should I tell family and friends I'm pregnant?

[SAHmummy]

It is early days and I was thinking about waiting till I was at the 3 month mark before I tell them. obviously DP knows but that is it.

My logic behind this is just in case I have an MC but is it better to have family and friend support?

Any opinions welcome....

My own personal rule (and I'm sure it's different for everyone) is that I told people who I would want to turn to for support if I had a miscarriage - so our immediate family and my best friends. I figured if I had a miscarriage I'd be telling them anyway, so no point keeping it secret up front.

I kept it from everyone else until 12 weeks.

I second what ecuse has said.

I would add though that although I told some friends and family before 12 weeks I didn't tell them straight away because being pg was a bit of a surprise and I didn't want to have to talk about it with people before I'd got my head around it, and that was despite really wanting children and being happy about being pregnant. Just do what you feel is right for you.

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I told one or two people but even then not til I was about 8 weeks and just wanted to moan about the morning sickness.

Kept it quiet from everyone else, including parents, until after the 12 week scan.

We told no-one til after the 12 week scan because I was too afraid it was a mistake and there would be nothing there!

Ecuse is spot on.

With my first pg, we told my parents, sister and ILs very early. Sadly the pregnancy was ectopic. A few people made comments afterwards along the lines that we should never have told them so early (as if it were their business!), but they were called as soon as I was admitted to hospital and Mum and MIL with DH and me whilst I waited for the op etc. and have all agreed since that knowing I was pg was a good thing as we had warned them that at six weeks things may well go wrong...

With my current pg we still told them very early, but because of my history I had an internal scan the day I got my BFP (thanks to a fantastic self-referral EPU), so knew I was on safer ground telling them. We still waited until 12 weeks to tell other people.

I always have told people I'd tell if I m/c - having had 3 m/c its easier if people know you were then you can tell them your not rather than having to explain from scratch. xx

As above, we told the people who were close enough that we would want to tell in case of MC anyway, for support etc.

So both sets of parents knew, a couple of close friends, including one work colleague who would have spotted me drinking strange tea, nibbling giner biscuits whilst looking rather green, and going to the loo every 23 minutes! I also told someone I was going away with for a week (fellow Guide leader) at 10 weeks, as I felt that 'someone' I was away with ought to know.

Everyone else was 12 weeks.

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This baby wasn't exactly planned and I am only 21 so I think I might wait till 12 weeks so that I don't upset my parents unnecessarily! Plus they are on holiday in Oz for 3 months so I don't want mum to feel she has to come home early/ruin their holiday.

What ecuse said :)

What ecuse said :)

With dd1 we waited until 8 weeks before telling immediate family. This time I'm far less patient and called parents at 4.5 weeks! My Granny also knows but we are very close. These are people who we'd tell if it all went wrong so makes sense.

I'm bursting to tell my best friend but her dh walked out just over a week ago. He's now home but it seems too early to tell her - she has enough to deal with.

Oh, my hairdresser knows as I went this morning and she said "you're pregnant aren't you... I can tell by your hair!" I was shocked, I'm only 5.4 weeks!