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Am I crazy

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SeptMummy · 15/02/2011 10:04

I'm 9 wks pregnant for the first time and great friends have asked us on a summer holiday to their house in S. of France for the last week of August (I'm due around the 23rd September, although haven't had a scan yet). Am I crazy to be thinking of going? Friends don't know I'm pregnant yet as loathed to tell until after scan, and although I can leave our answer for a week I don't think I can delay it 3Wks!!
We would drive there and it is a very relaxed week of chilling out by the pool, but having never been pregnant before is it madness to be away 4wks before due??

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Sierra19 · 15/02/2011 10:11

I am pregnant for the first time (37+5) so I can't really help but I would say that earlier in the pregnancy I felt like I would be normal and do most things up until the end etc.

Now I am near the end (and indeed for the last few weeks) I don't want to do anything and I certainly don't want to be away from home.

Of course, everyone is different but my point is it is soooo difficult to tell early on how you will feel later. Even if you feel up for it you may not be very comfortable with the travelling?

OompaLumpa · 15/02/2011 10:21

i think it is a personal choice but in any event, you should make sure there are medical facilities nearby should you need them and you have any travel insurance in place to cover you if required - hopefully not of course! i think a week chilling out sounds lovely though.
Maybe call the midwife at your surgery and ask their advice?
If you decide not to go, i am due end of June and would be delighted to take your place - i might be needing a good break by then

apples82 · 15/02/2011 11:45

I say it is down to how you feel. I don't see any harm in going, just be prepared for the prospect that you may end up going into labour and giving birth there.

If you are ok with that prospect, then go ahead for a lovely holiday. For all you know, it could be just the relaxation that you are looking for before the birth .

nancerama · 15/02/2011 11:53

Hi Apples,

This lady teaches pregnancy yoga. If it's a bit far for you to travel, she may be able to advise you of something more local to your area www.yogareading.co.uk/

I go to her Caversham class on Saturday mornings.

nancerama · 15/02/2011 11:54

Oops, wrong thread. Sorry.

cocoachannel · 15/02/2011 11:57

That's a tough one as there's no way of knowing how you'll feel! I can't see any practical problems given you'll be driving and it's France. I agree with apples that it might be a wonderful way to relax before the birth, but my experience has been that although I feel fine since about 36 weeks, like Sierra, I have become a real homebody and don't like straying too far from my nest, which is totally out of character!

lukewarmmama · 15/02/2011 12:03

Hmm. I wouldn't plan on it being enjoyable. You might be fine, but quite a significant number of ladies by that stage would think the prospect of sitting in a car for hours, to go and spend a week somewhere unbearably hot would be their idea of medieval torture. Notwithstanding that full term is anywhere from 37-42 weeks, so you could actually only be a week away from giving birth. If its something you could cancel then fine, but if not then maybe don't plan at this stage...

lilly13 · 15/02/2011 15:38

you never know with these things... your baby might come early, and if you don't mind giving birth in france, then go for it. as you get bigger, you also may not take the heat very well (well, depends on how hot it will get there this summer). although it might be a really nice break... this is a personal choice. i prefer to nest so close to the due date and i would get the holiday out of the way earlier in the summer... maybe don't commit at this stage and see how you feel during the 3rd trimester?

vj32 · 15/02/2011 16:25

How good is your French? I wouldn't risk giving birth in another country unless I and partner were fluent in the language. Otherwise if you need medical help it could get very scary.

expectingno3 · 15/02/2011 16:25

If its their house, and they'll be going anyway, there's no major commitment regards paying a deposit or anything, right? I'd say yes for now, then talk to them again after you've had the scan. What with it being your first, I'd personally stay closer to home 4 weeks before the big day. But as others have said, you really can't tell how you'll feel.

Lulumaam · 15/02/2011 16:28

There is an increased risk of DVT when prgnant and being in the car for a looooong time, sat still, is a bad move.

i would not go, you might not be relaxed, wondering about every twinge and hte journey would be hellish

Nicplus1and1baking · 15/02/2011 18:55

I would say a bit mad in my opinion, as luluman says being say in one position for so long is not ideal no to mention the fact hat sooo uncomfortable as well as the weeing requent coming back in later stages!

Can you not just say yes for now but then obviousley after 12 wk tel them and explain im sure they will understand.

Youre classed as full term then do you really want to take the risk, i know there will be sufficient care but you would not want to be traveling back for he first week or 2 so you would have to consider being in a different country/house etc with ur lovely brand new baby

humph123 · 16/02/2011 13:42

i'm not sure i'd fancy it - the long drive and heat. you might not be too comfortable plus what if you go into labour early?

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SeptMummy · 16/02/2011 20:06

Ok, that's a mixed bag of responses!! Thank you all for letting me know your thoughts... a bit more thinking is obviously required, might go with "expectingno3" for now and say yes, but to be discussed after scan!

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del1 · 16/02/2011 20:12

Can you not just tell them you cant make August, but can do June / July? You would be feeling more mobile than you would at 8 months!?
Im thinking swollen feet / ankles and feeling extra hot at that late stage?
But then again, if you decide to go - you can sit with your feet in a bucket of ice
If they cant do earlier on, then just say yes - I would never turn down a holiday in the sun

thornykate · 16/02/2011 20:39

If it was me I would have to decline simply because at that stage of pregnancy I need to wee every 3 minutes & can't imagine how long the journey would take with all the toilet stops.

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