If you are on your second or subsequent pg, do you find near the end, your patience is less with existing DCs?

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I am usually vvv patient with DS but now, at 33 weeks, I find myself getting arghh much quicker than I used to...DS doesn't see this of course as I don't think its fair on him but I am really feeling the difference and just wanted reassurance I am not alone really

Am posting in pg a lot lately...damn hormones and last minute worries

Yup your ability to reason with pontificating small people is mitigated by a pressing need to go and pee NOW. Agonising hip pain or an irrational need to cry. You will not be being as bad as you think you are

Roffle at pontificating small people

That is DS to a tee at times!

am on 2nd pg 35+3 and i've been arghh for at least half of that! the first 15 weeks cos i felt so shit and the last 6 weeks cos of lack of sleep!! God love em they just love us regardless and they won't remember mummy being a grumpy old cow in years to come

By the end?? Currently at 25 weeks and have been a lot less patient all the way through although I try my best.

Yup. You will find yourself being an irritable, snappy old cow far more often from now on. But I just tell myself it's good for 'em.

Just be prepared to say sorry when you need to, explain you are tired and sore, and give them lots of cuddles. I had three in four years and was (am) frequently stroppy but try yo make up for it with lots of cuddles.

Sam, my ds is 7 dd is 1, he DOES remember the hormonal horror that was his mother . But was so lovely with me when I had my "aaaaargh I can parent no more" days. He reckons his sister was worth it . Although he did remark on a day out recently that it was much more enjoyable when he didn't have to escort me to the loo every 20 minutes.

Poor child, I haven't broken potty training and days out to him yet.

I feel my self being a bit more snappy at 31 weeks now with my DS mainly because of lack of sleep! I love my DS and wonder how I will love this other wriggle monster just as much. I cry because I feel like a failiure already then my DS sees it and asks whats up mummy I just say mummy is being silly and not to worry he does bless him. I feel some days like Im going mad and dont want my DS to see me this way. But I hope he forgets it!

So glad I am not the only one - good old Mumsnet

I find my brain has switched off in general these days! Have had people from work texting me and although they meant well, I was grrr as did not want to be reminded of work at all!

Yes, yes a million times yes! I'm not the most patient of mothers at times and I do expect far to much from DD who is three. But three year olds can also be so unreasonable! For instance, she is perfectly able to go to the toilet by herself but is going through a stage of wanting to be babied a bit (not sure whether this is because she realises that she will no longer be the baby of the family...) an she will tantrum and refuse to go until I take her and lift her on to the toilet (she doesn't need me to, she can climb on herself). There is no reasoning with her that I am 36 weeks pg and my hips hurt and it takes me forever to lug my huge self upstairs to the bathroom with her. I am not able to lift her, well I am but I shouldn't have to so I lose my patience and end up shouting a lot more than I usually do!

I've had several weeks now of feeling irrationally grumpy and short tempered particularly with the DC's...now 39 weeks (and counting..why do the days seem to go slower as you get nearer DD?) .
My two are 10 & 11yrs and constantly telling me to "chill out mum"!!!!!! It nearly sends me over the edge!
Thing is I'm normally a very "chilled out" mum so I can't blame them for finding this imposter mother who is constantly snappy a bit tedious.
I've lost count of the apologies for being grumpy, i just hope it settles once this little one arrives! Still, it must be character building for the kids, teaching them tolerance and consideration( or so I like to think!!)

I've got two others, and I've been a grumpy impatient hag all this pregnancy. It has made me be really strong with sleeping routines etc for my todler though as I just couldn't have coped with another demander like my first dd. And it has worked. They muddle through somehow and I know I won't feel like this for much longer. I hope!

Oh yes I have a 5 yo who seems to be reverting to toddler status with her tantrums and a 4 yo. Goodness they know how to press my buttons atm. I quite often walk away and take deeps breaths to calm myself but I feel so edgy at the moment it's really hard. I am blaming hormones and lack of sleep. Poor kids I am usually pretty laid back . The sad thing is DH is the same, he seems to have less tolerance too .

Oh yes, especially in the evenings. DS (almost 4 yrs) who has always been a great sleeper (7-7am) has decided it would be a good time to get out of bed about 50 times a night between 7pm and 9pm. most nights its taking me at least an hour or two to get him to stay put. This is after a nice peaceful bath/cuddle/story routine. I know he senses changes are coming with the baby he talks about his baby brother/sister all the time which is so sweet

i have actually considered a stair gate on his bedroom door but that would cause more issues when he needs the toilet during the night.

He makes up for it by being a wee star during the day. I actually think the fact its winter and he is not getting as much fresh air has something to do with the sleep issues a well.

I am almost 34 weeks.

Yes I am definitely lacking in the patience department recently! DD1&2 are getting shouted at way more than normal and then the guilt sets in and the cuddles and treats are dished out - rubbish parenting

Yup. 38.5wks. DD1 (4) woke at 6.10 this morning and came straight through to where DD2 (2.5) and I were sleeping, woke us both up. They're both exhausted, I am grumpy, tired, hormonal, have a very sore belly button [hmmm] and DH is 300 miles away til Friday evening. It was not a good morning. Took them to soft play with a friend cos DD has a pre-school inset day and they are now having enforced cbeebies rest time

Just at the end?!

I am only 12 weeks and DS is 13 months (so incapable of proper naughtiness yet) and I'm already short tempered and fed up :( Dread to think how it'll be when I'm huge and fed up and DS is just hitting the tantrum stage

Yes I am just the same. Poor child, he's only 2.6 so really got no idea why Mummy is a meanie these days. I'm 32 weeks so still 2 months to go

Today I bribed him to get ready to go out of the house with the promise of cake. It worked, but I'm annoyed with myself for doing it because it is not my usual MO.

Hey Ali, we meet again on a pg thread

I used to bribe DS into his car seat in the morning for nursery - and that was without even being preggers!! Thankfully it was just a phase and its not something I need to do on a daily basis now so the odd bribe for your LO when you are preggers is most definately allowed!

Besides, s'not as if you bribed him with a fruit shoot or Greggs sausage roll...

Wow, guess the pregnancy test was positive? . remember your thread about not being sure... Congrats! Southmead or St Michaels?

Puss you live in Bristol??
I'm in weston and 35 weeks!! Having this one in St.Michaels!

YY, absolutely. DD1 was only 19 months when DD2 was born and she was Getting On My Last Nerve.
In fact, the week before I was due IL's came up to stay (nearby, natch) so that they could take her out as no sleep + preggy aches + whiney toddler does NOT = peaceful house

LovemyDog - oooh had forgotten about that thread!! I had what looked like an evaporation line and wasn't sure if was preggers or not, but a few days later and 5 cheapy internet dip sticks in a row - all came up with with lines and sat here with huge wriggling bump to prove it

I miss the excitement of wee'ing on a stick and waiting for results though!

Sam - yes I am in Bristol have opted for Southmead as that is where I had DS

Puss we do! We seem to be having twin pregnancies, I've a spooky feeling that if we met IRL we would be dopplegangers!!

Ali - be interesting to see how close our little ones arrive to each other! My mum saw the bump yest and predicted I am going to be a couple of weeks early..which I have to say I wouldn't mind very much (as long as a good weight) as have SPD and huge bump! Mums in the playground are giving me the ooooh end of March shocked look when I tell them the due date!