The Wait

[daimbardiva]

Just need a bit of a moan!!! I'm 5+4 - have a 20 month old ds and miscarried at 6 weeks in November. I'm just finding these early stages so different this time around - the wait till the scan (and I'm not even talking 12 weeks here, I get a 7 week one 'cos of the mc) agonising. With my ds it was all so exciting, and even the fact I couldnt' tell anyone was exciting 'cos it felt like "our little secret" but I feel I can't get excited at the moment in case it goes wrong, and that just makes me anxious...

Time just seems to be dragging sooooo slowly.

Sorry - a bit of a pointless post. I know I should just be delighted that I've been able to conceive again so quickly, but I just want to know it's OK and also to relax and "be" pregnant...

Oh, and also there are threats of redundancy at work, and I was planning telling my boss early (I did last time) as we are a small company and I feel I owe it to him, but now I'm just not sure whether to tell him now or wait till 12 weeks...

Im in the same boat - mmc in December, 5+4 now, and have to wait till the 12 week scan, they wont give me an early one. Think I am going to book a private one at eight weeks so I dont drive myself insane.

I've told my boss, I dont want to be too stressed and would like to leave on time etc and he was very understanding. They can not make you redundant for being pg!

Fingers crossed for you all goes well x

I know excatly how you feel. I had my second m/c aug last year and i am now 19 wks pg. I also got a scan at 7 wks, 9 wks and eleven, and let me tell you at each one i was a nervous wreck thinking that i lost the baby. I am not letting my self get excited until i see my baby in my 21 wk scan, but after that i am going to get excited and get stuck in to some serious baby shopping. Hope everything works out for you. Take care x

I can really sympathise with you. I've had an ectopic pg previously at 6 weeks and I'm now 6+2. Because of my previous history, I've been for early scans. First one, they couldn't see anything. A week later, they saw the sac, but nothing else. I have to go back again on Monday, and hopefully they will see a heartbeat beating good and strong. The wait is awful!

I thought I'd be totally ecstatic that the pg is in the right place (this is my first and very much wanted and planned), but I think what's happened before has just completely given me a different perspective on it. Although the pg has has as much chance as any to be viable, I do think the worst. Not logical, just how I feel.

Anyway, I guess what I want to say is that your feelings and worries are probs totally natural.

Thanks ladies, it is very good to know that I am not alone/crazy.

I really feel for those of you who are going through this with their first pregnancy, must be even more nerve-wracking.

I think I will tell my boss on Monday, tbh I'm more worried about what it might do to his stress levels than mine!!!

Definitely not alone daimbardiva.

Crap weather and rubbish time of year doesn't help. I'm so looking forward to spring when I can share the good news (touch lots of wood) and, well, it's just warmer and better!

Good luck - hope all goes well for you xxx

I can only empathise Daim. I am 8+6 today, first baby via IVF. I had a ectopic scare at 4 weeks and a bleed at 5. All find. Scan at 7 weeks showing good growth and heart beat.

I have a scan tomorrow (9 Weeks) and for the past 8 or 9 days I have been awfully anxious. Thanks to Google I am now terrified of missed miscarriage. I have had some random pain (possibly a mild UTI?) but no bleeding.

I just want to see it's HB again. I hope after this I can relax a bit more.

All my hugs and support!

Congrats, Vallinnapod, I really hope it goes OK for you. Must have been so great for you to see the heart beat!! I'm booked in for an early scan at 7 weeks, but that's not till the 15th - seems like a lifetime away!!

I am also anxious 'cos I'm starting to show - seems awful early. Good or bad sign?! Probably neither! At least i have a midwife appt tomorrow so can ask her.

I am also in the same boat!

I am now 6+1 today and miscarried last March at week 7. I feel totally different this time physically (no real symptoms last time) which is reassuring but I am still running to the loo every hour to check for a bleed! I will be declared insane by week 12 I am sure!
Trying not to worry and stress is so hard!!!
Going to talk to my midwife tomorrow but mostly just want to time to pass!

Thinking of you all in the same situation!

All was good today at my scan. MiniPod measuring as it should. Saw and heard heart beat. The clot that had been present previously has now been reabsorbed.

It is such a relief (although I am aware this will only be temporary ) Only 2 weeks 6 days until my 12 week scan

Not sure if this is any good yet as it only arrived today but I have bought this More acceptble than Prozac in pregnancy I understand

Great news about Minipod! :)

I have my midwife appt tomorrow too, silver26, and I've also been feeling much more "symptomy" this time round (v similar to how i felt when pregnant with my ds in fact) so I'm hoping that's a good omen.

Just willing next week to pass thouhg, as that's when I mc'd last time, and can't wait until that scan...

Hi ladies, just wanted to let you know there's a few of us in a similar situation at the anxious early stages here

I feel like I'm showing too, but I think it's just bloating

vallinna that CD sounds like exactly what I need. Sadly they're out of stock at the mo :(

Thanks Pinkfondant - will pop over! I had my mw appt yesterday and she said I was probably just bloated rather than showing. Great, now i feel even more yuk and unattractive than i did already!!! :)

She also shocked me a bit when I arrived by saying "are you sure you want to do all this?" i.e. forms, bloods etc. I mean why would I have turned up if I didn't? And I'm sure she was trying to be nice, but it made me think she expects me to mc again!!! :(

pinkfondantfancy I've felt like I'm showing since 5 weeks. I only have one bra that fits too. DH thinks it's hilarious.

This is my 2nd pg and last pg was straight forward until 32 week scare (all fine though). This one is sooooo different. I'm 7 ish weeks and have had a scan and blood tests due to bleeding and cramping. Have another scan on Monday and am terrified. All feels like it's progressing (sickness has really set in) but last time dates were so out I would have conceived and got bfp on same day, so not very reassuring and no fhb. Just want the weekend to be over and to get through the 1st trimester.

Really want to be able to enjoy pg. Most of the time I'm still talking and planning like everything's okay - really not sure how i'll cope if it's not.

daimbardiva at your mw!!!! I'm never quick enough to think of saying it at the time but I would have loved to have said "Erm, why would I not want to do the forms???"

princess sorry you're having such a scary time-really hope tomorrow brings reassuring news.

Apparently the bloating thing is very common. I'm off to buy some leggings and tops to hide my big bloaty belly today!!!! Shame I can't wear them to work but at least should be more comfy than jeans at the weekend

Scan went well - it's identical twins! Explains a lot - especially why I'm showing at 8 weeks! (definitely not just bloating!

Twins!!!! Blimey, congrats princess

I've been having terrible cramp in my right leg (have been moaning about it on another thread) - in a funny sort of a way I'm pleased though, I'll take any symptom I can get as it lets me know things are happening!!!

Yep, slightly less excited about feeling so sick now. getting up twice in the night is enough for me. Oh well, at least babies are healthy.

Good luck x

Well, had my early scan yesterday and all fine!! Saw a wee blob with a heart beat. Only one - phew! :)

Feel so much better now, and good to know I'll get another scan in just a few weeks too :)

Hope all is well with you ladies xx

fantastic news daimbardiva. they do like to worry us. the wait until my 12 week scan is really dragging!