Im so scared :o(

[pinkyblueish]

Hey you guys..
Im in the early stages of pregnancy (10-11 weeks) and i just feel so terrible. Is this normal ? Ive been referred to the peri natal mental health team by my GP and im sure everythings going to be ok but i just feel at breaking point. All i want to do is sleep, i dont want to talk to anybody, nothing really interests me and all i do is lay anxiously worrying about everything from my babys health to my waste of space ex partner.
Any tips or advice or anything would be really appreciated.
Thank you xxx

I felt pretty dreadful around 10 - 11 weeks. I was tired all the time and pretty hormonal, not dissimilar to PMT (sometimes even the idea of having to get up and walk across the room made me want to weep).

If it's any consolation, I think it is a normal phase to go through. When I got to 14+ weeks, and was past the first scan, I suddenly started to feel great - full of energy and much more positive and less worried about things going wrong.

I had a terrible first trimester which probably had something to do with my age (40 at the time) but I was so wiped out and suffering that I could barely get off the sofa. I think it's quite common. It's good that you are going to see someone about it and hopefully they will help.

If it's any comfort it does get better. In a few weeks you will feel relatively normal again for a while, until of course the later stages of pregnancy but that's more physical than anything else.

Hope you feel better soon.
x

I think that lots of girls feel bad mentally and physically with a first pregnancy, hormones all over the place, my daughter was distraught about lots of things in the first few months, are there any young/new mums groups near you or even some-one who is pregnant who you can talk to, a trouble shared doesn't seem so bad, x x

Yeah I felt really crap at about that time, and I had to go to a BIG family wedding 3 days before my 12 week scan, was a complete bitch to everyone.

So sorry to hear that you're feeling like this, but I'm really glad that you've obviously sought help. The first trimester is pretty ropey - more so for some women. Physically you can feel dreadful and lots of women get very down. For most it gets better after a few weeks / months but it's also 'normal' to feel low for longer.

You talk about an ex-partner - does this mean you've recently split up? If so, presumably you're under a great deal of stress from that. Break ups are hard at the best of times, let alone when you're pregnant.

I hope you find someone to talk to through your GP and that you get plenty of support for as long as you need it. You're doing the right thing by not denying how you feel - sometimes just being able to describe it is the best way forward. Don't work too hard at explaining it or trying to make it go away. I went through a big depression about 6 years ago and the counsellor I saw talked about not trying to push it away but, instead, just learning to sit with it. It took me ages to understand what she meant - all I could think of was doing something to 'get better' but in the end I think I understood and it really helped. Try to be kind to yourself.

I've found simple breathing exercises to be really helpful in this pregnancy. It's a basic form of mediation. All you need to do is sit quietly, close your eyes and concentrate on counting your breaths up to 4 over and over. Not exactly ground-breaking stuff but for me it feels like a positive way of relaxing.

Sending very unMN hugs and plenty of . Good luck. Keep in touch if it will help. x

Hey pinkyblueish, it is normal yes, awful, tiring, crappy, grumpy & fooking horrible but normal. Try to relax when you start feeling anxious e.g. have a nice long shower or bath, put your feet up, pamper yourself .etc. :)

Hoping you feel better soon, just keep your chin up! x