So cross at other people blurting out about my pregnancy!!

[KatieWatie]

I am about 7 or 8 weeks pregnant but it's early days and I had a MC back in December at 12 weeks so am keeping it all very quiet for now.

My mum in law is staying with us this week so it hasn't been easy, just little things like me not drinking and my mum-in-law asking (behind my back) if I'm pregnant because I'm 'showing'. My husband has just changed the subject when she has asked this (I am cross that she even asks, but anyway). I felt that she could think what she liked but there was no way either of us were going to confirm it.

My DH told his business partner/workmate which I said I was ok with because he's not associated with anyone I know or am related to, and I realised that my DH was happy and needed to share the news.

My husband has just come home, brought his workmate in for coffee which my mum in law made, and as we're all in the kitchen the workmate says "You're gonna be a mum, I hear!".

I shot him a glare but it's too late, the damage is done, my mum in law knows (there's no way she can't have heard), and it wasn't even us that told her. I've come back upstairs to think if there's a way out of this but I don't think there is.

I am so cross and upset at his lack of tact, but also with my husband for not warning him to keep schtum.

I suppose he thought if your DH had told him then the news was out.

Very annoying, but really it's best to tell NOBODY if you want to keep something quiet.

Not much help now, I realise!

lol yeah I guess so

my husband is a RUBBISH secret keeper and I thought if I let him tell one person then it would limit the possibility of him telling the world

as it turns out you're right though

i'm trying to think of things I can say he actually said instead "no dear, he said 'you're going to be anon I hear' because I'm about to become a mystery shopper!"

can you say 'hopefully I'll be a mum soon' and make it out that your husband has told him you're trying?

Then to MIL - 'did DH tell you we're hoping to get pregnant soon?'

Oh dear ... I hope it works out ok! x

I don't think you can blame the colleague. He was not to know that he'd been told but that your DH's mum was in the dark.

I agree with iwasyoungonce - if you want it to be a secret, tell no one.

And I would also be a bit upset if I was MIL - that you would tell a work colleague but not me.

No you're right, I'm not really blaming him, I just think he should've had more tact really but I suppose that was expecting a lot. I wish DH had kept his mouth shut altogether but that was never realistically going to happen. I suppose it's just one of those things. It just seems like there's a lot of crappy stuff about trying to get pregnant and then being pregnant, and telling people must be one of the nice things but it's been turned into this issue and I don't get to experience it. Oh well at least it's not my parents, that would've been 10 times worse.

I didn't tell a work colleague, my husband did, so it's him she should be cross with not me. She should respect my decision to not want anybody to know, and stop noseying behind my back as to whether I'm expecting or not. Sorry - am having other issues with her at the moment (and in fact have done for my entire relationship/marriage) so that might be clouding my judgment on whether she's entitled to be upset or not!!

NewMummyToBe nice one, I was going to give that a go, but erred on the side of her possibly not having heard and didn't want to make it a bigger thing, which in hindsight was probably a mistake because she has ears like a bat when she wants to.