Lets talk about surrogacy

[sassyminder]

Do you know any surrogate mother or any family with child from surrogate?

What do you think of surrogacy?

Does surrogacy clashs with your religious beliefs?

Are you doing a study or something?

No.

I think women that can carry a baby for 40 weeks then give it to someone else must be very strong. And generous, brave etc. I'm not sure I'd feel comfortable asking someone to be a surrogate for me/us. I think I'd prefer to go down the adoption route.

Don't really have any religious beliefs, so no.

Have you been watching Eastenders? I'm sure I heard something about surrogacy happening on there.

No, I don't know anybody involved personally.

I could never do it, and unfortunately subconsciously judge the women who do as being heartless. Whereas they are more likely to be generous, very very strong, kind women.

It doesn't clash with my religious beliefs, unless done for greed/ monetary gain. I think it is a great act of kindness if done for the right reasons.

no.

it's great if handled properly.

not religious.

i have just read a book that happened to be about surrogacy, so just curious about waht people out there think / what are their experiences...

My friend had 2 babies for her sister after she found out she had cervical cancer.She was in the bbc documentary one life called 3 sisters make a baby. You can google i, but really sorry but don't know how to link

I think surrogacy when it goes well is a wonderful and generous thing to do, so long as the couples are well matched! I know of a few surrogates on various pregnancy forums I belong to and I am in awe of how they can put themselves through the ordeal of pregnancy and then come home empty handed with only a feeling of having done a great turn for somebody as a reward. Sure, money usually changes hands, but it's not about the money really, is it? There are easier ways to earn it for most people, especially when it is limited to "expenses" which I believe it is here in the UK.

When it all goes wrong is when the surrogate decides the couple don't deserve the baby.. regardless of whether the surrogate is right or not it is such a sad situation. Complicated by who the biological parents are as well. Messy.

Not religious.

Do you know any surrogate mother or any family with child from surrogate?

No

What do you think of surrogacy?

I think its great in theory, but like a lot of theories it falls apart when put into practise. A lovely idea but pregnancy is a hard 9 months which I manage to get through only by the thought of holding my little girl some day soon. To do it for a "happy feeling of kindness" - I don't think I could do it and would wonder how anyone else could. I understand some people go through pregnancy and give up their child for adoption but its different because (I would guess at least) they haven't chosen to get pregnant in the first place. To choose to do this to me seems crazy to me - all the heartache and pain when you hand over a child you have nurtured for 9 months. I think it would take an amazing person to do this - which I'm not.

Does surrogacy clashs with your religious beliefs?

Atheist, so no.

I think the only way I could possibly do it would be for a really close family member, eg one of my dds or if I had a sister. I could never imagine giving up a baby and never seeing it again.

I think it's a wonderful thing to do but I could never just do it for a random couple.