How can I cope?

[Confuzzzlleeedd]

Hi,

I am hoping some of you mummys will be able to help me here!

Basically, me and my partner of two and a half years split up in November and I moved out, we have stayed in contact but there is no chance of getting back together.

About ten days ago I started to feel small flutterings, nudges and sort of cramps in my lower tummy area. I have not had any sickness or cravings so I am unsure if the below test results are correct as my symptoms haven't really been there?

Me and my Ex partner used to have sex without a condom all the time although I do have the Implant.

I have taken 2 pregnancy tests one says positive the next was not a propper answer so now I am completley confused and upset.

I don't know how I can tell him if I am or how I am meant to cope with something like this at all.

I was hoping someone may have been in a similar situation, had a similar occurance of a pregnancy wuithout symptoms and how you coped - told the dad?
Thahks for all your help in advance.

I don't have any direct experience of your situation, but pregnancy tests rarely give false positives, so looks like congratulations are in order! No symptoms with my first pregnancy until 8 weeks, and it is not unusual.

I am sure you will find the strength to do whatever you need to do; do you have people you can tell in RL who can help support you at the moment?

I hope someone will be along soon who can give you some more specific help and advice - have you tried the Single Mums threads?

Hi 8rubberduckies...

I have family, but there is a lot going on at the moment I think am just so unsure cos I have had no other symptoms and now theres this weirdness in my tummy and I am scared to tell him.

No I haven't I shall have a look, I'm new to this lol so I hope someone knows something or has experienced something like me.

Thanks :)

I can understand you feeling unsure and scared, my first pregnancy was unplanned, although I was with the Dad it still felt like my world had turned upside down! Just remember that you don't need to feel scared of telling your ex-p right now; you are in control of this situation and you don't have to tell him before you are ready to.

Just get your head around being pregnant first, and by all means, go out and test again, or go to your GP and ask that they test you, if you want more reassurance either way. Even if your family are busy please consider talking to one of them in RL.

try the digital tests, and wee into a glass and do it that way. good luck x

It is very common to have no symptoms so do a couple more tests (the cheap supermarket ones are fine). If they are positive well then obviously there are lots of decisions to be made. If you were still getting on well enough with your ex to be having sex are you sure there's no chance of a reconciliation? Whatever you decide, do talk to someone about it all.

If you are far enough along to be feeling flutters then a test might be unreliable, you might be better to go along to your doctor, one good feel of you stomach should be enough for them to determine at that stage.