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MW referred to "him" today, but we don't know what we're having...

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LittleMilla · 02/02/2011 21:49

We don't know what we're having, but I have a strong feeling it's a boy. Also had many comments due to how I am carrying (which I know is b*llocks), but yes.

Secretly, would probably like it to be a boy too.

At 28 week MW appt today and when she was feeling around she said "oh yes, his head is down and I can feel his bottom...blah blah blah". I kept quiet and didn't say that we don't know what we're having.

I am really trying not to get too hung up on having a boy, but it's hard. Can anyone share experiences - will the MW know from my records/notes or is this purely coincidence??

Thanks. And I hope you don't all think I am utterly neurotic!

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traceybath · 02/02/2011 21:52

Purely coincidence unless you've had any additional tests that would reveal the sex such as amnioscentesis.

WidowWadman · 02/02/2011 21:53

I'd say coincidence, don't worry about it. If you haven't asked for the sex, they won't even have looked for it. And if the sonographer spotted it, they wouldn't record it, why should they?

rasta · 02/02/2011 21:54

More than likely a coincidence. It's highly unlikely that the gender would have been noted on your pregnancy notes unless there was a medical reason to do so, which there isn't.

FluteyBoots · 02/02/2011 21:54

My midwife told me she called all babies "him" cos she didn't like calling them "it".

So I wouldn't read anything into it!

babylann · 02/02/2011 21:54

I think if, when you go for the scan, they ask whether you want to know the sex you say no, they won't record it anywhere or even check, assuming it's not obvious. I know with DD they had to dig around for a little while to see whether there was a "little space rocket" - the US guy's words, not mine!

lilly13 · 03/02/2011 08:26

in many languages the word "baby" is masculine. if English is 2nd language for your midwife, it might be the case that in her own language baby is associate with "him". English is my second language and I used to refer to our child as him before i knew the gender...

VivaLeBeaver · 03/02/2011 08:28

I'm a midwife and the only way I'd ever know a baby's gender before birth is if the parents told me. Even if you've had an amnio the results would be in your hospital ntoes and I doubt the community m/w would have seen the full report where the gender is stated. At our hospital amnio reports are filed in a sealed envelope and if parents don't know the gender the envelope is marked accordingly so noone slips up and tells them.

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LittleMilla · 03/02/2011 09:14

Thanks all for your replies. Only another 12 weeks until I find out what I am ACTUALLY having!

Until then, I will just have to keep on guessing...!

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Iklboo · 03/02/2011 09:16

MW called my bump 'her' and 'she' at my appointments. I had a strong feeling I was having a boy. I was right.

mousymouse · 03/02/2011 09:20

coincidence, even though with ds everyone said its a boy, even a gypsi in paris...
with dd it was the same but out came a girl. I didn't know before birth in both cases.

PfftTheMagicDragon · 03/02/2011 09:30

I would imagine it gets tiring saying "the baby" all the time, and quite miserable saying "it"

VivaLeBeaver · 03/02/2011 09:53

I tend to say "baby" all the time. How's baby moving, etc? I don't like saying it and half the time I can never rememeber if they've told me whether its a boy or a girl.

emoo777 · 03/02/2011 09:56

Honestly when you hold that lovely baby in your arms it won't matter whether you have a boy or girl!

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LittleMilla · 03/02/2011 12:29

emoo77 - I know that I really won't give a damn either way when he/she arrives. I am just finding it hard to remain neutral on thoughts, if that makes sense. I have such a strong bond with baby already that it's nigh on impossible not to start imagining if it's a boy/girl.

I just need to try and tone down my boy thoughts so that I don't have a coronary from the shock of having a girl!!

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Adair · 03/02/2011 12:37

I know what you mean. I was convinced I was having another girl (have a girl and boy already), lots of 'signs' etc... that we were stunned when scan showed it was a boy. Though then it seemed all the 'signs' showed a boy . As you say, took about half an hour to sink in then we were delighted (and e is asleep on my chest and just lovely at 10 days).

EarthMotherImNot · 03/02/2011 12:52

This reminds me of when I was pregnant with our second baby. I was hoping for a boy as our first had been a girl.

Anyway I went for a check up with our GP who felt my stomach and asked what I was hoping for.

I replied I'd love a boy as we had a girl, while palpating my stomach he replied

"well you've a fifty fifty chance haven't you"

Shocked and amazed I replied "you can tell that from feeling my stomach"

Talk about hearing what you want to hear.
The hoots that followed me as I left the consulting room will live with me always.

Ps I went on to have a healthy baby boy

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