Anybody just got pregnant and had no probs?

[Snakeears]

Sorry - having a bad panicking day!

Is there anyone here who just got pregnant with first (or second, third, thirteenth for that matter) and it's just ok - no miscarriage etc.? I'm just worrying that miscarriage is so common I'm assuming that it will happen. Also worrying I'm doing everything wrong and it's all going to be my fault if it doesn't work out (which I'm assuming it won't)

What are the percentages of losing a baby? I know it's common in earlier pregnancy but that's it...

What is sensible for me to do to minimise risk?

Sorry I'm normally fairly positive but having a proper doom and gloom moment! :-(

(Having said all of that I did assume we'd have probs conceiving and I got preggers on first try so maybe I'm more of a pessimist thatn I thought!)

This is my 3RD PG and I have not as of yet had a misscarrage. But I am only about 6 weeks. The risk drops alot after 6 weeks.

I had no problems with two, so consider myself lucky.

I had heard that up to a third of pg end in mc, but not sure how accurate that it, and some are v early so people may not realise they are pg.

The onset of early testing means that many more MCs/chemical pregnancies are reported. In the past women would have a heavy period a little later than normal and never know they were pg.

I think prior to a pregnancy being viable (ie. a heartbeat starting) the risk of MCing is about 25%.

Sadly there is nothing you can do to reduce the risk.

Plenty of people have straightforward pregnancies and births. Early miscarroiage is very common - they say 1 in 3 pregnancies end in pregnancy (is this accurate, though?) - but often it happens before the woman has even tested / knew she was pregnant.

I have had two healthy pregnancies/babies, two early miscarriages.

Try to stay positive if you can. I know it can be a worrying time, but you are likely to be OK and there is really nothing you can do to avoid an early miscarriage.

Firstly congratulations :)

My first and second I had no problems at all with conceiving or the pregnancies. What I did do though, especially first time, was step away from all things tinterweb and stopped watching anything related to pregnancy and birth as I was convincing myself there had to be something wrong and my baby was bound to have xyz wrong, etc. I found if I stepped away from all those things then I relaxed a lot more and actually enjoyed the pregnancies :) Bad things happen, but there is no need to immerse yourself in them as it only serves to make you a paranoid mess! If something happens, you deal with it then and worrying about it before isn't going to make it easier if it does happen (as I learned with my 3rd pregnancy). Eat as well as you can, take your folic acid and relax. If something were to happen it is highly unlikely to be your fault, these things just happen sometimes. The stats say 1 in 4 end in miscarriage which is a high number but it also means 3 in 4 don't, which is a higher one :)

Thank you very much - you're all way more sensible than me - will def stop being so daft. I also think you're completely right knackered - I def need to step away from google and not be a doom merchant.

Thanks everyone - really appreciate your replies and so quick - already made me feel better - how fickle am I?!

Think maybe it's partly because it deosn't seem real as not telling anyone until we're more certain.

Thanks x

yeah with my first I fell pg, and everything was v straightforward and easy. xx

Congratulations on your pregnancy

May I start by saying that you are as crazy as me!! My mum always says I never appreciate anything that comes too easily and I think she has a point. I'm used to struggling and fighting to get what I want so when I fell pregnant within 2 months of ttc (and not trying that hard tbh) I started worrying and researching miscarriage rates. Step away from google!!

Do you really want the figures? I can share them with you and you might be surprised. Officially the figures are 1 in 10 pregnancies fail within the first 12 weeks but your chance of miscarriage is less if you have never miscarried before (apparently) and it is more like 1 in 20. Usually these pregnancies fail due to them not being viable - chemical pregnancies and such so there is nothing you can do to minimise the risk in this time. It is also important to note that the rate reduces the closer you get to the 12 weeks, as a poster above said before a woman usually tests she could have already been pregnant and its passed. After the 12 week mark then miscarriages become a lot less likely but I couldn't find a statistic anywhere.

I'm now 33 weeks + 3 and my pregnancy has been trouble free as far as baby is concerned. I've had my aches and pains as all women do but nothing to really complain about. I'm still waiting for something to go wrong but my OH is confident that it won't.

