27 wks and huge, getting sore, achey and feel like an old woman. Help!

[BPrincess]

As the subject says, really.... its my first and I'm 41 and never been hugely fit or slim. Everything fine and had been feeling pretty pleased with myself, but over the past few weeks I've been getting all the 'God your bump is huge', 'It's really grown!' comments, which are starting to get annoying. And now, for the last few days I've been having to go really slow, and I've had achey hips after walking for more than 5-10 minutes, back has started to ache too, and sleeping has become trickier.

So I've got 3 months to go, and I'm thinking, oh my God, how am I going to cope?!

Sorry for the moany post, but wondering if anyone else is feelign the same, or has any encouraging words or good advice...

Exactly the same, could have written this post myself! I am 29 weeks and am same age as you, and this is my first. I have been doing ok but all of a sudden I feel massive and restricted in everything I try to do.

Can't sleep, can't eat without getting bad heartburn and am an emotional wreck, crying every day. My DH wonders what is going to happen next.

All I can think is that it's not long now, I am trying to stay positive and focused on the end result, when I am 100% sure we will feel like it was all worth it

Good to hear someone else going through the same thing. Sorry, that sounds all wrong. Naturally I'm sorry you're going through it, and would rather nobody was! Hope you know what I mean!

Yes, and heartburn too. Nightmare. Do you think we'll adjust? Perhaps it's just a period of change and things will improve a little? Have you spoken to your midwife lately? I see mine in 2 wks and hoping she'll be able to reassure me.

But you're right - end result is what we must think about. Focus!

I'm with you, BPrincess! I'm 39, 29+2 weeks with my first, but I feel/am absolutely massive, starting to panic how much bigger I will get with almost 3 months to go. Never imagined I'd get this big this early, but hey, what do I know.

I am hoping that soon I will just accept this as part of my lot and get on with it for the remainder of the pregnancy...hmm a tad optimistic there I think!

Have you got some Gaviscon? I got my GP to prescribe me some today and I got a massive bottle, very tempting to just neck it but I must take it slowly.

Saw my midwife yesterday and she just said it's part of pregnancy along with the bad back and lack of sleep. Got another appt in 2 weeks when I am 30 weeks so we shall see what she says then. I suspect I will just have to put up with these niggles as they seem very common place.

Yes, focus, focus, focus - must remember to focus at all times

Sorry to tell you this ladies, but it's only really going to get worse, I'm 37 weeks and the only way to describe how I've been feeling physically the past 2 months is SHIT. You will get through it though, keep your eye on the prize, give yourself the breaks you need at work or whatever and sleep wherever, however you can.

HANG IN THERE!!

Ho hum, can I join you please? I'm 28 weeks with DC3 I am only 25, I wouldn't say I was super fit at all, but I am pretty active, do loads of walking etc. The last few days I have been tired, feeling huge, and have started to get heartburn, also not sleeping very well. I had been feeling really well until last weekend. I am now remembering why I had sworn not to have any more children......after I had DS I used to look at pregnant women and rather than think 'ah, how lovely' it was much more 'oh, you poor, poor cow woman!!' I had forgotten I used to think this.......

On a happier note, although it feels crap now (and unfortunately will probably get worse) our lovely little babies will so definitely be worth it :o

Hi everyone!

I'm 28 weeks 4 days with my first and agree with absolutely everything that's been said: I feel huge, tired, achy with SPD and go absolutely livid when people tell me I look huge ! I mean why people think it's supposed to be funny/cute to tell someone that in the first place is beyond me, but it sure irritates the crap out of me, as well as the touching of the bump!

Well, like it's been said; let's keep our eyes on the prize ladies !!

You will get used to it to some extent, I'm 35+5 with DC2 and feel immeasurably crap but there is only a month left now thank God.

And you will forget how you felt, decide to have another one and then have to go through the whole experience again with a toddler to look after!

Hang in there, it's all worth it in the end :)

I am 27+4 and am definitely feeling your pain

I am huge, I know this and am measuring about 4wks ahead of where I should be - BUT, if I get asked one more time if I'm carrying twins by (well meaning, I'm sure) acquaintances, I will scream! It's not really funny the first time you hear it, mildy irritating by the fifth - but by the time you've heard it 50 or so times it is neither funny, amusing or clever and if you dare touch my bump one more time, I will swing for you! Aahh, rant over

I am also in a lot of pain with SPD - normal every day tasks are now really difficult and painful, I cannot walk far and getting out of bed is a near impossibility.

Sadly though, by far the most difficult thing is trying to enertain my 3.6yr old DD, especially now it is half-term. It's not fair to be stuck in the house all day, so I've been taking her places like soft play, town, local parks etc just so she doesn't go crazy with boredom. All this extra walking has had me literally in tears with pain by the evening

Then there is the heartburn, which means I am drinking Gaviscon like it's going out of fashion, the fact that I cannot see to 'deforest' my legs and lady garden anymore and the night-time leg cramps to contend with too!

