please someone come and snap me out of this miserable slump with a bit of perspective, or some harsh words, or a slap round the chops with a kipper......

[MadreInglese]

I'm fed up and knackered
I'm 5 months pregnant and feel like crap, still throwing up pretty much everything I eat
Too much progesterone (apparently!) is giving me nasty ligament pains so everything between my waist and knees hurts like hell
The hyperemesis and ligament pains mean I can't do the exercise classes/gym which I love
I'm working full time and can't do anything on an evening as the pregnancy narcolepsy sets in around 8pm, but then I can't sleep for more than an hour at a time without waking up with leg pains/cramps and having to move
DP is in a constant sulk because the poor sod is actually having to do some housework and cooking for once
Also dealing with uber-stroppy teenage DD

The only thing that was keeping me going (of course apart from the bouncing baby we'll have at the end of it all) was the lovely relaxing holiday we have booked to leave on Sunday.....to bloody Egypt
So don't even know whether that will happen now

I'm so over-sensitive and pissed off, this is not like me, I'm usually very positive and very busy and active, previous pregnancy was not like this, I actually feel like I could lie down and cry for a week, I just want to hibernate until the baby arrives

Please someone come and tell me I haven't got it hard and snap me out of this! I can't lift this fog by myself.

Well first of all, sit/lie down, and cry. Holding it all in doesn't help, and crying actually does.

Really sympathise with you re ligament pain, throwing up and not sleeping etc. Some people just really get a raw deal with pregnancy, and it can make it worse seeing other people breezing through doing the 'blooming' thing (which by the way I never did).

Secondly, let DP sulk and DD be stroppy, you will have to be a little bit selfish and really just look after yourself and ignore them both if they're not able to see what you're going through and be supportive. You're growing a baby FFS, they're both going to have to just get over themselves.

Is there anything you can do just for yourself? Get comfy somewhere (easier said than donw I know) with a cup of tea and some soothing music or a good book? I know it doesn't sound like much but it can do wonders for your state of mind rather than just struggling on feeling like you have to be a brave soldier all the time.

How supportive are work? Can you reduce your hours or start taking regular days holiday? I assume as you were planning to go to Egypt you have at least got some time off booked? Use it for YOU, to have a rest, put your feet up, drive into the hills to breathe fresh air, snooze whenever you want to, eat chocolate, whatever makes you feel like you can get a bit of a clearer head. If Egypt is a no go, is there anywhere else you can go last minute (presumably with insurance money?), even if just in the UK?

Probably none of this is any help at all, but didn't want to read and run as I understand how you feel. Just try and do whatever you can to give yourself a break, you deserve it.

D

Think we all have a rough ride at some point in our pregnancies! And this one for me is testing me to the limits! I could quite honestly sit down and cry with you! And I'm only 12 weeks into it!this is my third pregnancy and have had hypremisis with every one of them. This one has hit me the hardest as have been bed ridden since Christmas and also have post nasal drip down the back of my neck also producing too much progestrian causing you not to digest your food properly which is not good with hypremises. And just when I started to feel a little bit better, was at the doctors last night and have been told to get back into bed as I have a prolapsed womb! So am now even more horizontal and very frustrated! To top it off, I think. My nubby is having a mid life crisis as he thinks he's going to the winter olypics In a few years and has just been skiing and is buggering off again, which, we can't afford! Have booked a lovely holiday to Disney land Florida for the girls (before we found out we were pregnant) which was supposed to our holiday of a lifetime costing us an arm and a leg! Which now I'm not sure if we would be ale to go due to me (also have developed strep b so chances of another home birth is slim) and my house is a shit hole!!!!
Honey, you are not alone! And cry all you want, I think it actually helps! Big hugs to you, and your very welcome to moan on here as much as you like to get it off your chest, I'll listen x x x x

No no no no no don't be nice to me!!

Perhaps we could have a little blubbing corner with beanbags and tissues....

We are insured for the hols but can't cancel it ourselves while the foreign office/tour operator advice remains neutral for red sea resorts, but if they cancel it then we should get a full refund so will def try and go somewhere else. It might still be ok.

I can't really reduce my hours as it would affect my maternity pay, but taking regular hols is a good idea - I need to find out what holiday I have left to take before I leave.

People keep telling me how well I look and I think that's the problem - I don't look like crap so no-one can tell I feel like crap (and I don't want to be a moaning mona going round telling everyone all the time)

Madre I feel your pain with people saying how well you look. I am sure they are just being nice, but my MIL does this and it drives me up the wall - "oooh I think you've done really well with this pregnancy, you've really handled everything very well and you look really great".....[Delia wails] "BUT I FEEL LIKE SH!T ALL THE TIME"...

I know she's trying to be nice and give me credit for not collapsing in a heap, but it doesn't help when I'm desperate to do just that.

Take some holidays - you will still accrue whilst on mat leave so take some days off. I started taking Wednesdays off and having a break mid-week gave me some head space and time to relax physically as well.

I would say for me the hardest time was between 5 and 7 months, because that's the bit where everybody seems to think you are over the first hard bit, and not yet at the later hard bit, but I didn't feel any better during that time and certainly didn't bloom! After 7 months I felt instantly better as I stopped feeling like I had to put on such an appearance of coping.

Re holiday, you never know, you might still be able to go - it is likely to be very different in the resorts from how it is in the cities.

Look after yourself, the rest can wait.

Dx

Thanks delia

Copper I hope you feel better v soon!

just wanted to send ((hugs)) really. It is a bit of an inbetweeny stage and if you are still feeling crap + increasing baby weight it must be horrible. Hope you get the holiday sorted - as others have said, its happening in Cairo, not all over.

Much, much sympathy. Especially about the "you look so well" comments. I want to lamp them. I feel crap and those comments just make it hard to be honest.

Is there a chance you could talk to your GP? He/she might suggest signing you off for a couple of days for a proper rest.

Hope things get better soon.

Madre, I'm sending you huge hugs!

've booked a holiday to Egypt (Hurghada) too and have decided that unless the plane doesn't take off/someone prevents me from boarding the plane, I am going, regardless of DH (or anyone else). I'm working on the basis that Egyptians love children so I figure as a pg lady I'll count and if someone riots near me they'll probably leave a little space around me....if not I'll just go back to sleep....

DH may of course not be so lucky but that's what life insurance is for...? :)

And, yes, I am joking...well sort of...!