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Wysiwig · 13/02/2011 08:59

Would anyone here put their scan picture on facebook?

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bowlingball · 13/02/2011 18:41

Personally I wouldn't - partly because I wasn't interested in seeing other persons when I wasn't pregnant but also because a lot of people on my FB are acquaintances rather than friends. I also hope that i don't end up putting endless baby photos and comments about junior that would make me roll my eyes if I read them - little bit to EdTV for my liking! but each to their own!

mummysweeangel · 13/02/2011 18:56

[hmmm] isnt it interesting the way some people think about things -

Each to their own definetly -

Also think its easy to spot the "first time round" pregnant people on this post and the ones that already have a few children.

Its a funny ole word eh ! :)

mummysweeangel · 13/02/2011 18:57

word (should have said "WORLD" ) Wooops

captainbarnacle · 13/02/2011 19:35

"Also think its easy to spot the "first time round" pregnant people on this post and the ones that already have a few children."

Oo - how are you doing this?!

differentnameforthis · 13/02/2011 21:01

mrswantstobeamum

You can make your profile pictures private too.

differentnameforthis · 13/02/2011 21:04

Well I have 2 children. Dd2's scan pic is on my profile, cos I want it there. People don't want to see it, well they can hide it! It is my page, therefore up to me what I use it for.

AlmightyCitrus · 13/02/2011 21:14

I put my scan picture on. I'd kept my pregnancy quiet as I'd had to have an amnio due to my age. So didn't say anything until I got the all clear. I told family and close friends, then put the picture on as my announcement to everyone else.

I'm not banging on about my pregnancy on FB though, nor will I be posting endless baby photos and updates.

My profile and pictures are private, so only people I choose to be friends with can see.

Facebook wasn't even around when I had my first 3!

peanuthead · 13/02/2011 21:24

At my 12 week scan my baby had a hige nuchal fold - subsequently turned out to be incompatible with life. Hence every time I see a scan photo on fb it's like getting a kick in the chest. And I'm not alone in that - check the infertikity threads.

I miscarried my next baby at 19 weeks - if I'd put my scan photo up on fb I'd have had to tell 200 people.

Just a thought.

captainbarnacle · 13/02/2011 21:28

Peanuthead - very sorry to read about your babies. I agree that people should consider such possibilities before they post their scan pics or their news on a public forum. But people cannot live their lives behind closed doors for the fear of upsetting others. And they cannot keep everything private and pent up with the worry that things might go wrong.

peanuthead · 13/02/2011 21:36

Captian b - absolutely they can't and sadly I have to learn to deal with constant metaphorical kicks from various sources.

but i just wanted people to be aware of the other side of things as so often they're not.

scans - apart from those creepy (IMO that is) 4d ones are to check the babies health. not for FB!

captainbarnacle · 13/02/2011 21:37

Have to agree about 4d scans - not for me!!

midori1999 · 13/02/2011 21:47

Sorry about your babies peanuthead. Sad

I have posted my scan pictures on Facebook and will continue to do so. I also posted photos of my extremely premature baby daughter on when she was in NICU. She was still a baby to be celebrated. I would have also posted photos of her twin, but the only photos we have of her are either when she is dying or after she died and I am not sure it's appropriate. However, in the same way, she was our baby daughter to be celebrated too and I hate having photos of one twin and not the other. For that reason we don't have any photos of the twins around the house, but a part of me thinks 'sod what anyone else thinks!'.

My cousins baby was due shortly after my girls should have been born and yet after they died her status was constant updates with comments from her already named unborn baby, such as ' and Mummy can't wait for Daddy to get home from work'. I did find that a bit upsetting and insensitive, but it's not the same as someone posting a scan picture and I was happy for her that her baby was OK.

Sparklies · 13/02/2011 22:43

I did with my first two children (not all the time, just occasionally - once to announce and maybe a 3D scan later on)

It wasn't until recently that I read about infertile women or those who have had miscarriages finding them particularly upsetting.

As somebody who has had two miscarriages myself (fortunately both first trimester) it still didn't occur to me.. I guess whenever I saw other people's scans, even immediately after my losses, I never equated it with my own. I was envious of them but figured their pregnancy did not reflect on my loss - the scan photo itself did not upset me.. the news itself was the tough part. My mistake was naively assuming everyone else felt like I did. It seems that for many, scan photos are actually more upsetting than newborn photos (which are also upsetting) for several reasons, but people don't mind older babies as much.

