Serious cold feet!

[coco2901]

I'm 31 weeks pregnant with our first... I'm terrified.

OH has always wanted children, is so excitedand is preparing to be a SAHD.

I on the other hand have always been fairly ambivalent about the prospect of children. I got a bit caught up in the fantasy and OHs excitment when I agreed to this. I feel utterly miserable. I hate the irreparable damage I can see the pregnancy doing to my body. I miss my old life already. I'm not even convinced I like children, though everyone keeps assuring me i'll feel differently when it's my own. I love my career and I'm starting to feel like i'm losing my 'edge', I'm tired and indecisive, I find it hard to focus and i'm worried that I'm just not performing anymore.

I feel like this is driving a wedge between OH and I. I'm just so scared.

please someone tell me i'm not alone... I feel so guilty for being this way...

You're not alone...it's mega anxiety. I feel it everyday and it's getting worse as I get closer to my due date. But...when I think about seeing my baby's little face I feel really happy...I definitely want the baby despite feeling apprehensive about actually having a baby.

Don't forget that your hormones are all over the place and it can get pretty difficult to think straight at times.

Focus on the positive bits about having a child, try not to think about your body. Besides, it's not written in stone that you will have a less than attractive figure afterwards. I see women all the time who've had children and still have amazing figures. Take good care of yourself and eat well throughout the pregnancy and you will give yourself a better chance of getting back to your old self.

You are not alone - I am 35 weeks pregnant and I have not felt joy for the entire time! I keep lying to my friends saying I am thrilled and can't wait but in reality I just want my body back.

I am sad that I have never been travelling and that I didn't manage to have a lovely wedding day before getting pregnant.

I don't know whether these feeling will change however I have just read a thread about people feeling unmaternal (sorry don't know how to link threads) and as usual I feel much better.

Have you spoken to your midwife about this - I was referred for some extra support and it has been fabulous so far.

Hope you can find some positives about motherhood one thing I always find is that parents are so negative about being parents, but there must be good bits otherwise why the hell would people have more than one!