Struggling with school run and SPD at 32 weeks - tell me I am not the only one!

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Have SPD and although I am still doing the school run (often driving if the pain is too bad to walk), I am struggling

Baby not due until last week of March and every day am feeling ugh, I cannot do this anymore - although obv I do as not practical for DH to leave work early every day!!

I feel a wuss! Anyone else in same boat??

no your not alone, im the same, somedays i cant even turn to get out of bed and have been known to lay there like crying my eyes out like a wuss but its so painful, and then theres having to crawl to the bathroom. its hard when you have other children aswell isnt it. im only 28 weeks so really dreading the nxt 11-12 weeks

at crawl to the bathroom...really hope you have some physio lined up to help?

Hi signed off at 26 wks spd and severe breathlessness,i have had to drive dd to school every day since.Not too bad cos she is 8 and i could watch her run in.Other activities have been harder,i usually get someone to run her in whilst i park illegally close by and wait,physio and osteopathy not greatly helpfull,breathlessnes meant i sat down a lot and this helped loads.Not too long now for you,i am having cs on Thursday.
Yes turning over in bed is a joke,does anyone turn the air blue like me?

no you're not alone, I'm struggling too at 26 weeks, I can't even drive to School due to the horrendous parking situation, though i do mainly drive for the nursery drop off. i enquired about getting a temporary parking permit but the council were less than helpful!

Glad I am not alone...managed to walk today and thankfully, pain wasn't too bad -trying so hard to stay mobile as I want a VBAC if I can but if I'm totally honest, I just want to stay in my pjs and do fk all! I am knackered

Don't walk if you don't have to. It won't help. You'll be more mobile if you rest.

Am trying to make sure baby doesn't go back to back or breech, hence walking if I can

Feel really fed up

When I had SPD I tried to carry on as normal. It almost killed me. On retrospect I wish I had thrown money at the problem (could you pay someone to do the school run?), begged favours (do you know any other mothers who might be able to help?) or simply told DH that for the next few weeks it was Not Business as usual and he would need to explain that to his boss, just like he would if I were in hospital for example.
I feel for you awfully.
While your natural inclination will be to soldier on, my strong strong advice is to be good to yourself, accept what is happening (esp. as it is only temporary) and try to be creative about ways in which you can help yourself. Otherwise you'll be on your knees when baby comes...

No family nearby...thing is, not due until last week of March...would not be feasible for DH to be doing the school drop off and pick up each day until then...his work wouldn't tolerate it and quite frankly, the stress it would cause him of trying to fit the work in (he can't bring any work home as works in medical field) would be worse than me trying to carry on iyswim? Am trying to hold off DH stepping in until the last weeks

Am not sleeping well and the weather is shite so I guess all that is not helping really

Meant to say I'm seeing an osteopath and its really helping, costs a lot but worth it if you can find someone who will treat pregnant women!

I'm really lucky as DH does the school runs but I had to go pick the kids up yesterday and was in agony when i got home, I couldn't do it twice a day 5 times a week, I'd be sobbing!

I feel for you puss I have had to give up, 32 weeks with twins and SPD. Haven't been able to walk it for a while and was driving until last week but now impossible with bump and so painful getting out the car. DH is now doing the school run in the morning but not so bad as the school has a drive through drop off system. I have a childminder and a friend bringing her home.......can you ask the school if there is a childminder/school taxi service who can help you out or if you can park in the school and have DC brought out to you if possible save you getting out and back in?

My first was back to back so fully understand you wanting to avoid that. With my second, which was when I had spd, I also had a chest infection that meant I always had to sit bolt upright so I could breathe and could only lie on one side to sleep. It was awful but I think it helped enormously with babies position. I'd try and find other ways to help, like putting cushions behind your back to make sure you're sitting very straight rather than leaning back. But please don't walk more than you have to, honestly it will make it worse.

Thanks for all the suggestions

We do have a neighbour that takes his little boy every day to the school but he drives and he's a bit lax on car seat safety - I would worry myself sick he would not put DS in the car seat properly - have seen him put his just over one year old in her car seat and not strap her in for the school run admittedly it is only down the road but still not worth the risk

The after school club that does a pick up from DS's school is really dire and not a place I want DS to be so that option is out. Also, DS is a sensitive little soul and I know he wouldn't like being taken to school by anyone other than us or close family (if they were closer to us to help that is)

Sounds like I'm making a lot of excuses really but am not

Will just have to plod on as long as I can and DH will have to do it both ways nearer the due date I think...although his work is about to get a lot more stressful as his manager is leaving tomorrow and despite knowing about it for months, the senior management twats have only just advertised the position so guess who will be picking up the slack?!!!

puss I also know a bit of what you're going through. I'm nearly 20 weeks with my first and SPD came on about 2 weeks ago. I'm finding it so hard just to get out of bed in the morning (although the longer I stay in bed the worse it is eventually). I can't even imagine what it would be like looking after another little one too.

