic MC as I was in the bath when it happened and I saw my baby(only 9 weeks I know but very recognisable as a little person) I then ended up in agony A&E and had to have an emergency D&C.

I need some positive stories from ladies who have had a loss and then gone on to have healthy pregnancies because at the moment I am going nuts. NUTS! in fact I think DH may divorce me if I continue in my current state. I am behaving like I have been diagnosed with a terminal illness rather than a wonderful much wanted BFP.

Sorry that should have read 'shouldn't' not 'should'

Hmm, i can't say you'll be fine and start feeling fine cos i'd be lying :(
I had a baby die at 13 weeks last June, now expecting a baby boy this June who was concieved 3 months after our loss. There was no reason for the other baby to die, it was perfectly normal and we were told it was a fluke, just something that sometimes happens for no reason at all. I'm neurotic now :) I'm 24 weeks and though all is good that feeling of something might/could go wrong is overwhelming. I just take things one day at a time and no doubt will do till i give birth, its sad because i see magazines saying things like 'the best nine months' etc, yet for me its 9 months of stress, but the result is worth it. xx

im now 37 weeks after a mmc (died 9 weeks scan at 12+3) last april my gp said look at it this way - out of the millions of sperm and eggs unfortanatly some are faulty doesnt mean the next one will be though....

i couldnt belive it when i saw the baby moving away at the 12 week scan this time and the lady said well somethings wiggling in there!

good luck chances of goon news are on your side!

It's really hard isn't it. I haven't really got any advice, because if I gave you any it would be very hypocritical of me as I am freaking out myself, but over on the conception boards there is a little freakout room for people like us that are mentalling quite a lot in early pregnancy following a miscarriage - feel free to come over if you want some support!