If one more person tells me I know nothing about being tired until....

[BlingLoving]

after the baby arrives, I think I will lean over, spit in their face, kick them between the legs and walk away.

That or start screaming like a crazy woman, "I don't give a flying F%%% about how tired you think I will be. At least then I might get some understanding and sympathy and I'll certainly get some help from DH, from DM, from friends etc. Because you know what, I already get up every morning at 6am and that's after waking up at least once every 90 minutes all night and having to get up. And you know what, when I get up at 6 I don't get to stumble around for a bit but have to get dressed, and showered, and make myself look good for the City and then schlepp into the City where I have to perform at peak for 12 hours every day in order to earn the money that DH and I live on before staggering home. So butt out with your cute little suggestions that I should start getting used to waking up early now because just because you haven't had a job since a year before you got pregnant because your DH is a rich banker and can support you, does not mean that the rest of us have that pre-baby luxury."

Rant over.

Deep breath.

Sorry. I am just losing the will to live here today and the "helpful" message from someone suggesting that I'd have to "get used" to waking up early after very little sleep has pushed me over the edge.

I think that some of us just have easier pregnancies than others. Although mine was high risk, I ended up having a straightforward pregnancy and never felt excessively tired. Sleeping at night wasn't a problem - yes I did have to get up more often to go to the loo, but managed to get back to sleep pretty much straight away. I was expecting to fall alseep at my desk during the third trimester, but don't remember feeeling tired at work.

It was after DD was born that I become severely sleep deprived. It didn't help that she had medical issues which entailed me getting up to her several times a night, but that is another story.

I remember being pregnant and thinking that I was prepared for being woken up in the night because I was up so much needing to pee, or just struggling to sleep.

ha ha ha ha!!!!!!how wrong was I!!!!!!!!!

It is so so much worse with a newborn, when you wake in the night to go to the loo it is in your natural sleep cycle, whereas imagine having an alarm clock going off just as you are in your deepest sleep and then again 15 mins after you've just dropped off again, and repeat for the first 18 months of your child's life.

HELL. ON. EARTH. pregnancy was a doddle in comparison.

But once you have children and you are really tired, when some young thing breezes into work and goes 'Oh, I'm so tired, I got woken up by a car alarm in the night!' or 'I was out drinking, didn't get to bed till 1!' or similar, now that's annoying. Honestly, you think you're irritated, you don't know what true irritation is until that happens!