Now 27 weeks pregnant with my third but nobody on Facebook (aside from the family and few close friends we have told) knows, as I am high risk times about 3, so no reason to put up scan photos! They'll just get newborn photos as an announcement if all goes well when it happens.

If FB did know, I probably wouldn't post scan photos as I now know it would upset at least two friends that I know of (and goodness knows how many more I don't know about) but you have to draw the line somewhere and I will always put up photos of my newborns.

crochetcircle · 14/02/2011 08:45

I had to give up fb after my mc because it upset me so much. I'm glad I did as it enabled me to concentrate on me not random people I'd met who turned out to be pg and overshare.

It wasn't their fault that I was upset, but it definitely changed my approach, and I've noticed quite a few friends (now I'm back on fb) who haven't mentioned their pregnancy until the baby arrives. Mc is extremely common, and I wonder whether these people had experiences similar to me?

I personally would not post a scan pic. It seems tmi and I'd be worried about upsetting someone who had recently lost a baby.

But then I hardly put anything on fb anyway.

lindy100 · 14/02/2011 08:50

I have with both - it is easier to tell people this way thatn make a series of announcements - esp as I have close friends and family on four continents.

btw, I rarely use fb on the whole - haven't even posted a status update for months. So I don't feel I am sharing too much.

Firawla · 14/02/2011 09:01

i've not put any of mine on fb, because i don't tend to post much on it anyway would rather just tell things to people individually but some of my friends put scan pics up and i consider it quite normal to do that. i do put baby pics up and will announce birth on facebook after baby has been born but cant be bothered doing pregnancy updates, as personally i dont like everyone to know all my business

allatsea1 · 14/02/2011 12:45

Absolutely not. Of what benefit is it?

Kitesurfgirl · 14/01/2012 16:42

I'm sick of seeing scan pictures on fb. I had a mmc last year, quite late on. I also hate ppl posting info saying they're pregnant at like 6 weeks or something! I hope if never happens to them, but if it did, they too would see how crass it is to post early scan pics or pregnancy info. Your baby is not safe until they are out and breathing! actually contemplating deleting fb cos it really is getting rife out there!

FutureNannyOgg · 14/01/2012 17:17

I have done for DS, and I expect I will do again.

I don't think it's a "tiny detail" at all, it's a pretty big deal, and it's not like I'm recognisable in the picture, to be fair, one scan is very much like the next.

I have a lot of close friends I don't see very often, and family who are interested in seeing pics, and anyone who isn't interested doesn't have to look or comment.

fuckityfuckfuckfuck · 14/01/2012 17:23

Kitesurfgirl, it clearly bothers you enough that you've searched for and bumped an old thread. I am sorry for your losses but I think this is getting more the norm now, and why not? I didn't want to do a big announcement, putting a scan pic up was a good way of telling all the people I couldn't tell in person.

kiki22 · 14/01/2012 17:34

I've got all mine on so that all the family and friends can see them everyones so excited would hate to deny them the pics or worse have a the lot of them visit to see pics lol.

I honestly didn't realise how funny people are about keeping things private until i came on mumsnet for me over sharing about your pregnancy on facebook is talking about constipation or yay i got a show not sharing your babys photo, saying that i only have under 30 friends on FB all of them family or actual friends might feel different if there were people i'm not close to.

blushingmare · 15/01/2012 08:25

It's entirely a personal decision and no judgement on anyone that does, but I wouldn't. I do use Facebook regularly for a bit of fun, but let's face it, it's a pretty shallow thing, and therefore not something I want to share the most important event of my life on. Didn't announce the pg on there for the same reason, although now it's public, I do mention it from time to time in chats. Will hold off from banging new baby pics up there immediately, but with time Im sure will start posting a few. I just feel that those first moments of everything are special and intimate. Things I would happily and proudly share with my "real" friends and family, but not with the Facebook world, where it's likely to flash up on your news feed right after a video of a dog bonking a lamppost or your random friend from primary school getting lashed at someone's hen do..... But then, maybe that's me being weird Grin

Kayzr · 15/01/2012 08:27

I've put mine on there because it's the best way of sharing my scan picture with my family who don't live near me.

McPhee · 15/01/2012 08:30

Yes, I have but I only have ppl on my fb who I actually know in rl. I wanted to share my happiness Smile

justhayley · 15/01/2012 09:22

Iv put all mine up Smile 7, 11, 12, 19 & 20 and will be putting my 23 weeks up when I get time (yes iv had a lot of scans). Everyone I know who's had babies has put the scan pics on FB so in my little world its totally normal. Plus it's how I told not really close friends I was having a bubba Smile