Why am I still sad I'm having a boy? :(

[crazybubbasmummy]

2nd boy and just feel really disappointed he's not a girl

I found out 2 weeks ago and thought give it some time and it will pass and thought once it sunk in I'd be over the moon

I've told myself I'm incredibly lucky to have a healthy baby and all the good things about having 2 boys and I believe all of this and felt fine

But everyone else I know are having girls and found out today another friend is having a girl and have just felt extremely jealous and want to cry

I know I'm bad feeling this but I can't shake it :(

This will all be a distant memory when your holding your beautiful brand new baby in your arms.

I wanted two little boys, when I found out that our second baby was a girl I was quite meh, when she arrived it was love at first sight, couldn't believe I'd been a bit meh.

Be good to yourself

Congratulations Bangon how exciting today of all days

thanks can't quite believe my luck!

This thread is two years old.

Not my bit of it - although didn't realise it was 2 years old when I first posted.

Congrats BangOn lovely news x

You're not sad you're having a boy.

You're sad you're not having a girl.

There's a difference.

You can be excited about the little boy you're going to have and the fun your little fellows will have together and still wistful about the girl you might never have.

It's particularly acute because all you know about your second boy is that he's a boy.

When he's born he'll be this boy, your boy, your baby.

I had DD3 8 months ago and a woman I know with 2 daughters had a little boy last week and there was a small part of me wishing I had had a boy. And I wouldn't change gorgeous DD3 for the world.

There's something about the abstract "family" you imagined become a specific reality that brings you face to face with your own mortality.

Go easy on yourself. :)

Thanks. Nearly a week on I do feel better - suspect that sadness/wistfulness will always lurk somewhere but now feel that it won't eat me up.