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A 'what would you do' type question...

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Basketcase28 · 08/02/2011 16:44

Hi all,

I'm 38 weeks pregnant. It has been a reasonably straight-forward pregnancy and health wise i've been absolutely fine.
Today i've passed out twice and have felt like i was going to pass out on a number of other occasions throughout the day.
I received some bad news this morning which i think has knocked me for six, so not sure if that has anything to do with the fact i'm feeling a bit under the weather.
I've felt the baby moving, but movements haven't been as strong or regular as they have been recently...but i think i may be being paranoid.

My question is...should i take myself up to the hospital to be checked out?
I don't want to waste anyone's time if it's nothing, but, on the other hand, i'd like some reassurance...
And, if i do go up the hospital, should i phone the maternity ward first and speak to a midwife to let them know i'm coming in/ask their advice on whether to come in...?

Sorry if this post is a bit "Durrrr" but this whole pregnancy lark is very new to me!

Thanks in advance for your help.

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nunnie · 08/02/2011 16:48

I personally would in your situation just to be on the safe side.

duckmum · 08/02/2011 16:54

Go get checked out, contact M/W at hospital (my notes has a in case of concerns number on the front)and I am sure they will get you checked out.

Things may be totally fine and down to being a bad day but feeling faint and decreased movements should always be checked out. Hope all goes well.
Sounds like you have had a rough day.

SnapFrakkleAndPop · 08/02/2011 16:56

Movements do decrease as baby runs out of room but get checked anyway. Fingers crossed for you.

MandaHugNKiss · 08/02/2011 17:00

Sorry you've been knocked for six - there's never good timing to get bad news, but there are certainly better times than others and at the end of pregnancy is a duff time indeed!

Please do get yourself checked out at the hospital. If it's nothing, great. It will take an hour or two to put your mind at rest. If things aren't all ok...

I'm not meaning to worry you, but I think you already know it's best to just get checked rather than regret not going. You (like me, often!) just need a little push. Consider yoursef pushed!

It's probably all fine but best to hear that from a professional than random internet people Let us know what they say.

BlingLoving · 08/02/2011 17:01

I'd phone the hospital. Midwives are trained to be able to offer advice by phone and will err on the side of caution so you don't have to worry they'll dismiss you.

tummytickler · 08/02/2011 17:06

Phone the hospital first, and talk to a midwife. They may ask you to come in or just offer advice over the phone.
IME a midwife would much rather see a woman, and send her home reassured. It is very unlikely they will see it as time wasting, it is part of their role.
Sorry to hear you had bad news

bodencustomer · 08/02/2011 17:14

Not time wasting at all. At this time of day you probably need to ring the Labour Ward and they will want you to go in to be examined.

It's true that sometimes babies move less at the end of pregnancy because they have less room, sometimes they go a bit quieter just before labour starts but it could also be something that needs immediate intervention and no-one on the internet can tell you which it is so don't delay but call them now, they won't mind a bit.

Come back later and let us know how you got on.

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Basketcase28 · 08/02/2011 17:32

Thanks everyone for your replies.

I've spoken to a midwife and i'm going to go into hospital now to be checked. Am sure things will be okay.
The bad news i received earlier was discovering that my partner (ex-partner as of a few hours ago) was cheating on me, so needless to say i was a bit all over the place - but that's a whole other thread!
And my priority is my baby, not that cheating fuckwit. :)

Again, thanks for taking the time to reply.

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bodencustomer · 08/02/2011 17:42

Sorry you're having a bad time.

LittleMilla · 08/02/2011 21:09

Basketcase you poor thing, how did it go?

What an absolute fecking asshole. Obivously don't know you or anything to do with your relationship. But the thinking of your sitch makes me . Cannot imagine how you're feeling.

PipPipPip · 08/02/2011 22:07

SENDING HUGS

ghosteditor · 08/02/2011 22:09

basket, that's awful, what a fuckwit. Hope you and the bairn are ok!

LoopyLoopsPoopaScoop · 08/02/2011 22:28

Hope it went well, you did absolutely the right thing to get checked out.

So sorry to hear about your cockmuncher ex. :(

Take care. :)

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Basketcase28 · 09/02/2011 09:06

Hi all,

Thanks for your responses - and the much needed hugs :)

All fine with baby. As soon as they strapped me up to the trace machine, she began wriggling away - obviously determined to make me out to be a liar!
I have a rather lovely black eye, as a result of passing out against the bath tub, but other than that, all ok here. And, most importantly, all ok with bubs.

I did text the ex to let him know i was up the hospital, but i needn't have bothered. He hadn't come home from work, so hadn't noticed me not there - and he didn't believe me when i said i was at the hospital. He told me to send him a picture to prove it! Needless to say, i didn't. Twat.

So, now i just have to work out my next step. Ex and i live together - neither of us are what you would consider financially well off. I couldn't afford to take on the tenancy of this flat myself, so i'm planning to take myself off down to Citizens Advice to see what my options are.
I do work full-time. I've just stopped for 2 weeks of annual leave, and then straight onto maternity leave (mat pay is just the statutory one), so i need to try to figure out how i'm going to juggle things.
I don't have a support network down here, as such. My family live over 400 miles away (and not particularly the types i could depend on - although they're nice enough :)) and i don't have very many friends.

Anyway, i'll stop here before i start to feel even more sorry for myself!
Thanks again for the support.
:)

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jasmine51 · 09/02/2011 09:18

Basket I'm sending you hugs too, you are really going through it at the moment arent you? Mind you, you sound strong and are obviously going to make a fab mum.
You say you are 'down here' - do you want to say where? There might be MNers near you who can advise on good places to go to meet other mums, or for support. x

nitnatnaboo · 09/02/2011 15:57

Basket just read this. Can't believe your ex's behaviour. So sorry you are having to cope with this now of all times. Glad scan went well. Sending more hugs ((())).

Bumping in case anyone else can think of other good sources of advice re housing.

OompaLumpa · 09/02/2011 22:09

basket really sorry to hear you are having a tough time with your ex, you could really do without the stress right now.
Not sure you have managed to get a CAB appointment yet? They really are one of the best and can approach the council with you or on your behalf if necessary.
Tenacy wise i think you are both legally liable for the rent, so if one of you moves out or fails to pay their half, the other party is equally liable to find both halves of the rent. This is the standard position anyway.
May be worth speaking to the council to see what housing allowance (if any) you might be entitled to. Most councils have a graduated rental payment they will make for a house, depending on the size. I'm thinking it's writhe exploring because if, say, the council will pay up to x amount per month, you could then approach landlord to see if he or she would accept that as rent and you could stay on with DC and tell the wanker to eff off.
Hth but shout if you have any questions.
Sending you big hugs xxx

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