p***ed off with partners?

[jillamona]

Is anyone else getting really hacked off with their dp/dh? my dp is normally great, and i suppose a bit of it is the thing that he can still go out and have a good time while i'm stuck for 9 months. i feel bad moaning, am delighted to be pg, but i think its fair enough to expect a little more than average tlc and consideration from our partners when we're carrying their offspring! what do you think, have you been getting narky with your baby daddies over silly stuff?

I've been getting narky with everyone I've been bloody awful in this pregnancy, I'm on a really short fuse all the time. You can still have a good time when you're pregnant, especially if this is your first one and you don't have other DCs to look after.

Men haven't got a clue what you are going through and that at times you do want them to be overprotective and do everything your heart desires. After all it is his child. But no, they think this is what you wanted and it can't be that difficult since so many women do it over and over again. Let's face it not many men have compassion, they aren't programmed to be this way. Wait until the baby arrives, this is the time when you really need to tell them how to help you coz otherwise they will be sat on their butt telling you how they need their sleep!

caramel is right, Im lucky my DH is very supportive but that doesnt stop me from getting really annoyed by him and somethings he does. The bit that really annoys me is that he thinks alot of my symptoms are all in my head.

But I do tell him alot how I am feeling, i think you have to, to help them understand.
Bless him he has been doing all the cleaning, washing up and cooking. He is a sweetie.

My DP is lovely - really supportive and kind and sensible. BUT - I am really sick of having to make all the decisions and think of every practicality! eg, Baby is due in July and we need to move out of our tiny flat. DP think it's too early to start looking - I had to point out that it won't be too long before trudging around the streets of north London becomes too difficult for me. "Oh yeah..." he says.

I've been doing lots of reading etc, and haven't pushed him to. However, yesterday he told me that he had actually done some 'research' - and was very excited to discover that apparently you can send a crying newborn to sleep with the sound of a hairdryer. Quite a quirky and fun fact, yes, but come on!!

He's a lovely guy but so laid back that he's quite content to just potter through life - poor guy is in for a shock when he discovers looking after babies involves more than just turning a hairdryer on every now and again.

Let me start by saying my husband is wonderful, as far as men are concerned. I am a SAHM and he always thanks me for the work I do at home. He is very helpful now that I am pregnant, especially with our 18 month old daughter. That being said, when I am pregnant the poor man can't breathe right! Everything he does drives me crazy. The worst was when I had a sinus infection and was sick and tired from being 7 weeks preg. He asked me if I wanted to have sex!! I gave him a look that sent chills down his spine, all he could say was "nevermind." Even the most sensitive of men just won't get what it is like all of the time.

Oh, I'm so glad I'm not the only one to be getting narky with DP!!
Got woken up this morning about 5-45 with him kissing my neck and very 'up' for some rumpy, I hardly responded and just let him get on with it! Love him to bits and he is sooo good with helping, but it was my 2nd night of not sleeping very well- 16wks pg and worries are keeping me up- I CANT BE BOTHERED!!!!!

It doesn't help that im really tired at night too.

Lulu I have exactly the same kind as you. Lovely, kind, fun but laid back to the point of being horizontal. We did move (2 weeks ago) but only because I nagged incessantly about finding a house to live in. We have a cot because I scoured the internet for days choosing one, and have been to NCT classes because I researched and booked them. He is very happy to go along with what I do and more than content to spend his life pottering along. Poor bloke seems to think that having this baby will be like getting a kitten!

Katie - it's so horrible having to nag these men! I hate the sound of my own voice when I do it but what's the alternative!?

Same here with the NCT classes - he is happy to come along but really has no idea. I am dreading the part where we get to watch a video of a birth ... think I'm going to have to take a hip flask along.

Yep, mine is also of the horizontal variety which I usually love but it's starting to bug me now that my due date is getting closer and we still don't have everything done/bought. Not that we need everything right now, but I want it all now and he should be more accommodating to that fact. Also, we're getting married in December and so far have booked the venue and registrar, apparently we don't need to do the rest until "about 3 months before".

i hear all of what you are saying! my partner is so lovely really, but he is so chilled out and i have to make all the decisions and when i get stressed about things he tells me to chill out which of course makes it worse. i know we can't expect them to know how it feels it be pg, but at times i'd just love him to take over a bit instead of me having to think of everything. but i know i am lucky most of the time, he is great. he is in for a huge shock tho, he had never been around a baby before, but i'm sure he'll be a great dad once the shock wears off!