Please try not to stress - yes, miscarriage is common, but it is more common for everything to be fine. I got pregnant easily with my first and sailed through the pregnancy, got pregnant easily again but miscarried at 6 weeks, unfortunately. I am now pregnant again two months later and it's 6 weeks this week, so I'm anxiously waiting to get through this week as psychologically that'll be a big step for me.

at this stage the best thing you can do is to look after yourself and just try not to worry xxxx

Congratulations!!

I'm not sure about statistics, but a friend gave me a wonderful piece of advice:

With every passing day, the risk of miscarry decreases.

Meaning that you're safer today than you were yesterday. And tomorrow you'll be even safer.

So far, I've had a wonderful, healthy pregnancy and have felt like 'my normal self' the whole way. [TOUCH WOOD]

My theory is to be positive and to let your own body guide you. If you feel fine, chances are the baby also feels fine.

Congratulations and good luck.

Congratulations!

If it makes you feel better, I have had no miscarriages, two babies, both easily conceived, easily carried and reasonably easily delivered. They are now 6 and 4 years old and are healthy and all the rest of it.

I thank my God and my lucky stars every day. I am sure it is not that exceptional but knowing the heartache and troubles that other people have (both from RL and MN) I really do feel lucky. (At the moment, touch wood, who knows what the future will bring, cross fingers, not taking it for granted, don't tempt fate, etc etc.)

And I am an anxious worrier type person. So although you probably should 'try not to worry', if you do worry, that is nothing to worry about, it doesn't mean its causing any harm. (Does that make ANY sense?!)

Congratulations and good luck.

Congrats XX

Enjoy I hope you have a stress free pregnancy
and continue to be lucky.

I ve had lots of bad luck with ttc 4 MCs and mt dd was stillborn in October 10.I accept i m "unlucky" with regards to ttc.In RL all my friends are blessed they get pg easily and if any of them have had problems they have only had 1 MC.So, I accept i m "unlucky" compared to them.I m sick of being unlucky now!!!!

Do you think a bit like this about the rest your life? I'm only asking because the way my mind works, I always try to hope for a good result, but to be prepared for a bad one.

Before I got pregnant for the 1st time, I thought that it was possible that I would have problems conceiving. And each time I have been pregnant, I have tried hard not assumme that everything will be fine until the baby actually arrives. Shows how much intuition I have!

6 years down the line, I have had 2 successful pregnancies (both conceived first time and fairly straightforward births) and I am now 18 weeks with DC3 (conceived first time too!).

I still cannot believe how lucky I have been; every day I count myself extremely blessed.

By all means be informed about what could go wrong, but be aware that things go right more often than not!

Big hugs and good luck with the rest of your pregnancy.

The high miscarriage rate is alarming but most of these occur before women even know they are pregnant. Even after miscarriage, the chances of success next time round are as good as they were the first time. Though some people are unlucky the chances of successful pregnancy are overwhelmingly in your favour.

Just a further comment about conception. I have a very colourful gyneacological history. I have never had a regular cycle due to a pitutary gland cyst so was on drugs to suppress the effect of prolactin in my system. I've had two major surgeries to remove ovarian cysts, the second removed an ovary and tube. Despite this DS1 was born exactly 9 months to the day after I got married (we agreed to start trying when we tied the knot) and DC2 is due today after falling pregnant 1st month (and only 6 weeks) trying following removal of ovary. My point, for those ttc is that despite challanges, people can still get pregnant easily. Our bodies are amazing!!!

ive got pregnant straight away 3x and so far no problems or miscarriage so sometimes it can just be all simple and straight forward. even if the rate is 1/3 it still means 2/3 gonna be fine which is more than half, i would try not to worry too much if you can help it

THanks for starting thei Snakeears and thanks for everyone's reassuring comments!

I got pregnant first month TTC and again, I feel it's too good to be true. Am symptom spotting like crazy and disappointed not to find many! (except the major one of no period )

I just wish I didn't have 7 long weeks before my first scan!

I've been preg 5 times and have 4 children, so not bad going. :)

But I do know a lady who has been preg 5 times and has 5 children. :)

Congrats by the way.