Broodey and Miserable

[TotallyandUtterly]

I've got a 2 year old and a 1 year old and I've not found it easy. DH and i work and only have my mum to help out as his family like the good bits but not the actual helping out or babysitting. They always made a million promises of being there to help and 'spoiling them rotten' but when the kids actually arrived, the in laws were crappy.

MIL has them once a week for a few hours max. She goes mad if this cannot happen for any reason due to us but happily cancels all she wants. SIL was supposedly excited but never gets involved and I find the whole thing frustraing. When 2nd baby was born, MIL spent £10 on an outfit for her and SIL didn't get her anything. It's not about the money, it's about the thought. DS (our first) was bought a cot from MIL and a couple of outfits from SIL but the novelty wore off when he was a week or 2 old.

SIL has just announced she's pregnant and I know MIL really will spoil hers rotten and help out when she's working etc. So obviously I'm upset as horrible as that is. And it truly is. SIL is a nice person and I'm overjoyed that she is bringing my niece/nephew into the world... but it's nagging away at me that the whole thing is going to be very unfair to my DCs who are obviously my priority.

I'm aware this all sounds selfish and PFB-ish, but hey, it's not AIBU, so I'll continue..

Well now I'm hideously broody. Despite two lots of PND and the whole thing being very hard work, my kids are the best things in the whole world to me, I worship them and I want more. But cannot manage financially as this stupid government making cuts means I'm losing my job in a couple of months.. and our mortgage is crippling us as it is.

Please tell me I'm not evil and persuade me not to get pregnant.

enjoy the two you have rather than putting ou and your family under pressure at a dificult time. if another baby features in your future, it wil happen at the right time. x

good advice... it's sooooooooo hard not to be broody when all muy friends are pregnant :(

piles, morning sickness, being very fat and uncomfortable, constipation, constant heartburn, stuffy nose and nosebleeds, not being able to sleep, swollen feet, legs and hands, stretchmarks, no drinking alcohol or cigarettes or being able to eat what you want, disgusting clothes, increased discharge, low sex drive, weird blotchy, dry skin, hair falling out, cant see feet or fanjo, not being able to shave legs or wear rings, ridiculously tired constantly, ridiculously cranky and hormonal constantly, very sore back/ hips/ joints, looking like shit, leaking boobs, sore nipples/breasts, not being able to find knickers that actually fit and dont cost 19 quid each.......

i feel the same, 2 dds and youngest is 10mo, fell pregnant with DD2 when DD1 was only 10mo. I had a horrendous time with DD2, massive pph and high risk if i went on to have a 3rd as i have big babies!

DP only just settled in a job after graduating 18mo and i am at risk of being made redundant this year.

BUT i can't help wanting a 3rd!! Its all i can think about just now and doesn't help that both sil and FOUR friends are all pregnant!

I have no real advice except i'm trying to remember how difficult it was looking after DD1 when heavily pregnant as she was still a baby. Plus we are getting married next year so throwing myself into that.

Maybe a few years down the line, but its so hard!!

Thanks Barbie, as a newly pregnant person your list has cheered me right up (not)

Rue- looks like we're in exactly the same boat. Keep reading Barbie's list. They were the highs of pregnancy for me- I had a bloody horrendous time haha. And a year later I still crave firelighters and coal! Don't know what that's about.

I just want that moment where the test says 3+ weeks and your life changes and you're excited etc. As soon as summer comes along, I get broody! I know we'll end up having another but now is totally not a good time.... Hrmph :(

Rue hate to tell you but I was 10 weeks pregnant with my second at my wedding so weddings don't always get in the way of broodyness :D ;)

oh Totally don't say that!! I joked to DP that there was still time to pop another one out before the wedding!! His face was a picture!

Think i'll just have to wait! :D