Help, dont know how to feel! Any advice?

[ChebbsBoo]

Me and my wonderful partner found out we were expecting our first baby together on 4th November last year. He already has 3 boys from a previous marriage.
I suffered a misscariage at 8 wks and was deverstated.............still am!
One day i am ok and the next i am a wreck. We are trying again but i really dont know how to feel. I want nothing more than to have a baby with him but i am so scared at the thought of loosing another baby. I dont think i could cope!

Anyone been through this?

Im so sorry your feeling like that. You may find a lot of help in this part of the forum

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage

I am so sorry for your loss... It's an awful thing to happen, but it does get better over time... It helps if you can talk to women who've been through similar experiences. I had two close friends who miscarried at the same time as me, and now we are all pregnant again, due in the same month! We'd been trying for a year and lost ours at 11 months (though it was a missed miscarriage, didn't grow past 6 weeks), we were abroad at a wedding when it happened, a day before my birthday. It did take me a long time to get over it, even through the first trimester of this pregnancy I've been terrified of it happening again, I've felt like I couldn't cope with anymore bad news, but luckily so far so good. Am feeling positive, got our 20 wk scan next week!

I'm very sorry for your loss.

I miscarried at 13 weeks on 18th July 2010. I was absolutely devasted and still am angry that it happened to me.

However I'm now 16 weeks pregnant (coincidentally due on 18th July 2011) and slowly starting to realise that it must have happened for a reason. My and my DP didn't want to get excited until after we had got past the stage we had got to last time. However we had a change of heart when we realised it was taking the excitement and joy out of being pregnant.

So after that we sorted of adopted the attitude of let's just enjoy this time now whilst the baby is fine and if something goes wrong, god forbid, we will cross that bridge when we come it.

Don't really know if this helps you at all but just thought I would let you know what happened to me.

Hi hun - god forbid it should happen again but you would cope. I have had 7 early miscarriages betwen 5 and 12 weeks and I lost my id twin daughters at 21+ weeks. I cope with each mc because I dearly want to take a baby home and if we stopped trying then it would all be over. All my miscarriages have been emotionally painful but losing my girls was horrific and it has taken me 2 1/2 years to come to term with what happened to us.

On a positive note I am currently nearly 8 weeks pg again, have seen a heartbeat and am hoping that this time we will get to take this little one home.

Us women are very strong, believe in yourself, give yourself time to grieve your miscarriage and then when you feel ready get going

Hi there

It's nearly a year since my last miscarriage (miscarried on valentine's day ). I am 21 weeks pregnant with another little girl ,already have a DD 4.5, 20 week scan was yesterday and everything is fine.
I was very anxious to begin with and tried not to get too excited. The hospital were great - they scanned me every 2 weeks through the first trimester.
I am finally allowing myself to get excited now - we have even started to decorate the spare room .
I'm sure it will be worth all the worry when she arrives. Try to stay positive.

xxx