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[blush] oral sex in pregnancy

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autumnberry · 28/01/2011 11:46

I am curious to know if any of you are continuing to receive oral sex in pregnancy. I'm sure we are all continuing to give. DP usually loves giving it but has not been down there for ages (prob only twice since post 12 weeks and am 29 weeks now). It has changed a bit down there - different thickness and presumably taste of secretions, swelling etc, so I can appreciate that it's different for him. I miss it though. Still blushing

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JeelyPiece · 28/01/2011 12:04

We have been, erm, indulging and I am 33 weeks now. I always ask him if things are any different down there and he insists they aren't but he could just be sparing my feelings! Can't see his face for my bump so I could be missing his shocked expression. Never mind!

FeralGirlCambs · 28/01/2011 17:40

Getting the compulsory out of the way first... A while ago I had to mention to my DH that it had come to my attention that he had not been down since finding out I'm pg, and then he did, and said there was no difference, admitted he'd somehow expected there to be. No difference in my response either . So far so good, but now he seems to have gone off sex completely and I'm only 13 weeks. So you win some you lose some, I guess. Am hoping some more gentle persuasion (so hard to mention these things in a not too off-puttingly critical way!) might work in that department this w/e.

PipPipPip · 28/01/2011 17:58

Haha, I love this thread!!

pettyprudence · 28/01/2011 19:03

well i've felt to erm... sensitive down there for any playtime and have preferred to get straight down to business that is, until my DH noticed that there is a substantial belly in the way and has gone right off it
He hasn't been cheeky enough to ask for one way favours, and although it might sound mean, if I'm not getting any then I don't see why he should!

RantyMcRantpants · 28/01/2011 19:32

Never had any complaints at all through out all three of my pregnancies and we were 'indulging' ahem 'several' times a week My libido always rockets when I am pregnant

nunnie · 28/01/2011 19:43

Well erm, erm well, well erm, erm well. That is the awkward part out of the way, now for the easy bit.
With my first there was no issues as the shock of me demanding sex all the time was met with a yipppeee and I think it thought it would wear off so did what you are enquring about in the hope to keep me wanting it more. Little did he know the whole I will demand went on full term and was met with fear by the end, think he thought it might drop off after a few months.

With DS he was ready for the demand and had psyched himself up, but the oral took a back seat and was only brought out on special occasions.

He was all for giving but not for taking though, in the start he was all for taking too, but when I started showing he took a dislike to me going down tbh.

nunnie · 28/01/2011 19:44

it? that's rude I meant he

Mahraih · 29/01/2011 12:31

Nope. None whatsoever. Completely my choice, as DP does like doing it. I KNOW things have changed down there. And not in a positive, happy-flowers-in-the-glen way. Also, I've had thrush and am still nervous about what's going on down there, despite it having cleared up.

We're also not having general sex. But I've told him to ask for 'favours' when he feels like it, as am more than happy to do that! He has managed to ask once, with a lot of blushing and apologising. Hee.

JimmyChoo17 · 29/01/2011 12:52

Hang on...what changes?

Am 16 weeks now and to be fair was avoiding anything thing than a quickie due to worrying about losing it due prvious losses..am now up for normal sex life..which hubby would be ok with but now I'm wondering...what changes!??

Feeling little naive now

GretnaGirl · 29/01/2011 18:00

If only I could stay awake long enough after DS has gone to bed... :)

isitreallythattime · 29/01/2011 19:34

Love this thread!

I have had a very difficult time since conceiving. With morning sickness, bad hormones and tierdness, found it incredibly difficult to go anywhere near intimacy (much to dp upset). Now with a big belly not feeling it.
Am I completely abnormal or is there anyone eelse struggling. I have to do something otherwise it'll be 12 months before we 'do it' again!

sam26oscar · 29/01/2011 19:41

isitreallythattime

no you are not on your own!! haven't had sex with DH since got bfp, am 35+2 now!! have given favours but really only for special occasions

just don't feel like it never did want it when pg with DS1 either. will be ages til we do it too!!

LifeOfKate · 29/01/2011 21:21

Just a word of warning to those who like to indulge til the very end... one of my friends is a midwife and once admitted a woman into the labour ward whose waters had broken. On further questioning and lots of embarrassed faces from both the woman and her husband, it turned out that the waters had broken whilst he was in the middle of giving oral sex and he had actually ended up with a mouthful As you were.. :o

sam26oscar · 29/01/2011 21:55

LifeofKate That is hilarious...gross but funny as anything!!! my DH would die if that happened to him!!!

isitreallythattime · 30/01/2011 07:58

sam26 thanks for your note. Feel a little better now. Although DP not over the moon about it. Tried to 'get myself in the mood' last night but ended up falling asleep at 9 so i carried myself off to bed. DP was not happy!

Tokyotwist · 30/01/2011 08:38

Love this thread. I have warned DH that I will not be going 9mths without this time (and that's just for the general bit).

We compromised on waiting till after the 1st trimester which I have secretly been happy with as I haven't felt the urge.

He has received one favour in this time. If I was nicer I'd offer more, but for shame, I'm not .

Perhaps when I'm not so green and tired.

Mahraih · 30/01/2011 13:34

TMI time: after reading this thread, was inspired to 'get in the mood', and DP and I did the naughty thing for the first time in a month!

For once, DP should be grateful to Mumsnet!

isitreallythattime · 30/01/2011 15:01

Sounds like I am not alone after all. Tokyo completely know what you mean about feeling green and tired.
Mahraih Good one, wish I had the energy to get in the mood. DP not happy at moment. Oh well, hes going to have a long 6+ months if he doesnt accept this is going to be a bit of a dry period!

VeryHungryKatypillar · 30/01/2011 17:48

We've found oral sex easier to achieve as my SPD has returned much earlier this time round (am 19 weeks currently) and we have indulged.... And some stawberry lube made things a little more interesting too! I never knew such things existed! If only it made DH's er um [whispers] secretions taste of stawberry it would be amazing!

lowra · 30/01/2011 18:35

Has anyone else found that orgasms feel different? That they are stronger and seem to travel up your bump?

FeralGirlCambs · 31/01/2011 09:25

Yes, Lowra, I think you're right. I read they can feel weird in quite a scary contractish way later on. Anyone know about this?

Btw, I know because after several weeks without any (see earlier post) DH seems to have forgotten he is revolted by pregnant sex, hooray!!

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autumnberry · 31/01/2011 16:09

ladies. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I've been away for the weekend and just caught up with the thread. at LifeofKate's breaking waters story! Perhaps there is some pre-emptive method to DP's actions. I did venture to ask and he muttered something about not liking the thought of the baby's head being too close to the action. He doesn't seem to mind when my head is close to the action. I don't mind doing the action though.

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FluffyDonkey · 31/01/2011 16:14

Slight hijack - I read that it's better not to have sex in the first 3 months. Is this true? Am 5 weeks pregnant (DC1) and DH has already forgotten his tiredness from SWI and wants to resume full speed ahead.

Is it ok?

Saw my Dr this morning and totally forgot to ask

lolajane2009 · 31/01/2011 16:16

only if you are in a risky pregnancy from everything I've read.

pettyprudence · 31/01/2011 20:34

Feral you give me hope that DH will give in and get over his whole being off sex thing - its freaking me out how long it could be until we do it again(Im 31+5)!

I think it was the leaky nipples the last time we did it thats put him off. I would do the embarassed emoticon but i have no shame . I am lacking the confidence to bring it up with him though because I dont want to be rejected again - its hard not to take it personally

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