I know, from my experience with DD, that the pain aspect will only get worse - I had SPD with her and was close to needing crutches by the end. BUT this is all temporary and the prize at the end is the most amazing gift your will receive. Plus, when my I feel my little man wriggling and kicking in my belly it makes every single ache, pain and discomfort absolutely worth it

I feel like that too - 30 weeks with number 3 and I'm 36 - but tbh I was huge with all my babies (I was 30 with my first and 32 with my 2nd). The back ache has kicked in just the last 3 weeks or so - since 27 weeks - before that I was enormous for dates from early on but not really suffering ill effects. I only work 1 day and one eve a week but am struggling with standing for extended periods at work (teaching) or sitting on the floor which I also used to do all the time, both with my own kids and at work (primary school age at the day job and quite a "hippy" set up at the school) - now I can barely get up if I sit on the floor for more than 5 mins and my hips hurt for ages afterwards. I am having an elective c-section (due to previous birth history) so I know preg will be over at 39 weeks, but on the other hand know I will continue to feel 90 years old for at least 3 or 4 weeks after that due to the c-section itself! It's worth in the end, eventually, when they are about 6 months old and sleep for more than 2 hours at a stretch you can start to feel human again! :O

I am actually not 36 yet - not that it matters but shows I am feeling my age, I am 35 for another 3 months . My kids are pretty good and understand I can't lift them easily at the moment, and both try to "help" me - with varying usefulness! Only thing I am doing a lot less of is long walks, which I used to rely on to keep my little boy calm (a bit like a puppy - small boys cannot be kept indoors all day) but luckily we have a playground right by the house, they have lots of local friends right on our road, and they both go to Kindergarten 8.30-12.30 on my non work days, so I don't think they are suffering except when I am wiped out and aching after work (today) and suggest a DVD til dinner time!

I'm 26 weeks with number 2 and my mother assured me that i looked as big as i was when i had no.1. Cheers. It's all getting very uncomfy, varicose veins of the VAGINA! not nice, heartburn, tiredness, nausea is back, rediculously slow, and i've started the waddle. I also have the most rediculously wiggly baby, he never stops.
All i keep thinking is that there are 14 more weeks to go, and if it was anything like last time then i'm going to be in trouble.
AGAGAGAGAGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

So i can feel your pain. It will get worse before it gets better, but then it's all over and you have the joy of no sleep for 6-8 months. (Oh and a wonderful baby)

I feel your pain! I'm 27 weeks too with my first. I didn't realise how blissful my 2nd trimester had been until I started getting horrible back aches & getting really tired a few weeks ago. Some days are good, other days are excruciating and similar to you make me wonder how on earth to get through the next 3 months.

If it's any consolation, I am only 25 and also feel like it's a huge strain on my body, achy hips and the like as if I'm a granny! I guess it just depends on your body and your build (and maybe also the position of the baby?). A few friends of mine recommended sleeping with a pillow sandwiched in between your legs, my hips have felt a lot better since heeding that advice. Also doing lots of stretching and not sitting/lying/standing in the same position for too long. Sometimes nothing helps though and it just plain sucks!

Hang in there! And listen to your body. It's doing a pretty huge and amazing job, which is easy to forget.

OMG is all I can say.

I am only just 23 weeks and been suffering with backpain for the past week, in fact it's been excruciating at times, walking, sitting, standing, I've never experienced anything like this before. I'm 33 yrs old, slim (small frame), active, though slowed right down in pregnancy to just doing prenatal yoga and walking.

Not only that, but yesterday I sneezed and peed myself!!! Absolutely mortified, I thought I'd been working those pelvic floor muscles! Been suffering with heartburn for several weeks (though that's nothing compared to the backpain), not sleeping at night, having to use a pregnancy pillow, and I'm starting a new short-term contract next week til end of May... and to think it may get worse?... I don't know how I'm going to cope!!!! Midwife says backpain is due to muscles/ligaments softening (not weight gain), may need phsyio if doesn't improve...

Signing in!! I'm 28 wks, 35yrs old, sore and knackered!! Really feeling it this time, think adding a toddler into the mix makes all the difference!

Oh. Oh. I am now speechless. So... we're all going through it, it seems, regardless of age, fitness, or anything else really, and it ain't gonna get no better.

Ah well, somehow it's still comforting to have so many in the same boat. A problem shared, as they say...

So it's all about focusing on the end result it seems, and knowing that it won't be forever, and just trying to take it easy.

Heartburn tip: fruit flavoured Tums (much nicer than Gaviscon in my opinion - really quite yummy!)

I have a pregnancy pillow, the kind of snakey one, and sometimes I like it, sometimes I chuck it out of bed and go back to pillow between the knees.

And I'm learning to factor in more time to get to the station/shops/loo...!

And let's up those pelvic floor exercises, ladies! At least they can be done in bed!!!
x

Not only do I feel big, I officially am! Midwife measured me today, and because I am 'significantly' larger than I should be (34 cm instead of 30 ), she's referred me for a growth scan. But I'm convinced she measured me differently than my usual midwife (who wasn't there today), I could have sworn she felt for my pubic bone much lower down.
Of course, could be wishful thinking on my part...

Franimal I suffer with back pain too- so painful by the end of the day I am in tears. I had this with my last pg too and saw an osteopath who was brilliant- cured it in 4 sessions, so worth looking into!