Head's a mess - advice please?

[Daisybell1]

I'm only new to this board and am 7+3 weeks. We heard this week that OH's best friends have lost their baby at about 25 weeks pregnant. We're both devastated for them but I also feel so, so guilty. How can I look them in the eye again if this works out for us then they've been through such tragedy? It just feels so wrong :(
Am I being completely irrational?

No you are not being irrational, but please be upfront and honest with your friends. Tell them beforeother people and try to listen and give them space.

Don't ignore or brush stuff under the carpet as people did this to me and it makes it a whole lot worse.

i am in a similar however worse situation im due 22nd may my sister was due 20th of may with twins sadly one passed away at 18weeks and the other at 23 weeks...it has been an incredibly emotional week for us and im feeling very guilty and worried about the effect the rest of my pg is going to have let alone wen my baby is born, but she has begged me to continue as normal and 2 just be grateful that my baby is ok, so be sypathetic but dnt feel bad, it sadly happens to alot of people u jst dnt kno about it xx

I echo ally - be upfront, be honest and dont fanny around the subject. If you want to ask them questions, do...although take their lead re if they want to talk or not. Dont avoid them but dont act coy about your condition, it doesnt help. Offer an ear or a shoulder if they want one.
I had nothing like the tragedy of your OHs best friends, but after my mcs, the best friends were those that didnt avoid me, were not embarassed to ask me questions and took my lead re when I wanted to talk and when I didnt. Never for one moment did I have a problem with other people who were pg...unless they avoided me in which case I just felt hurt and awkward around them. I might have felt overwhelming sadness at my situation but certainly didnt begrudge them their happiness.

Oh and congrats to you by the way x