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do you think the colour of changing bag should reflect if your baby is a boy or girl?

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lizandlulu · 30/01/2011 08:55

or simply put, would you use a pink changing bag if oyu had a boy? and vice versa.

i saw the most gorgeous radley changing bag yesterday, in the sale too, down to £59 from £89. but my friend said i shouldnt use a pink changing bag in case i had a boy and she didnt think it was suitable.

i hadnt thought about it till then and just was looking for a bag that i liked, not what reflected on the baby.

even a man in the shop joined in the debate saying it would give a boy a complex

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rubyslippers · 30/01/2011 08:58

How daft on their part

Use whatever you want

flowery · 30/01/2011 09:02

You will be carrying the bag, not your baby.

Cyclebump · 30/01/2011 09:02

That's ridiculous, who's wearing the bag, you or the baby? Radley bags are gorgeous, get it if you want it. You'll be using it for ages!

I went for a teal Pacapod but only because we're only getting one bag and I had agreed to get one that DP wouldn't mind carrying and it's quite utilitarian.

I'm secretly hoping someone will get me a gorgeous girly one as a present. Oh and we know we're having a boy.

onimolap · 30/01/2011 09:06

It's completely up to you.

But it's also completely predictable that people will make those assumptions, and may comment. Can you put up with that with adequate civility?

Also, does your budget run to more than one bag? Or are you sure that pink will go with everything you wear? And that the shade of the bag is not one that may be ruined random wee/poo/milk stains?

Besom · 30/01/2011 09:07

Agree your friend is being daft. You are right - changing bag should be one you're happy a about carrying around like you would any bag.

I suppose the only other thing to think about is your dh/dp needing to take it out. On second thoughts make him take stuff in a poly bag if he isn't happy and you go on and treat yourself.

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lizandlulu · 30/01/2011 09:07

i did have my heart set on one of those pink lining yummy mummy ones, which is partly why i didnt buy this radley one as i couldnt make up my mind in the shop which i liked more, but even the pink lining one is girly, with cupcakes and bows all over it. but my friend says because it has a brown leather trim, that would be more suitable for a bot as its not so obviously girly.

the radley bag was 25 miles away so will have to make a journey back to get it if i decided to and hope its still there.

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Besom · 30/01/2011 09:08

Sorry, made a bit of an assumption there that there is a dh.

saltyseadog · 30/01/2011 09:08

YANBU in thinking that your friend is being daft.

YABU in wanting a Radley - they are hideous

defineme · 30/01/2011 09:08

Good point-get a bag that your dh will carry too. I just had a plain messenger type bag with a waterproof lining-dh carried it more than me and now uses it for work stuff!

KaraStarbuckThrace · 30/01/2011 09:10

I have a pink step stool for DS upstairs (last one in the shop).

It has not traumatised him.

Your friend is being a bit daft, but I think you are also a bit daft spending £59 on a changing bag. Get yourself a rucksack with plenty of of pockets - your back will thank you for it!

But if you really want it go get it!

Tokyotwist · 30/01/2011 09:11

I wouldn't worry about this at all. Even when my dd was dressed head to toe in pink, pple still commented on what a lovely little boy I had . She was bald, but wasn't particularly boyish.

Besides you carry the bag not the baby.

onimolap · 30/01/2011 09:12

A changing bag is one of those things that you don't actually need. But if you do get one, you will curse yourself unless the lining is waterproof (don't know the Radley bag, maybe it is).

Hulababy · 30/01/2011 09:13

I bought a black one that fit fine on my pushchair, and matched the colour of my pushchair. Whether it matched the gender of my baby was irrelevant.

Cyclebump · 30/01/2011 09:14

Oh and people have judged me for getting a very dark purple pram too. 'But purple's not for boys!'

Don't care what people think anymore, my baby, my choice, my accessories.

KaraStarbuckThrace · 30/01/2011 09:17

I dress DS in purple, I think it is a fab colour for boys!

duckmum · 30/01/2011 09:17

Get a bag that makes you feel good!! (Oh and is practical).
I have my girly bag for me and DH is having the free black boots bag . I would be surprised if any boy gets a complex about his mums bag, especially when their biggest priority is sleeping, crying, pooing, and feeding!! I have never listened to men in Radley shop, they always side with DH!!

I think the world has become a scary place if mothers have to co-ordinate with their baby. If so I better dig out the combats and say goodbye to the dresses and change all accessories to blue!!

Cyclebump · 30/01/2011 09:26

I too think purple is good for boys. DP wears it all the time. It just demonstrates that people are weird about these things x

daretodream · 30/01/2011 09:31

You are completely overthinking.

This pregnancy based habit will completely wear off when you have your LO. Then you will only care that the bag has what you need in it - not whose label is on the outside.

You don't need a £100 changing bag, anyway. It's mad that people get so bonkers about designer this and that. Any old bag will do - it's only holding nappies, wipes and nappy bags anyway! Put the money away for when your child is older and really needs it.

sethstarkaddersmackerel · 30/01/2011 09:39

I frequently dress my 16 month old in pink (presents from friends overseas where they are not so weird about the blue/pink thing as people are here) and he is a very sorted and confident baby, entirely happy in his gender identity.

mummytime · 30/01/2011 09:47

BTW my DS when dressed head to toe in blue used to be called "a pretty girl" my DD dressed head to toe in pink was called " a lovely boy". No she didn't look boyish in the slightest.

Don't worry, just go with what you want.

HelenBa · 30/01/2011 09:52

I think it's weird that there's all this pressure for babies to be colourcoded - but having parents also dressed to 'match' baby's gender is just loopy!

PinkElephant73 · 30/01/2011 09:52

This colour coding of baby equipment is ridiculous. Its not just bags, moses baskets, bouncy chairs etc all come in pink or blue. Even if you know what you are having, what happens if you have another dc which isnt the same flavour as the first?

Would you go and buy all new stuff?

Ten years ago when I had ds1 there was none of this nonsense.

Fwiw I have bought an Orla kiely baby bag as I like nice handbags and it looks like a normal bag from the outside, as not covered in teddies and crap.

Dh can use the free plain black bag that came from the boots parenting club.

LadyintheRadiator · 30/01/2011 09:58

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Chynah · 30/01/2011 10:32

I bought myself a lovely large radley handbag that I use all the time and is big enough for all my kids bits. DH has the freeby Boots change bag if he needs to take stuff out.

minko · 30/01/2011 10:33

FFS, this has to be an all-time mumsnet low on the boredom scale!

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