Hope you find a suitable alternative that helps take the pressure off. Hats off to you for still working too - I'm not sure how much more of work I can take (It's a long drive and driving makes mine worse) and I've got ages to go yet. You're definitely no wuss!!

Same boat here - 32 weeks and in agony.

Made worse by DH being away until this baby arrives so not having any alternative but to suffer.

A couple of tips:

The bump belts do provide a little help

A plastic bag on the seat of your car will look stupid but allow you to "swivel" in more easily.

Yep ill join in!! Im 25 weeks with twins and have SPD which affects one leg badly and sciatica which affects the other leg so im useless. I dont drive either so I gave up the nursery run just before christmas and my mum does it 1 week in 3 and the other 2 weeks OH is home (he works shifts) so got it covered. My problem is 1 - not driving so the walk was essential and 2, we already have 2 year old twins so I was pushing a double buggy with 2 kids in it too and it was making it all worse.

I did have a couple of people offer to do the nursery run for me (hes only 3) but hes a sensitive lil man and I didnt want to upset him further. Roll on when Ive had these 2 and I can get out and about again.

I had SPD the first time around. I had never heard of it so when it started I had not a clue what to do. So I ended up being misarable and not being active, with my daughter in a bad position for labour. But I did do research before my second pregnancy and had already decided that as soon as the twinges started I would do something. I settled on acupuncture (not really sure why!)So at 16 weeks when it started I was prepared. The second pregnancy was much easier, through a combination of the acupuncture, the physio and cycling rather than walking (my pelvis found the movement a lot easier to deal with) I also managed my VBAC though this did lead to problems post natally as I did not adopt a recommended position during labour. Oh well, physio got me mostly back to normal but I am not going to have any more children, having heard about how much it can impact your life.
I guess to summerise:
Explore alternatives to the NHS treatment but use the belt and the physio.
Really avoid walking and stairs as much as possible.
If you are going to do it again, try and get a bit more active before you do (obviously half way through pregnancy with SPD is not the time!)
Good luck everyone!

I had spd and sciatica with 3rd daughter and i begged them to induce me as i had 2 other daughters to walk a mile to school and a mile back but they refused. I dont drive so ended up crying on the way back most days and the kids had a few sickies. I dont know if its anything to do with baby being back to back. My 1st daughter was back to back but i just had problems in labour with back pains. My 2nd daughter was the right way and the pregnancy and labour were fine. My 3rd daughter was back to back i couldnt sit or lie down due to the pains in my pelvis. I think it helped that i done most of the labour standing and just delivered on the bed. Pleased to say that as soon as i had her the pains in my legs and pelvis and clicky noise disappeared.

Seems like SPD is far more common than I actually realised

Titiana I am not actually at work anymore - thank God! Have 3 weeks of holiday and then mat leave kicks in which is just as well as no way I could have done it - not the actual work itself, but the commute and the school run - that was the killer

Am so so tired today, despite resting when came back from dropping DS at school...I've got all the baby stuff ready save for just washing and packing the hospital bag so I guess that is good but that aside, find it hard to do much else!

How is everyone else doing?

Yey other people feel like this! it feels like its ceased up! Im glad Im not being a wuss either! My groin is killing and to add to it an old injury (left disslocated knee cap) keeps twitching and getting sore! Flippin had enough now! Doing the school run feels like a really big deal. Getting in and out of the car is a bit of a task and im only 30 weeks! God knows what it will be like in another 5 weeks let alone 10 I have no family near by and my partner starts work at 7 and fins at 5.30 im wiped out!! I have started self employed this week as Im short of 8 weeks for my maternity allowance otherwise. What a load of crap!

Am so glad I'm not the only one feeling that the school run is like an expedition!! But then I guess x2 a day 5x a week is a lot even when not pg so we should be kind to ourselves...

One of the school mums that I am friendly with, had her baby two weeks ago...she positively tripped into school yesterday and I envived her non waddling walk and ability to walk briskly

Is it bad I want the baby out??! Although obv not early as would be dangerous etc but just want my body back! Did not feel like this with DS but then did not have school run or anyone to look after then!