gaaaah, bad week. Support needed...

[Nunners]

I'm feeling totally overwhelmed all of a sudden. I'm 17+2 and although I'm really well, I'm still getting pretty tired. That feels like the least of it though.

my sex life has been pretty much non-existent since I fell pregnant - just no libido, and I've been feeling guilty about neglecting my lovely hubbie.

Our house burned down last year and we are rebuilding it at the moment, so living in crappy temporary accommodation that we hate - should be in early May (baby due mid-July). I can't get excited about any of it as we don't even have walls, let alone being in a position to think about what colours we're going to put on them! We're both worried that we might not love the house any more after such a long and stressful period away from it and under such awful circumstances.

And finally, I discovered yesterday that my brother was sectioned at the weekend. My parents don't, and won't know (LONG story, but basically big communication and control issues particularly from my Mum).

I just feel overwhelmed. I'm still working full time in a senior and pressurised environment with lots of people to manage and support, I'm supporting my brother and his wife, I'm supporting my hubbie who is stuggling to deal with the aftermath of the fire now that the end is in sight (he was there as it burned), and on top of that I am trying to prepare for moving house at 7 months pregnant, AND remain calm, happy and healthy while growing this much longed-for first baby.

Is it me, or do I have too much on my plate? How are the rest of you coping with real life as well as growing new life...?!?!!?

Hi Nunners,
I totally understand how you feel and am sending you big {{hugs}}, I havent been through any of the things you are going through at the moment but I have had a bit of a tough time during my pregnancy too.
Im now 31 weeks, we tried for over 2 1/2 yrs to get our much wanted 2nd DC and was so happy when I finally got pregnant, but since finding out My DP then lost his job, we moved in with my parents to try and help us out, which meant moving away from all my friends and the place Ive lived for years, we then found out we wouldnt get any financial help because we live with close family members so we are actually worse off but cannot afford to move again, a month after moving in my Dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer and died a month later and I am now trying to look after my Mum too. She will have to move in the summer so we have to move with a young baby, we've had many problems with various members of both sides of family and I am currently undergoing CBT to help with general anxiety disorder and OCD. Ive also had SPD with this pg, bad morning sickness and lots of infections and viruses.
It is so difficult to deal with the distressing things life throws at you at the best of time, but when you are responsible for another person you feel like you need to deal with everything better and not get stressed and upset. Obviously all of us would love a total stress free pregnancy but I think very few people manage it. I was told by the midwife to cry if I needed too cos it is worse to bottle it up and not too worry too much about baby because they are so resiliant but aslong as I was eating and drinking enough that would be ok. I am so grateful to have my (big) and very strong boy and admire him for doing so well with all the things we have been through together but I believe it will give us an even stronger bond.
Sorry this is a massive post and seems like im moaning (honestly Im not :))but just wanted to let you know your not alone and Im sure your little bundle of joy will do just fine x

thank you. It sounds as though you've got an enormous amount to cope with as well - sometimes you just get that feeling of 'I'm not sure I can cope with all of this - any chance of getting off the ride for a while...?'!

I've just eaten some cake to take my mind of things - utterly delicious. Bugger it, I think another piece is called for! x

I know exactly what you mean! At times I think someone of a higher order is having a laugh at my expense and like you I would love to get off the ride for a bit, I find hiding under my duvet for a couple of hours helps :). I try to focus on all the good things (although its hard at times) and to remember that no matter what, you DO cope cos you have no choice.

Ohh and Chocolate....lots and lots of chocolate

Congratulations on your pregnancy! You talk of how stressful your life is, but there is so much hope in your post as well.

You have a lovely baby to think of and prepare for, you are building your new house and you seem to have strong relationships with your husband and family, despite all the challenges.

Try to stay positive and think about these good things. Maybe even consider a holiday if possible? Eat well and look after yourself, try to get some 'me' time if you can.

I have nothing very constructive to add, but both of you sound like you've got such a lot on your plate at the moment you seem to be doing amazingly well just getting through the day. I guess just try to remember that you don't have to be perfect or 'on your game' all the time and it's OK to have a good cry sometimes and be pissed off at having to deal with too much. Don't be afraid to take some sick leave if you need it, your GP would probably sign you off (although I work a stressful job, too, and I know that sometimes this makes things more stressful rather than less).

oh my, nunners - sounds like you've been through alot. Can't really add anything useful other than rest as much as you can manage and make sure you put you and baby first - not work. I moved house at about 34 weeks pg (am now 37 weeks) and it was stressful, but, I didn't expect anything from myself. I think I actually found having works done after moving (getting floorboards redone/new shower etc) more stressful than the move itself - hopefully when you do move you'll have everything lovely and shiny and new.