I made the mistake of flicking through the channels when first pg and finding a programme called 'i didnt know i was pregnant' BIG MISTAKE!! I had morning sickness for the first 13 weeks and felt awful all the time and all my OH could say was 'some people dont even know theyre pg until they give birth in the loo so you cant be that ill' its a good job i was feeling rough or id have socked him one!!! (i love him really)

Im almost 20 weeks now and we dont talk about the pregnancy at all, we're both scared to death and as i have no bump or anything yet its a bit like the calm before the storm and im enjoying being painfree, nausea free and full of energy!

My DH was like this with our first, he annoyed me so so much, even the sound of him eating would drive me mad! When i was in labour (not going to say how long for as gather some are pregnant first time round!) but needless to say i was tired and rough. I was leaning over the banister and he said 'i could really do without this right now' - he had a cold. i think the whole street heard my response!

This time round he seems to be doing better, although its early days and i'm not as narky yet!

I have been on a short fuse too since being pg. (Nearly started a fight with a woman in WH Smith when Xmas shopping because she walked into me and then she tutted!)

DH has been on the receiving end a few times when I have really lost it!

The problem is that whilst he is supportive he does tend to be a bit of a hypochondriac generally. If I say I have a cold, he always has one too for example.

I was quite gobsmacked though when a couple of weeks ago he reckoned that when I'd had my few weeks of morning sickness he had also felt sick for the same amount of time! He says this is sympathy pains....

God help us when I am in labour he might be asking for the epidural for himself!!

Ha ha, my husband has been suffering sympathy pains as well - nausea and light headedness apparently, poor lamb.

I've given up, we don't have much stuff for the baby and I'm 35 weeks. We have builders in at the moment so been holding off buying stuff but now I just say to my DH "You'll have to get it all organised for when i get back from the hospital" - strangely enough he's suggesting we go to Mammas and pappas this weekend...........it's a damn stressful strategy though, I freak out about not being prepared but i've hid it pretty well. I keep telling him the story about the couple, broke my heart actually, who couldn't afford a cot or moses basket so padded out a draw.....I said that it will be fine, we could always do that.

I'm lucky so far. Except sometimes when it's his turn to make tea he messes about for hours before making it. Like tonight, coincidentally! It's 9.50pm! I haven't said anything because hunger makes me passive-aggressive. I know it's silly!

My DP was great when I was pregnant and turned into a feckin lazy pain in the arse when DD was born.
He's improved a bit of late. DD is nearly 4.

Mine is brilliant, he does a lot anyway and has taken over a lot of things, such as ironing and school runs, but I am getting panicky now as we still aren't ready. I know I have over 8 weeks to go possibly, but we need drawers before I go into hozzie so I can put her clothes away, before we set anything up the ceiling needs cleaning as its mouldy (old tenants lime washed it so it holds condensation). he was going to paint it but was leaving it until as late as possible cos of better drying weather, so I suggested we just clean it for now, that couldn't be done until he does the blinds in the hall as they were the things he has been dreading (had them 5 years) and we desperately need shelves in every room as all the kids dvds and DD toys are in our room then he wonders why I keep having to throw my books out and have stopped buying him teddy bears :(. he is brilliant at doing DIY but cos everything has to be 200% perfect it takes longer and I just want it done then I won't stress. I can't nag or that causes more stress and I just want to set up her moses basket and put her clothes away and they are all in my drawers which means my stuff is crammed into wherever has a space which is nowhere :(

dribble when I was induced withDD, we were walking round and round the hops and grounds and DH got stung by a wasp.

Did he stop going on about it? No. Even though I reminded him several times that labouring was highly likely to be more painful. What a baby.

(In his defence he is lovely in every other way. Am currently 13 weeks with DC2 and he is doing everything for us, DD and the house just so I can sleep all the time.)

hops? hosp!

thank god i found this thread. i actually feel like i hate him some of the time. his constant singing to himself (no matter HOW many times i tell him i have a constant splitting headache), and EVERYTHING else he does. this morning he woke me up at the crack of dawn (luckily not for sex like some of you; he knows better than that LOL), because in order to get out of work at a reasonable time (for the romantic treat known as valentines day LOL again), he had to get to work at an unreasonable time, so grumpy preggars here is even more tired and grumpy than normal.

it is also hard to believe that he had to go through the routine of emptying his pockets and counting his change on a wooden surface at this ungodly hour; but alas he did. if it was anyone else i would think they were being malicious, but when you are used to living with a man with the grace (and dare i say intellect?!) of a large black bear, you know its just how things roll.....

PS will the baby REALLY get half of his genes?!

Update on our house hunt situation:

DP is suggesting we move into a larger one bedroom flat, and just use one of the rooms as a joint living room/baby's room. He doesn't see what the problem will be - he can entertain his mates or listen to his music at one end, and the baby can sleep peacefully at the other.

You've got to admire his optimism though!