Didn't realise being home alone with baby bump would be so boring and lonely!!!

[lonelyhousewife]

ello mumsnetters!

I'm new so forgive me if the abbreviations are wrong!!!

Basically I am expecting DD in just two months now!!! I have started maternity leave pretty early but I have had such a hard pregnancy and I haven't bought anything yet so though I would just do everything now. Anyway, today has only been my second day home alone and I am soooo bored and lonely!!!!!!!! DH works 10am till 10pm and I am so tired I don't wake up till late and go to bed early!

I have found that being this lonely makes me lazy! I can't be bothered to do anything!

Anyone got any advice to help me through this? Is it pretty common???

I think two months before due date is crazy.

Ah lonely its a difficult transition and I feel your pain. Please dont succumb to hanging around feeling isolated - can you get out and find a new community who can accompany you through the next couple of months and maybe beyond?
Are you/ can you do any local antenatal classes - yoga? aquanatal? Those would break the monotony and get you out.

Please...make the most of the peace and quiet. Take the time to go out and enjoy the things that will be harder once DD is born - spend hours browsing the shelves in the library. Just 'pop' out to the shops. Go and sit in a cafe, have a hot drink and read the newpaper in one sitting!

This sounds daft - but enjoy being bored.

dansmommy I know it is early but I have had two mcs and I blame my stressful job for them so that is why I am super careful with this one!

Yes I go to the classes but they don't take up much of my time! I know it will be stressful when DD arrives but I like certain amounts of stress and I am not used to this! I have never even watched day time telly before this and today I spent all day watching repeats of friends and reading baby books, I can't understand why I am so tired!!!

do you have any friends that aren't at work all day? can you catch up with any of them?

if you're thinking about breastfeeding you could see if there are any breaastfeeding groups in your area you could go to, that way you have some prior knowledge, and also some support once baby arrives

i know it's boring... but do try to just relax and watch crap tv and read books and drink tea as well!

Tryto get ouot. I have a 4 week old and I hated constantly watching day time tv so now I make sure O have stuff arranged for each day, even if it's just a walk. The weather this year really doesn't help but you should try to do some other stuff.

You've found MN - you'll never be bored again

Try to enjoy this time, doing whatever you please whenever you please. You won't get any such time again until you're significantly older!

Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy.

It is a good idea not to do anything!

Soon you will be doing more than it is humanly possible to do in 24 hours. :) Read books, watch whole films on the TV without interuption, go for a coffee and sit in silence while you drink it, read a novel. Just having a whole cup of tea when it is hot was almost impossible for me when I had a newborn. It wasn't until my Mum had the baby overnight when she was over a year that I read an actual proper novel again.

Don't want to scare you - my babies have been particularly bad at sleeping and particularly greedy breastfeeders - but I think that all new Mums feel a bit overwhelmed. So best to get some rest while you can.

And congratulations on your pregnancy. :)

Excellent advice above. Do absolutely nothing. Gets lots of books out the library. Enjoy looking at your floor, I haven't seen mine for years. And there is plenty to do on Mumsnet :)

Essential to get out of the house!

Everyone is right, have a look around and see if there are any groups around - I found it really useful to do some ground work about where groups were held and visit them whilst on maternity leave - it made it much less stressful when I made my first few outings and was juggling with car/pushchair/baby/changing bag.

I also have a great local NCT group which runs a bumps and babes group, and also local coffee mornings. I also found a local breastfeeding group which I went along to with bump where they measured up for nursing bras etc. If possible see if there is anyone on any of your ante-natal groups/classes who would like to meet up for coffee/go baby shopping together.

Compile a list of all the birthday cards that you will need for the next few months and prepare them all - that way you can just drop them in the post box at the right time!

Enjoy the peace - catch up on reading some books and make sure you get out of the house once a day for a walk at least.

Hi, I had a mc last year and I am due to have my first baby in May but now off on annual leave then maternity leave as I had problems early on with this pregnancy and didn't want take any risks. I totally understand why you are off early (not as early as me!).

I am busy doing paperwork and admin I had been putting off, I also go out for a walk each day in every kind of weather and I spend time resarching what I need for the baby's arrival. I also am trying to experiment with different recipes which I haven't ever had time to do before given I have worked full time for 20yrs. Oh and I am doing aquanatal classes.

Try to enjoy the rest that's what I say and make the most of actually having not a lot to do!! xx

I can understand why you're worried, but I know I'd have gone stir crazy. I had no choice but to break up a month beforehand with my latest baby as I was admitted to hospital, and I hated it.

With my first baby I finished work on Friday and had him on the Tuesday! (It was a bank holiday on the Monday )

Anyway, as others are saying, enjoy the peace and quiet while you can.

enjoy the peace and quiet but i do feel your pain. i was much better when i was cracking on with life with a newborn rather than being pregnant and just waiting..

when you are pregnant you cannot do anything!!!

i also suffer from an inability to concentrate on anything when pregnant, i cant watch a film, the thought od reading makes me feel dull.. there are only so many baths and early nights you can have before the excitement goes.

i would try and exercise, try and plan a physical activity every day ie. after lunch go for a walk/yoga/swim.

it will make you feel more positive, happy and also make the birth easier.

my only advice, other than that i (am now 36 and bit weeks pg) feel your boredom. i am due to come off work from friday and am almost dreading it! we havent got much money to spare after christmas/baby things so i cant even go to cinema/coffees etc until feb payday- gross!!!! next week will drag.

get a calendar and book people in, lots of people...

good luck!

xxx