Anyone else realised that they are in denial about childbirth?

[JimmyChoo17]

I am a One Born every minute fan...and cry each week...cringe each week...and "ooooooooowweee" each week.

However today....whilst catching up on sky plus...it dawned on me..thats going to be me.

Oh. F**k.

Ok so Im 29 and I know it has to come out the way it went in...but its dawning on me properly now...(Prob as bumpy bean is now appearing)

This is obviously my first child and I do have this idea that it will be really painful but I have quite a good pain threshold but at the same time...I have never shot a melon out of my fanjo...

Anyone else suddenly reach that moment of realisation and let out a little..Eeek!?

Now starting to wonder how I will fair in childbirth.

Am so excited to meet little bubs after so much heartache and losses during my TTC years but at the same time....a wee bit scared!

Totally - and this is my fourth!

I also enjoy OBEM and have the odd dawning of realisation.

I have always carried my children around in this state of denial until the last possible of moment - then I just let myself get on with it. It's all you can do.

Ps - The moment immediately after they arrive cannot be beaten (consequently why I'm on no.4).

JimmyChoo, this is a totally normal and healthy attitude to have, rest assured.

You are normal. Congrats!

I know where you're coming from I'm also in complete denial about the fact that I'm going to actually have to look after a baby, not to mention all the years of childrearing that follow this. When I do start thinking about it my head starts hurting and I need to lie down for a while .

All I can do to make myself feel better is remember that there are over 6 billion people in the world, this could never have happened if it wasn't perfectly within most women's ability to give birth and raise children, surely.

I would also like to add that by the time you get to your due date you wil be so sick of being pregnant you won't care that it's going to hurt.

I feel exactly the same, I'm 34+2 with my first and watching One Born Every Minute hasn't helped at all (but it's so damn addictive).

The realisation of what's coming dawned on me a few weeks ago and ever since i've been worried sick. I'm 26 with an irrational fear of needles and the thought of people poking and proding my shy fanjo is scary stuff.

To get me through the remaining weeks i've just been concentrating on how excited i am to meet mini me and how long i've waited for this to happen (I've had difficulties TTC too).

Fingers crossed we'll both get through it with big smiles on our faces :)

MissTFied - Thats why I dont want to know the sex...as not only do I finally get to meet him/her - the suspense is over and I'll find out!!

Lauzifer - I think the TTC problems stop me from wanting to complain...mainly because i think what it took to get here! Im sure u feel the same

Congrats everyone!

Furry and Bitterandtwisted - Very true!!

I dont have a fear of needles really...but hate those canulars...with a passion and also dont like staying overnight in hospital so in my mind im hoping for a stressfree birth, no canular and a limo home within a couple of hours...la la la - dont wake me up from this dream! Oh and no stretchmarks on my belly...there are enough on my thighs already!

i was terrified with my firt i used to lmost have panic attacks at the thought..

but to be honest i wish i hadnt worried about it, going back to work with a baby was MUCH harder. the labour hurt but there are drugs and to meet your baby makes it worth it. almost like the pain of running a race makes the exhileration of crossing the line worth every second- no pain no gain etc. make sense???

this time i am sooooo excited about going in to labour as i know that i will meet my new girl and life begins! so as a second time mum i have no fear of childbirth, a lot of it is noise, it will hurt but it is a process you go through, and get over!!!

half the fun of the 1st timer is that you dont know what to expect, that makes it scarier but more amazing in a way.. one of the last firsts you will have!

xxx

Hi I'm 22wks with DC3 and still feel like that. No matter how many kids you have think it will be the same but our bodys are amazing and you will be amazed how well you cope and how quickly after it you forget about it and only think back on the nice bits.
Good luck honey. X

Jimmychoo, I am sooo with you on this. Its my first also and whilst I am addicted to OBEM, It scares the hell out of me! Each week, I have to go and calm myself down at the end of it. I was actually looking up hypnobirthing today, I wondered if I could actually hypnotise myself through it!

The thing that worries me is that I keep reading/hearing about no matter how well you plan/prepare, you can't know how it is all going to go. Hmm, have to remember that women do it all the time...its still v scarey though! My partner keeps telling me to stop watching it as it freaks me out so much, but I am addicted!

Everyone tells you that when the time comes, you will just get through it and you won't care about who sees your bits, what you look like etc - and you don't believe them. But honestly, it is completely true. The pain is like nothing else on earth (which isn't to say that it's the worst pain on earth - just that it's very different to anything else you will ever have experienced) but your body finds inner strength you honestly didn't know you had and you get through it. And I would happily have walked down the hospital corridors naked if it would have helped get DS out! I had just found out I was pg when the first series of OBEM was on last year, and I remember sitting watching it with a real sense of unreality (and moments of terror). But actually experiencing it is so, so different to watching it. It was really painful, but I coped with it much better than I thought I would - and that moment when they put DS into my arms...there are times now when I weirdly wish I was still in all that pain, just so I could have that moment all over again. Words can't describe it. Just you wait