9 wks PG with no.3. Proper bump already but don't want to announce it:(

[haribofan]

I wondered if anyone was in the same boat. I am PG with no.3 and have pretty much lied to friends who have asked if I want anymore etc, particularly as TTC was taking a while and I wanted to protect myself. DC are 6 and 3. With them I didn't announce anything til at least 12 wks. However my current 9 wk bump is the size of my 18wk bump with DC1 and I just don't know how I can hide it for another 3 weeks. I feel very self conscious even with loose clothes on. I have considered just telling a few close friends who I'll be seeing socially in the next 3 weeks as I would definitely tell them if I did miscarry. However, because I've kept quiet with previous pregnancies, it just feels like I'm tempting fate by sharing my news. Help!

I think its quite normal to show earlier with dc3, i am 14 weeks but have been showing for ages, enough for people to tell at 9 weeks but then i was not too bothered about people knowing so no experience on that side really, but so many people i know have said they are the same with the 3rd, much bigger bump sooner...
but if you just don't say anything or bring it up or hint at all then do you think they would ask outright, or they may just slightly notice and wonder?
if you really feel like you cant hide it any more but you are worried about making sure everything is okay, what about a private scan now? or would that be too expensive/not possible?

Sometimes people can tell even if you don't have a bump, just by your face. It changes shape apparantly. Although when MIL says she suspected before we told her, I am more sceptical cos she always makes out she has a reason for knowing something when she hasn't been told.
Just wear loser clothes, tell them its water retention? and yes you could tell a few close friends if you can trust them not to say anything as you would tell them anyway, but try and relax and don't stress. Its normal to worry about telling people before 12 weeks, but sometimes you can't keep quiet :)

I'm 7 weeks and also feel like I'm starting to show - I've told my mum and a few v close friends, which has helped me relax a bit because I had an mc a few months ago and it really helped having a few trusted individuals to fall back on. Also it just helped to have told a few people from the wanting to burst with the news point of view! I didn't feel I was tempting fate, as it's only a few close people.

If your friends are kind and suspect they may not ask as won't want you to have to lie.
Assume nobody will notice, people are more self absorbed than you think! If they're in any doubt they won't ask you as you might just have put on weight.
It's only 3 weeks so if you definitely don't want to tell them don't.

haribo, I am in the same boat as you though we live abroad and skype only shows my face

First of all big congrats!! Do not feel like you will jinx the pregnancy if you tell people early. As they believe here in the Middle East: It has been written already (fate I mean). What will be will be. Entrusting a few close friends will not make you risk your baby.

FWIW: We had to tell the most gossipy family members at 6 and 7 weeks respectively in my first 2 pregnancies and in this one at 8 weeks. My bump this time was so big in the beginning, now I'm 13 weeks and it has evened itself out. Not much you can do, your tummy has already done this twice so remembers earlier.

Good luck with the rest of the pregnancy and do not worry!!