First time pregnant and terrified

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I came across this website whilst searching for help with the flu that i currently have and i hope someone could help me with another problem.

I am feeling really down, and yes i know a lot will say the exact same thing as my gp, dont worry its normal its just hormones.

Now i know im not a doctor but i know that this isnt right just thinking of somthing can send me into crying fits for hours, and tonight when my partner failed to acknowlege that i wanted a hug that was it sat crying thinking that everything is going wrong.

I have never felt depressed before that i can recall and as i said my doctor has to have been the most unsypathetic person on the planet, all seeing her did was make me cry all the way home and wonder why i am getting everything wrong.

As i say nothing in particular sets me off just little things, does anyone have any ideas or been similar?

how far along are you?

If you are first trimester then I'm afraid it probably is just a side effect of your hormone levels.

There are ways of dealing with it a bit though. You could try distracting yourself, so have a nice bath, eat something that's a treat or even have an early night with a book and make sure you sleep enough. Maybe do a little internet window shopping to help you focus on your baby and all the cute things you'll be able to get (if that helps).

Please don't just sit on the sofa and focus on feeling down, I think it would may well help to find a way not to focus on that feeling. Maybe you could phone a friend or your mum for a chat?

Also maybe you could be a bit more proactive with your DP, so try just hugging him rather than waiting for him to come to you. He might be worried about making you worse or not really understand how you are feeling or might be a bit scared about the baby and not able to cope with his own feelings and comfort you. If you're newly pregnant don't be surprised if it takes a while to sink in for him.

Having said that, doctors shouldn't be unsympathetic and if there is a deeper problem then there is such a think as ante-natal depression. Please talk to your midwife if you have persistant feelings of hopelessness or dispair and can't imagine being happy in the future.

I hope that helps and welcome on board

I would second that bit about talking to your midwife, she probably has experience in helping women who experience depression during pregnancy whereas your doctor is fobbing you off a bit I think!

I am sure you can get depression during pregnancy, maybe ask your midwife as suggested and also see if you can see another doctor. If you have expereinced depression before then you know how you feel.
I know someone who only felt normal (not depressed) when she was pregnant. She went to the doctors and got help in the end. They just thought it was baby blues but it wasnt.
If you are not trully happy with what you have been told then tell you doctor or midwife. Only you know how you feel and pregnancy is different for everyone. Try not to worry to much, I know its hard. Good luck, hope it works out.

You can definately get depression during depression, called prenatal depression.

I'm the opposite I have severe depression and am now 11weeks pregnant, they withdrew my strong antidepressants at 6weeks, and my depression seems to have gone.

I'd definately say if you think you have depression in pregnancy I'd go and speak to someone as it can flare up and just to remember that if it was a suspected broken arm or leg or the flu you'd see the doctor so the same principle should go for depression.